What do I do if my Toddler refuses to go to Daycare?

SOS-mom_2Child separation anxiety is a terrible feeling that can hit any child at any phase of his growing period. Most kids become acclimated to the day-care very easily and enjoy spending their day with other kids. On the other hand, there are many children who find it extremely depressing to stay away from their parents, even after following months of day-care routine.

The act of juggling between career and children has never been so easy. Today, while mommies wish to be there for their little kiddos all the time they also wish to ensure that they are able to provide for their kids as well.

No matter how good caregiver or day-care a mother chooses for her toddler, if he/she exhibits reluctance to come to terms with it, she is sure to develop guilt that makes her question her own parenting style. So, in order to make this a fun place for kids, parents must try to understand what their child needs and how well a day-care can look after him/her in their absence.

Are you one of those parents who face problems while leaving your child at day care?

If your answer is Yes, do not miss to have a quick look at our SOS MOMs’ tips and views regarding the issue. They might prove helpful to comfort your child.

  • Reet Relhan says, “Try to find out how they treat and handle your kid at day care. Chances are there is something/ someone she doesn’t like or is uncomfortable with. Do not let it go unnoticed”.
  • Mala Ray says, “Most of the kids cry when they go to school or day-care in the beginning. But in most of the cases it does not take more than a week or a month’s time for them to get used to it. So, if your child cries even after 1-2 months, you must consider changing her day-care.”
  • “Enrolling your child in a day-care too early is a major reason why he/she might find it difficult to stay away from parents. Regardless of how good the day-care is, it cannot give your baby the affection and care that you, as a parent, can. Moreover, early day-care routine may also develop emotional insecurity in a child. So, consider the option of a day-care for your child only when he is at least 2 years of age”, suggests moms Pooja Chawla and Priyanka Verma.
  • “Communicate with your child as much as possible and try to understand her views about the day-care. Ask her what she likes and dislikes abouther day-care and assure her that you are there to resolve her problems. Many kids complain that they are uncomfortable with other kid’s behaviour. In such a case, talk to the day-care authorities and ensure your child is comfortable spending his day there”, says Chitra Vijayan.
  • “If your child cries too much, try to take a week off and spend a day in day care with her. Then begin with sending her for shorter periods. Ask the day care people to introduce some games which she could participate in, to keep her engaged”, says Athira Somashekar.
  • Give your child some of his favourite toys and make her caregivers aware of the games she likes to play. Ask them to involve your child in activities that she is interested in.
  • Do not forget to call up the day-care authorities after a few minutes of leaving your child there to check if she is still crying. It feels content when caregiver tells that the child cried only for 5-10mins and is playing happily now.

Lastly, do make a BIG deal, when you return to pick up your child. Remember, kids need your love and attention. Give them as much of your time and care as possible. If leaving your child at day-care seems to hamper her positive emotional growth, do not hesitate to take an off from your work and spend some quality time with her.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Reet Relhan, Mala Ray, Pooja Chawla, Priyanka Verma, Chitra Vijayan and many more…

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