What do I do if my Toddler refuses to go to Daycare?

SOS-mom_2Child separation anxiety is a terrible feeling that can hit any child at any phase of his growing period. Most kids become acclimated to the day-care very easily and enjoy spending their day with other kids. On the other hand, there are many children who find it extremely depressing to stay away from their parents, even after following months of day-care routine.

The act of juggling between career and children has never been so easy. Today, while mommies wish to be there for their little kiddos all the time they also wish to ensure that they are able to provide for their kids as well.

No matter how good caregiver or day-care a mother chooses for her toddler, if he/she exhibits reluctance to come to terms with it, she is sure to develop guilt that makes her question her own parenting style. So, in order to make this a fun place for kids, parents must try to understand what their child needs and how well a day-care can look after him/her in their absence.

Are you one of those parents who face problems while leaving your child at day care?

If your answer is Yes, do not miss to have a quick look at our SOS MOMs’ tips and views regarding the issue. They might prove helpful to comfort your child.

  • Reet Relhan says, “Try to find out how they treat and handle your kid at day care. Chances are there is something/ someone she doesn’t like or is uncomfortable with. Do not let it go unnoticed”.
  • Mala Ray says, “Most of the kids cry when they go to school or day-care in the beginning. But in most of the cases it does not take more than a week or a month’s time for them to get used to it. So, if your child cries even after 1-2 months, you must consider changing her day-care.”
  • “Enrolling your child in a day-care too early is a major reason why he/she might find it difficult to stay away from parents. Regardless of how good the day-care is, it cannot give your baby the affection and care that you, as a parent, can. Moreover, early day-care routine may also develop emotional insecurity in a child. So, consider the option of a day-care for your child only when he is at least 2 years of age”, suggests moms Pooja Chawla and Priyanka Verma.
  • “Communicate with your child as much as possible and try to understand her views about the day-care. Ask her what she likes and dislikes abouther day-care and assure her that you are there to resolve her problems. Many kids complain that they are uncomfortable with other kid’s behaviour. In such a case, talk to the day-care authorities and ensure your child is comfortable spending his day there”, says Chitra Vijayan.
  • “If your child cries too much, try to take a week off and spend a day in day care with her. Then begin with sending her for shorter periods. Ask the day care people to introduce some games which she could participate in, to keep her engaged”, says Athira Somashekar.
  • Give your child some of his favourite toys and make her caregivers aware of the games she likes to play. Ask them to involve your child in activities that she is interested in.
  • Do not forget to call up the day-care authorities after a few minutes of leaving your child there to check if she is still crying. It feels content when caregiver tells that the child cried only for 5-10mins and is playing happily now.

Lastly, do make a BIG deal, when you return to pick up your child. Remember, kids need your love and attention. Give them as much of your time and care as possible. If leaving your child at day-care seems to hamper her positive emotional growth, do not hesitate to take an off from your work and spend some quality time with her.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Reet Relhan, Mala Ray, Pooja Chawla, Priyanka Verma, Chitra Vijayan and many more…

Ways to Deal with Toddler Tantrums

Toddler Tantrums You enter a restaurant with an absolute relaxed mind and sit down comfortably with your 2-year-old darling kiddo to enjoy some toothsome nosh-up after a long tiring week.

The waiter hands over a menu and you start to stare at it with utter delight.

You choose your favourites and place an order.

You now sit relaxed! A few minutes pass peacefully. Your child is calm and enjoying. And suddenly the next moment, there is an uncontrollable whimpering; whining and finally, you are persistently asked to leave for home.

The scene changes completely! Everyone is looking at you and your face is burning with embarrassment. You somehow manage to finish you dinner in haste and leave before all this forces you to have your own meltdown.

Aren’t these episodes common with almost all the toddlers?

You would not dare to deny if you are or have been a mother to a finicky toddler (unless you are one of those rare-to-find lucky mommies) ;)

No matter how sweet and adorable Kids are, they sure can create big scenes!

Tantrums and meltdowns are facts of toddler life. So take heart – such behaviour is not a reflection of your parenting skills. It does not mean you are raising a tyrant, rather, it simply means that your toddler knows no other way than throwing tantrums in response to his frustration.

Let us try out these simple tricks to defuse our kiddo’s tantrums:

Divert them

“Give them some small tasks, like – name the animal you can see around you or what all colors you can see in the hall, ask them to put a few things into the bag, etc. Remember, you need to be creative each time, because kids soon get hold of previous ideas”, says Nidhi Vijay.

Involve your child

“Our little toddlers are great attention seekers. For them, they are the centre of the universe. So give them your attention by involving them in everything you do. Chances are they may not understand anything but you can still talk to them about whatever you are doing”, Suggests Prabha Peri.

Walk Away or Ignore

Noopur Choubey Bajpai says, “Most of the time, toddlers resort to tantrums because they think they will get what they want if they behave badly. If you do not pay heed to them and just walk away, they may give up and listen to what you have to say.”

Keep your cool

“Last but not least, understand that your kid is still very young and needs you the most. Whenever there are guests at home, they may feel you are giving more importance to guests as compared to them. So ensure that you give your undivided attention to them even when there are people around. Once they are grown up enough to understand things and with your gentle guidance they will stop throwing tantrums, automatically. Remember, do not shout, yell or spank your children. This will only leave a negative impact on them. However, do not always give into all their unreasonable demands just to comfort them, it may worsen the situation”, says Shabnam Desai.

Just be patient and give them time. They will soon turn into sensible and responsible individuals.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Shabnam Desai, Noopur Choubey Bajpai, Prabha Peri, Keithellakpam Memchoubi, Nidhi Vijay

Special mentions to the father: Yogesh Divekar

How to tell People not to Kiss my baby on Lips?

Kissing baby on lipsAre you also on a look out for ways to stop visitors from kissing your baby on lips?

If your answer is Yes, then you must read this post!

Kissing a baby on lips can be dangerous. How would you feel if you kissed a baby on lips only to find out a few days later that you were sick? Then the baby too falls sick, gets hospitalized or even dies because you passed on your sickness to him. Yes, it happens! Also, kissing on the mouth is a great way to give your children cavities.

Almost all parents face this situation, where they find themselves speechless or unable to understand how to stop visitors from kissing their little ones.  Aren’t there other ways to express love for a baby?

Our SOS Moms have some useful suggestion for parents who face this often. Let us take a look at them:

Inderpreet Kaur says, “Learn to say ‘NO’, because only you know what is best for your child”.

Yashdeep Bhatt suggests, “Keep a sanitizer bottle at your home and give it to every single visitor to use it before they hold your baby in hand. This will make them more conscious. You can also apply some sanitizer on your hands before touching your baby in front of them. While applying, don’t forget to talk about the infections and how sensitive babies are to bacteria and viruses. It may look like some over-protective drama. But this will make them conscious and may help avoid the situation to some extent”.

Claudia Vandana too has a wonderful idea to steer clear of such a situation. She says, “Tell people that the baby is throwing up. Tell a lie that you just kissed your baby and she threw up immediately on you. People would not dare to take a chance of kissing the baby”.

Lastly, the trick that works for most of the mommies is – “ Simply tell your visitors that doctor has advised not to kiss or touch the baby on face owing to some allergy that he/she is prone to”.

This has worked wonders for most of the parents! Give it a try!

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Kritika Kapoor Bhatia, Inderpreet Kaur, Rathi Madan, Shuvra Das Mandal, Shivani Garg, Prabha Victor, Esha Jain Gupta, Shabnam Desai, Shailaja Krishna, Yashdeep Bhatt, Shilpa Khandelwal, Shilpi Saha, Chandana Jakkani , Sapana Wagh, Tina R Kawadia, Manju Janarthanan, Prabha Peri, Joyadrita Ragavendran, Felicita Dsouza, Prabh K Matharoo, Divya Aneja Alawadhi, Pratibha Sharma, Pronami Chakraborty , Robe Samarth Gaonkar and Karishma Jain.

Help! My Son Plays With his Foods and Does not eat it

SOS-mom-without-questionJust like there is no best style of parenting, there is no fixed ‘type’ of kids. Every child is a unique individual and requires different upbringing from other kids. The parenting style that may be best for one child may not work for the other. It is only parents who can understand their child better than anyone else. Sometimes, it appears to be nerve wracking for parents to deal with toddler tantrums which are completely new and more challenging each passing day.

One of the biggest tantrums that toddlers throw is during the meal time. Poor moms can be seen doing all possible things to coax their toddler into eating healthy food. Some can be seen running behind their kids with food plate in hand, some trying to cook up interesting stories each time their toddler sits for a meal, some acting even better than a joker to keep the child distracted in order to feed him enough and some simply pulling their hair in absolute irritation.

Something similar to this is the case with one of our SOS mommies. Her 18-month-old toddler prefers to play with the food rather than eating it. In this process, he does consume a little but the most of it goes into waste. How is she supposed to handle this?

Let us have a look at what our SOS Moms have to suggest.

Shabnam Desai says, “Do not worry, mommy! It is good that your 18-month-old is making attempts to eat food on his own. At this stage, it is necessary that you help your child eat because his hand and mouth coordination still needs to develop completely. Therefore, you must sit with your child and teach him, or show him how to eat properly. Also, do not forget to lay a plastic sheet before making your child eat so that it is easy to clean the mess quickly”.

Riya Bhanji says, “Feed your child often so that the required amount of food goes into his stomach. Rest, let him learn and enjoy at the same time”.

Daddy Anil Mishra suggests, “Play some of your child’s favourite song or rhymes to keep him engaged and then feed him”.

Shruthi Naveen says, “Play with your child and feed him while he is busy playing. It takes a long time but you must be patient while dealing with your fussy eater”.

Mehak Vazrani shares her experience with us and says, “I put a bite in my daughter’s mouth and ask everyone around to clap, this motivates her to eat”.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Shabnam Desai, Ritu Dhingra, Riya Bhanji, Sudheer Kulkarni, Shalu Rana, Shruthi Naveen, Rathi Madan, Mehak Vazirani, Kalpana Perumal and Shraddha Sheth.

Special mentions to daddies – Anil Mishra and Dr. Anand Singh

Parenting a Fearless Child

Fearless childYou certainly remember that moment when you first saw your 2-year-old climb up on a couch, at the corner of your living area, all by her own. Her slender little hands held the couch as firmly as possible, pulling her weight up onto something chest-high, carefully propping her foot in the notch between the base and the top cushion of the couch.  And, there she stood, up on the couch without your support.

Happiness galore!

So, while you are busy archiving ‘every firsts’ of your child, she barely takes anytime to work out her moves and learn new skills, master the old ones and set out to explore new things around.

Sounds exciting, exhilarating and feels proud too; isn’t it?

But, it will not take many days for this exhilaration to disappear in the growing apprehension.

Oh Yes!

Your toddler’s never-ending curiosity will soon make her a lively, bubbly, enthusiastic, and needless to mention, a fearless kiddie. She will be high on energy and will have a penchant for enjoying risk taking. Don’t be shocked if you find her climbing the highest slides, trying to touch the animals in a National park, feeding biscuits to a street dog, chasing cats and other animals fearlessly.

You can attribute this fearless behaviour to the great physical energy your child possesses. Usually, parents of such children have a great difficulty in keeping them safe. These children, generally, do not wait for their parents’ assurance or support before trying out anything new.

The big concern that then arises is – how to keep a fearless child safe?

Is it a good idea to instil fear in your child just to keep him safe?

Definitely, not!

Let us discuss a few ways in which you can make your child cautious without killing her enthusiasm to explore the world around.

  • Teach by giving examples: Play with your child, pretend to fall down and show him that it hurts. Tell him that he needs to be cautious while playing in order to avoid such pain.
  • Teach your child that anything except food should not be kept in mouth.
  • Allow your child to try new things but make sure you are around to prevent any mishap. Do not be worried if he stumbles or falls. Let your child learn from her own experiences.
  • Make your child aware of the potential hazards that may make him vulnerable to serious injuries.

Having a fearless child does not always mean that you have to be anxious. It is a good quality to possess, indeed. A child who is fearless grows up to be an extrovert and becomes more responsible. Moreover, toddlers do not have the understanding of right and wrong. Therefore, it is your responsibility to teach your child what is good or bad for him, and make him aware that a few things can be dangerous and should be steered clear of.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Shabnam Desai, Sangel Brit and Arti Vedpathak

How to Keep Kids Away from Smartphones and Tablets?

Electronic devices and toddlersOwning a tablet  or an ipad has become a trend, and most importantly, a status symbol in the past few years. These gadgets are not only attracting adults or teenagers, but little toddlers too. For many parents, it comes as a challenge to keep their toddlers away from these electronic devices.

Colorful pictures, attractive videos, interesting games and a wide range of other such features have made it an irrestible entertainment toy for kids.  Moreover, nowadays, these devices  come with several apps that are specifically designed for and used by 2-3 years olds.

With such rapid growth in the use and popularity of tablets and smartphones, how easy it is for parents to keep their toddlers or young kids away from them? Isn’t it too much tenchnology at an early age?

Here are a few ways to keep your child away from tablet and smart phones:

  • Limit alone time: Ensure that your child is not alone when you do your household chores. Make him sit in the same area where you are working and give him some toys to play with. Keep talking to your child as you finish your daily household work.
  • Password protection: While the technology brings in attractive features in tablets and smart phones to lure your litte one, it also enables you to keep it password protected. So use the feature and keep it locked.
  • Fill their time: Encourage your child to indulge in indoor and outdoor games. Play role-plays with them. Create new opportunities to keep them engaged – like inviting their friends for play-dates at home, involving them in hand-painting, using waste material at home (like toilet paper roll, newpapers, etc.) to make some creative stuff, etc.
  • Set a good example: If you are always glued to the screens of your tablets and smart phones, expect your child too to learn and exhibit the same behavior. You cannot teach your child to stay away from these devices unless you set a example for them to learn from. So, minimize your mobile usage or use it when your child is not around.

It has been seen that most parents slip such electronic devices  into their kids’ hands to have some downtime without the child tugging to them, or many a times, to get through a meal  in a restaurant without having to face a toddler meltdown. Remember, it is easier to give in to these temper tantrums now but it can get difficult to manage your toddler without a cell phone or a tablet, going forward.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Neha Trikha Agarwal, Aman Tiwari, Remya Houratious, Sangel Brit S and Namrata Sinha

Ways of Dealing with Strangers who try to Touch or Take your Baby

SOS-momIt’s a very well known fact that babies are cute, charming and adorable. No wonder they catch people’s attention, very easily. However, does that mean any stranger can reach out, touch, hold or take a baby from her parents?

The answer is definitely No! There has to be some sort of etiquettes about respecting a baby’s space.

While some mothers may not find it disagreeable and may take pleasure in watching their little angel being touched and adored; others may feel hysterically uncomfortable when a stranger tries to reach out to their little ones.

Here is what a mother can do when a stranger tries to reach out and touch her baby:

  • Speak up: For strangers it may not be a big deal to touch a baby’s hand or feet. But it is you who has to decide what feels right to you and what not. So be firm yet polite and give an excuse to the strangers with a smile that you are concerned about germs, and hence, would prefer them to just look at the baby and not touch her.
  • Move to a different place: When you notice a stranger eyeing your baby or get a hunch that he/she may try to reach out to her, simply walk away with your baby in the other direction.
  • Hang a sign board: If you are carrying your baby in a stroller, hang a sign board that may read – “Hi, please wash your hands before you touch me”.

Having stated some basic measures, let us also have a look into what our SOS MOMs have to suggest:

  • If a stranger tries to take your baby from you, tell him that “the baby is giving signs of peeing and may dirty your clothes, so its better not to take her”, says Yashdeep Bhatt.
  • Shimani Raj says, a baby is just like your diamond necklace that you would never want anybody to touch. Therefore, it is imperative that parents do not get carried away and feel proud when strangers feel attracted towards their baby.
  • Do not hesitate to say “NO” or express your discomfort to a stranger”, says  Prerna Sharma.

Every family has its own way of parenting, and thus, every parent has the right to decide on what is and isn’t suitable for his/her baby. Chances are not everyone will agree with you, but do not think twice while asseting your wishes in order to ensure that your baby is safe and others respect her boundaries.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Rathi Madan, Shimani Raj, Prerna Sharma, Khushbu Saluja, Shama Desai, Aastha, Neha Sharmaa, Jas Saini, Anamika Udainiya, Yuvedha Suresh, Sajeena Husen, Noopur Choubey Bajpai and Vijaya Mathur Saxena.

A special mention to fathers – Yashdeep Bhatt, Dr. Anand Singh, Brijmohan Jagrawal, Sachin Gupta and Amit Kapoor.

My 2-year-old Likes only Yogurt and Milk. How do I Make him eat Solid Food?

Picky EaterAll of us would agree that there cannot be anything more frustating than dealing with a fussy toddler. It comes as an alarm when a 2-year-old refuses to eat soild foods and prefers only milk the entire day.

Moreover, if you are one of those parents who think that they can win the food fight with a young toddler and force him to eat solid food, you are WRONG!

The only thing that the fight leaves you with is a Big Question Mark “?”, asking – “How do I get my child to eat solid food?”

The answer is – RELAX! Steer clear of any power struggle over food!

Yes, you need to keep your cool and understand that nagging and fretting will not coax your toddler into eating solid food. It will only make the problem worse. However, this does not mean you solemnly renounce your duties of feeding your toddler with proper nutrition. The issue demands the shift in  approach you adopt to feed your toddler.

So, while you decide to agree with us and wait this transient phase out, let me put forth some useful tips from our SOS MOMs  to help you sail through this smoothly:

  • “Toddlers develop a perception that drinking milk is the easiest way to satisfy their hunger. They prefer a bottle of milk over eating solid food. Therefore, it is essential to cut down the milk intake of your child. This will make him feel hungry and eat whatever you offer”, says Richa Nangia.
  • “Allow your toddler to be independent and have some control. Offer finger foods than spoon feeding your child everytime. Letting your toddler eat on his own makes him more interested in food offered and gives a sense of satisfaction. This may be messy but it is worth giving a try”, says Priya Vashishtha.
  • At this age, toddlers love to mimic their elders. So, make your child eat at the dinning table with all the family members than feeding him alone. Set a good example of finishing your food so that your toddler follows the same.
  • “Make your toddler’s food look interesting by giving it different shapes. For example, you can make heart shape parathas, animal face dosa, and so on. Buy him new plate and spoon with attractive cartoon shapes”, says Shabnam Desai
  • Neha Trikha Agrawal says, “pay attention to your toddler’s hunger pattern and offer food only when he feels hungry”.
  • “Put on some cartoon videos, ryhmes or songs while feeding your baby. This distracts your toddler’s mind from food and he ends up finish whatever is given to him”, suggests mommies –Asha Jins, Neha Joshi and Pooja Anil Gupta.
  • Shivangi Gupta says, “try to mix the solid food with yogurt/ milk and then feed your toddler. Slowly increase the quantity of solid food and reduce that of yogurt/ milk. This will give your toddler a similar taste that he is used to, and he will not reject the food”.


Being a picky eater or refusing to eat solids is a normal part of toddler development. The more the parents focus on food the more likely the toddler is to refuse to eat. Therefore, it is always best to adopt a casual approach and believe in the fact that this phase is transient. Your toddler is sure to outgrow this, eventually.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Richa Nangia, Priya Vashishtha, Kanishka Tingal Bhatt, Shabnam Desai, Neha Trikha Agarwal, Pooja Anil Gupta, Neha Joshi, Aastha Amit Kapoor, Akhila Garimella, Priya Suresh, Asha Jins, Sakshi Batra, Jas Saini, Noopur Choubey Bajpai, Paridhi Tapan Upadhyay, Sangel Brit S, Silva Sarkar, Shivangi Gupta, Garima Grover, Aman Tiwari, Ramya Comanduri and Shamsheer Khan

Baby Bathing Terror! How do I Allay my Baby’s Fear of Bath?

Baby Bathing TerrorMost newborn babies enjoy when they are given bath. But as they grow up, you will suddenly realize that they have started to develop an aversion to the use of water for bathing. They start looking at it as the most dreadful thing in the world. Moreover, they cry to such an extent that will make you feel that you are one of the worst mommies who is making her poor little toddler go through this trauma of bathing everyday.

But the reality is, the poor mommy is trying out all possible ideas to make her toddler love his bath time. She is asking her fellow mommy friends, digging internet frantically to look for solutions, and probably, also acting like a cartoon to keep her little angel entertained till she is done with bathing her toddler.


What is that making the baby cry inconsolably during bathtime? Why has the baby started to hate his bath time suddenly?

Let us take a sneek peek into what our SOS MOMs are doing to deal with this situation:

Shama Desai says, “Take your toddler in the bathroom with his clothes on. Play with him by splashing water on him and allow him do the same with you. There is no harm getting slightly wet with him for that moment. Play for sometime, then explain him that his clothes are wet and need to be removed. Take soap or shower gel apply on your own hands first, then ecourage him to do the same on his body. You can then wash away the soap by putting water over him, gently. Try this method for some days, it works!”

Nisha Maurya Dhawan explains how you can go about ensuring an enjoyable bathtime for your baby by following a few simple steps. They are:

  1. Make sure your baby is not hungry or sleepy when you take him for bath.
  2. Use water with optimal temperature.
  3. Use bath toys to deviate his attention and keep him occupied.
  4. Blow bubbles while giving him bath.
  5. Make him apply soap on your face before you do the same with him.
  6. Put water/soap on his face at the finishing end of the bath, as babies do not like water/soap entering their eyes/nose/mouth/ears. So, he will not cry during the entire bathtime but only at the end and then you can quickly end it.
  7. Cover him with a towel as soon as the bath is over and keep him tight against your body for sometime. Show him mirror and make happy faces.

Jaspreet Kaur Gandhi says, “Give your baby a gentle massage as you pour water on his body”. This worked with her little angel.

Mommies, Shalini and Sania suggest, “Make your baby’s bath time a fun. Allow him to play with water for sometime before you start giving him bath. Let him splash water and get all wet by himself.

Aishwarya Sandeep says, “Bathe your baby when he is in a good mood. Give him a oil massage everyday before bath. This will give him an inkling that he is being prepared for bath. Talk to him or play with him or sing while massaging. This will make his mood cheerful”.

Jasmeet Kaur suggests, “Avoid pouring water directly over toddler’s head. Wipe his face with wet hands and use your hand-cups to pour water over his little head.”

Sharma A Chavvi shares a tip that worked for her son. She says, “ Arrange some toys like small duck ,frog, colorful fishes, and a small bucket (having cartoon characters printed on it) for him in the bath area. Let him play with these for a while and sing a rhyme or a song for him. Allow him to stand in the bucket for few mins after bath.”

Aastha Amit Kapoor says, “Put your child’s bath tub in his play area. Let your child play with the bath tub and get comfortable sitting in it. Then bring him inside the bathroom for bath.”

It is very common and absolutely normal for babies to develop fear of bath as the grow up into a toddler. This is normal and they overcome it eventually.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Mala Sharma, Gurpreet Kaur, Nishat Inamdar, Afroz Rehman, Shama Saquib Gilani, Afshan Sadique, Angie Alicea, Manpreet Kaur Bajwa, Prabh K Matharoo, Reshma K Lakhmani, Robe Samarth Gaonkar, Crystal Chennupalli, Prerna Sharma, Bandana Bose, Silja Jay Nair, Poonam Singhal, Jasmeet Kaur, Swati Jaiswal , Chitra Adhikari, Kavita Thakur, Sapna Sunny, Richa Nangia, Sudeshna Patnaik, Jyoti Kukreja, Prabha Karthik, Priyanka Saurabh Khanna, Preeyanka Arora Pachnanda, Meeta Bhatia Arora, Aishwarya Sandeep, Sania Azeem, Shalini Soni, Priya Kulkarni, Swagata Mitra, Sunitha Raj, Kusuma Madwaraj, Tithi Parmar, Jaspreet Kaur Gandhi, Nisha Maurya Dhawan, Tesia Poulose, Shama Desai, Farha Khan, Navneet Yadav, Sasmita Patel, Sakshi Abbey Bhatnagar, Noopur Choubey Bajpai, Keerthichandra Bhoorla, Aastha Amit Kapoor, Manjari Nagavalli, Vasanta Iyer, Sharma A Chhavi, Hema Panjabi, Sakshi Batra, Vaishali Bansal Bhati and Anisha Rodrigues E Pinto

How to Handle a Newborn who Wants to be Held all the Time?

Baby wants to be held all the timeYou may be of the view that newborn babies do not understand things around them really well, during their first few months. But, don’t they seem to know how to get most of your attention and love, even in those initial days?

Ohh! We know only you understand it better than anyone else, new mommy!

Your charming little angel is fed well and has had a long nap time too. She is fresh and brimming with energy to have some cheerful play time… So, there you lay her in her craddle and sit back for some Me-time!

What next?

Suddenly, a loud whinning noise hits your ears and… you find your relaxation time disappear even before it actually started.

“You gotta hold me, Mumma!”… is what your sweetheart wants to convey.

And, you end up being sleep deprived mommy who is worn out holding the baby all the time. No wonder you find yourself at your wits end, trying to pacify the whinning baby.

Unfortunately, there is no way around this problem. Some babies simply need to be held all the time to make them feel good and secure. Even the idea of ‘letting them cry it out’, does not seem to reduce this instinctive need they posses.

Therefore, it is always best to look for ways to retain your sanity rather than trying to change the habits of the little ones, overnight. Let us have a sneak peek into how some of the mommies  have dealt with this situation and what suggestions they have to offer:

  • “Swaddling the baby nicely is helpful. Since, the babies are used to being snuggled tight in the womb, swaddling gives them the feeling of a womb which makes them feel safe and secured”, says Richa.
  • “Babies sleep the most during the first 3 months. So try establishing a sleep schedule”, advices Noopur Choubey Bajpai. The trick worked for her!
  • Vandana Anand shares her experience with us and says, “I used to put a pillow over my lap and then keep the baby on that pillow… Gradually,  the baby started associating the touch of the pillow with my presence.
    Whenever the baby fell asleep on my lap… I placed the pillow on bed with the baby on it and arranged some more pillows on the sides for protection.  This allowed me some free time while the baby still enjoyed her mother’s touch. This idea of conditioning baby’s mind worked for both of my babies.”
  • Shivangi Gupta feels that baby handling methods vary from baby to baby. She suggests, “try keeping soft-toys around the baby, while she is awake and active. This distracts the baby and keeps her engaged.”
  • “Bring home a baby rocker. Your baby might love being in it and you can keep it where you are working”, suggets Astha Amit Kapoor.
  • Moms, Priyamvada  and Sapna says, “ while swaddling is the best way, you can also try sleeping bags for babies. Playing soothing music is another way that helps keep your baby engaged and stimulates her audio and visual senses”.
  • “If you find your baby crying inconsolably, you must check if she is suffering from colic. Consult a pediatrician and give her the prescribed medicines”, suggests moms Priyanka, Saipreethi and Silky.

Lastly, you must always remember that a newborn baby is too small and it will take her some time to get adjusted in the completely new environment.  For a baby, a mother’s touch and presence is assuring. So, spend quality time with your baby, sit next to her, play with her, talk to her and let her enjoy the comfort of your presence. Ask help from family members if you are tired but do not miss to  enjoy the phase because it will pass even before you realise. Your baby will outgrow this habit on her own, eventually.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Richa Nangia, Silja Jay Nair, Richa Nangia, Neha Chhabria , Noopur Choubey Bajpai, Vandana Anand, Shivangi Gupta, Aastha Amit Kapoor, Jyoti Singh, Silky Gulati, Sapna Negi, Prarthita Malviya, Priyamvada S. Agnihotri, Shweta Attarwala, Jayita Sen Singha, Anisha Rodrigues E Pinto, Richa Amicable, Kavita Thakur, Ruksana Shaik, Krutika Joshi, Saipreethi Sudhan, Navneet Kaur, Nandita Oberoi Sharma, Latika Sakhuja Srivastava, Nicky Shah Kapadia, Fathima Abi, Upasana Panda, Bhavana Saxena, Priyanka Gupta, Divya Krishnan and  Mita Savaliya.        


How to Tell Kids the Truth About Santa

Christmas SantaCome December and the festive mood sets in! With the arrival of this winter holiday season, people start preparing for the much-awaited Christmas celebration with great enthusiasm. Cakes, chocolates, cookies, wine, gifts and decoration become the common topic of discussion in most of the families.

Amidst all the excitement, children are secretly busy ensuring that they are at their best behaviour so that the red man on the sledge, who comes all the way from God’s land, does not miss to drop a present for them. They make socks for the Christmas night and hang them on the Christmas tree. By doing this, they feel they are reminding Santa that they are the deserving ones for his love and gifts too.

With the festive gusto at its zenith, it is really tough for parents to make their kids, who are now grown up enough, mindful of the fact that Santa isn’t real. They are in search of an explanation that speaks the truth, and at the same time, does not destroy the magic of the season. But what if kids are reluctant to understand and accept the reality? How do parents explain the truth of Santa to their children?

Some mommies, from SOS MOMs, have wonderful suggestions for parents who want their kids to enjoy the magic of the season, yet know the reality.

Vandana Anand says, “Make your child a Santa and let her distribute some gifts to poor children. She will understand the concept and will not be upset. She will experience the joy hidden in the act of sharing, kindness and other good emotions.  Also, take her to a mall on Christmas and carry a packed gift for her. Let the Santa of the mall give her that gift. She will be happy, but she will also understand everything without you having to tell her.”

Rashi Pareek says, “You should let your child continue with the Santa myth. She would eventually grow out of it herself. It’s a boon for parents too, as it enables them to know the mindsets and desires of their little ones. Instead of indulging yourself in revealing Santa’s reality, you can plan a surprise gift for your child. Make her write a letter to Santa, talking about all her desires and worries in it. Help her with her worries and talk to her about her desires. This will make her believe that there is someone who can help her in solving her problems. This will also enable you to comprehend how and what your child thinks about the world around her.”

It is always good to enlighten children about the true essence and reality of Santa. Nothing more than a positive approach is required to introduce your child to this fact. So while you celebrate Christmas this year, help your child develop a matured outlook on Santa and enjoy the festival with greater zeal.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Vandana Anand, Rashi Pareek and Misha Amar Bhattal

My 6-Year–Old is a Slow Learner. Will Being Strict Help?

slow learnerLearning is a process that starts right from the time a child utters his first syllable. It would not be wrong to tag it as a life-long affair that goes on even after he successfully reaches the end of his academic life.

Unfortunately, nowadays, ‘learning’ is seen as a ‘free-size’ or ‘one-size-for-all’ process, that is not tailored to fit an individual’s abilities. This is true especially when we talk about our conventional school systems which put forth a rigid style of learning for children. Moreover, every child is different and so are his abilities. Not every child has the same grasping power, not every child can perform exceptionally as his peers, not every child shows similar interests; while some may enjoy reading books, others may be fascinated by number games or puzzles.

Does that mean one child is smarter than the other?

Definitely Not!

However, you may have come across children who develop skills and achieve various milestones at a comparatively slower pace. Parents to such kids often believe that their child is a ‘slow learner’. Telling this to kids is even worse. Parents carrying such notion may, knowingly or unknowingly, leave a demeaning or degrading impact on their children.

Such children are not slow; they just need some extra help and support from their parents to be successful. They need to be taught that an extra effort, than others, will definitely help them be at par with others, or potentially, do better than them. And all this, with extra care and love.

Parents, usually, tend to punish their child for not learning or grasping well. But, being strict or reinforcements like punishing or scolding the child never helps to tackle the problem. It is only parents’ constant support that can make a difference.

There are many parents who very well understand and work with their kids to make learning easier for them. Let us also have a look at the tips these parents have to offer:

Rajnideep Sandhu, who is a mommy, says – “that such kids are good observant. Being polite with them, understanding and identifying their interest area, and avoiding over-burdening them with studies can help tackle the situation well. They should be encouraged to give their best in studies, but at the same time, parents must also understand that there can be one and only one student who can come first in their child’s class.”

Hema Panjabi says, “Punishing never helps! Parents should try to make ‘learning’ a fun activity. Also, there can be various other reasons which can hamper your child’s learning ability, parents must try to identify them. These reasons can be: uncomfortable sitting, room lighting, difficult method of teaching, incomplete sleep or food intake, too much pressure to learn, etc. Also, every child has his own speed to learn. By generating curiosity and enthusiasm about subject, learning can surely be made easy and fast.

Prerna Sharma, says – “Identify what your child learns faster, like dancing, singing, etc. Based on this you can modify your teaching method.”

To sum it up, it is only parents who can understand their child’s requirements best and can work towards making their lives easier and happy.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Rajnideep Sandhu, Hema Panjabi, Prerna Sharma, Mukti Ranjan

Is ‘Toe Walking’ in Children a Sign of Serious Health Issue?

Toe-walkingOne of the most exhilarating moments associated with baby’s development is his walking milestone. You miss no opportunity to capture all the special moments when he takes his first step forward without any aid. You want to be always by his side because you dread those falls that might bruise his tender knees. Yet, you make all possible efforts to make your child more and more confident as he learns to amble in his own peculiar gait.

In early childhood, most toddlers take to ‘toe walking’ when they begin to explore the world around them on their own. While, some prefer to toe-walk on and off just for fun, others may get habitual to it. Usually, tip-toeing isn’t something to be worried about until the child is two. More than half of the toddlers, who are toe walkers, grow out of this habit on their own, gradually.

However, if your toddler shows consistent signs of toe walking, you must consider consulting a paediatrician. Prolonged toe-walking may be a signal of some serious health issues, which require proper medical attention.

A few signs for which you must consult your doctor are:

  • Frequent walking on toes
  • Lack of coordination and stiff muscles
  • Stumbling and awkward walking style
  • Improper development of fine motor skills
  • Loss of pre-developed motor skills

With all the above mentioned information, let us also have a look at what our SOS MOMs have to say on this issue:

“This is absolutely normal for a 2-year-old. We, in our childhood, have also had such funny habits which did not affect us adversely in any way. All kids are different and so are their habits. It might take your toddler some time to grow out of it but there is nothing to be anxious about,” says Smriti Thukraj

Lavanya Reddy suggests, “Put on socks and shoes on your baby’s feet for a few days. This may help as it is hard to walk on toes with shoes on”.

Moms, Preeti Ashutosh and Mahek Achantani, are experiencing the same issue with their toddlers and suggest, “Most of the time kids do it for fun, and hence, we should allow them to enjoy their childhood in their own way”.

So, all you need to ensure is your bundle of joy is not hurting himself with this new-found tip-toe style and is walking safely.

Enjoy this phase with your child, click pictures, and make as many videos as you can, because someday this phase will simply vanish overnight!

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Smriti Thukraj, Lavanya Reddy, Preeti Ashutosh, Mahek Achantani, Rajnit Kaur, Anu John, Shikha Rohit Chawla, Nidhi Jain, Ridhima Mukerji

How to Deal With Cracked and Sore Nipples

Cracked NipplesOne of the common reasons that make most of the new mothers to discontinue breastfeeding is sore or cracked nipples. This is a common phenomenon among breastfeeding women. Though, breastfeeding is not meant to be painful, cracked nipples may hurt new mothers badly.

There are several causes that can result into cracked nipples, such as:

  • Inappropriate positioning of the baby during feeding
  • Improper latch of the baby onto the breast
  • Improper rinsing of the breast leaving soap residue on the nipples
  • Usage of cream, lotion or perfume that contain skin irritants
  • Improper usage of breast pump
  • Dry air of air conditioner

Feeding your baby with cracked nipples can be intolerably painful. Here are some healing tips, suggested by our SOS Moms, to cure sore and cracked nipples:

  1. Breast milk, in itself, is the best antiseptic and moisturiser for sore and cracked nipples. Apply a few drops of your extracted breastmilk on your nipples daily for a few days. It works wonders. More importantly, nothing can be safer than that for the baby, in case he intakes it.
  2. Apply some coconut oil or badam rogan oil and massage your nipple area gently. It takes two days to heal.
  3. Apply pure lukewarm ghee and homemade butter, these are some good natural remedies for treating cracked nipples. Again, these products are harmless even if swallowed by a baby.
  4. Give your breast olive oil massage before going for bath. It is an effective natural therapy.
  5. Apply some fresh milk cream or malai around your nipples after feeding and leave them open till next feed. It helps curing the cracked nipples fast.

There are some ointments and other methods, tried by our SOS Moms, which can also help in dealing with this problem:

  • Nipcare ointment: It is the most tried, tested and trusted cream by most of the our SOS Moms. They suggest that it is harmless even if swallowed by the baby. However, it is always good to follow correct method of using it. Breastfeeding mothers must always wash/clean their nipples (to remove the ointment) properly before feeding their baby.
  • Few medicated creams and ointments that help cure the nipple cracks and cuts are: Madela Purelan cream, Proctosedyl Ointment, Medela Tender Care Ointment, Lansinoh lanolin cream, Silodram cream, Betadine, Lanolin ointment and Boroline cream.
  • Silicon nipples: These nipples are easily available in the market and fit on your nipples perfectly. These nipples help your baby latch onto your breast properly and also eliminate the pain while your baby suck milk.

Having said that, it is also important to understand the reasons that develop cracked nipples and try to work on them. Prevention is always better than cure, hence, ensure that you nurse your baby in a correct position and your baby is properly latched onto your breast.

Happy Motherhood!

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Asmita Somvanshi, Manpreet Kaur Bajwa, Vidya Abhijit Raut , Madhu Singh, Anuradha Iyer, Salvi Chaitu, Smriti Thukral  and many more.

My 10-Months-Old Isn’t Teething Yet. Should I Be Worried?

TeethingUsually, babies start cutting their first tooth around 6 months of age. However, it is not a sign of worry if your baby continues to give you the same gummy smile until he is an year old. It is considered perfectly normal for teething to start any time between 3-12 months of age.

Teething is one of the developmental milestones and can be different for different babies.

Some common symptoms that mark the beginning of teething are:

  • Fussier behaviour than usual
  • Soreness and swelling in gums
  • Biting fingers and toys to help relieve pain in gums
  • Drooling and sucking
  • Rashes on chin, face or chest
  • Decreased appetite with mild temperature
  • Wakefulness and irritability

At times, late teething can turn out to be good! Most babies, who start teething late, experience less teething problems as compared to those who start sprouting their teeth at an early age.

So, you can consider it good if your baby is showing signs of delayed teething. You are likely to find him less affected by the process.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Hema Raju, Smriti Thukral, Paridhi Tapan Upadhyay, Poonam Ganesh, Athiya Naveen, Clarissa D’mello, Suma Nadig, Satpal Tomar, Sasmita Patel, Radhika Singh, Sweta Misra, Sabbineni Sravanthi, Poonam Swami, Kirit Kadu, Dr. Priyadarshani Biswal, Sakshi Abbey Bhatnagar, Vrushali Nanavare, Saumya Singh, Sarita Kshtriyaa Wahab, Priyanka Pradhan, Neha Trikha Agarwal, Kritika Reure, Manjeeta Sinha Kishore, Thebabiestime

How to Soothe a Cranky Teething Baby? SOS MOM Reply

How to soothe a cranky teething babyA baby’s first tooth makes its appearance somewhere between 5-8 months. So, soon after you have successfully gotten your little angel to sleep through nights, creeps in the nightmare of baby teething.  Your short-lived peaceful slumber, which has just begun, starts to depart from you again.

Constantly trying to soothe your cranky baby, dealing with his increased poops and wakefulness, bouncing him around to help settle his irritability and frantically looking out for solutions to sail through this phase, makes teething an ordeal for you and your baby.

Here are a fews suggestions, from our SOS MOMs, that can help you comfort your baby during this phase:

Keep a soft gel teether in the freezer and give it to your baby whenver he needs. It helps in soothing swollen gums and eases the irritation. Ensure you sterilize the teether each time before you keep it in the freezer, says Neerja Malhotra.

Dip a soft cotton cloth in ice water and put it in between the upper and lower gums of your baby for instant relief. Give him cold water to drink if he has started drinking water. Zytee Gel, a medicine, works wonders to soothe teething gums, suggests a dentist mommy Dr. Priyadarshani Biswal.

Frequent motions during teething can lead to dehydration in your baby. Make sure you feed him with enough water throughout the day. Additionally, Zinconia is a zinc syrup that helps in controlling motions and can be given to babies, says Vyona Lobo Ribeiro.

Another good method that reduces the problem is – massage your baby’s gums with honey whenever you feel he has sore gums, this will help reduce the pain and his crakiness too, suggests Noopur Choubey Bajpai.

Keep your baby’s hands and surroundings clean so that he does not put any dirt or germs in mouth while playing around. This will prevent his loose motions from getting worse, says Anjum Ara.

Last but not the least, one solution that worked wonders with most parents is – giving your baby a Homeopathic medicine CALCAERRA PHOS. It is safe for babies and can be given 2 tablets twice a day, says Moms Shilpa Khandelwal, Alhouri Richa Srivastava, Nidhi Kaul Malhotra, Vidita Tayal and Neha G Jindal.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Neerja Malhotra, Dr. Priyadarshani Biswal, Vyona Lobo Ribeiro, Noopur Choubey Bajpai, Anjum Ara, Shilpa Khandelwal, Alhouri Richa Srivastava, Nidhi Kaul Malhotra, Vidita Tayal and Neha G Jindal

My 6 Month old is Underweight. Any Feeding Tips?

Underweight BabyWeight gain in kids is maximum when they are in their infancy. However, some babies may have a lower weight gain rate as compared to others. This can be attributed to a number of factors such as, premature birth of the baby, genes related expected variations, or undernutrition, which may arise due to many reasons.

For parents, it is a matter of serious concern to realize that their baby is underweight. It is imperative to identify the reason behind their baby’s slow weight-gain rate and look for a treatment in order to avoid any future complications.

Having said that, there are babies who are very active or have high metabolism and thus, do not gain considerable weight regardless of how well they are fed. In such cases, it is perfectly fine to keep your worries at bay and let your child grow as per his body needs.

Here are a few suggestions, from our SOS MOMs, to help parents with 6 month old underweight babies:

Prefer home made food to feed your baby. Steer clear of cerelac as it can encourage a sweet tooth. Cerelac should be used only while traveling or when we don’t have time to cook something, suggests moms Bethany Naidu and Negha G Jindal

Try adding one new food item at a time and let your baby adapt to it before introducing a new one. Continue with only one thing at a time for atleast a week. Baby’s taste buds are in developing stage and she will be needing a lot of tasting before she develops a liking or disliking for anything. Too many items, changing repeatedly will leave u furstrated and her taste buds confused. One food item, 2-3 times a day is good to start with, says Anima Bhardwaj.

Teething can be one of the reasons which inhibits your baby’s weight gain rate. So be patient and check your baby’s weight when this phase is over, says Mann’s Princy.

Make sure that your baby feels hungry after regular intervals of time. If the baby stays cheerful, happy and is achieving milestones at an appropriate age, and is not cranky all the time then there is nothing to worry about, explaines mom Aditi Jagtap Deshmukh

Some of the food items that are easy on stomach and are prefered for a 6 month old baby are:

  • Home-made malt or finger millet (Ragi) porridge
  • Boilded and mashed apple
  • Banana or Sapodilla (chikoo) puree
  • Suji ki kheer
  • Cooked lentils water
  • Potato puree(boiled n blended)
  • Pear puree
  • A little ghee in baby food
  • Try to keep wheat to a minimum till she is 9 months old.

One should always remember that all babies develop at different pace. Parents’ prime focus should be on the general health and activeness of their baby than anything else. It is advised not stay too stressed out in front of your babies, they might pick up on your worries and become fussy.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time and giving their valuable responses:

Neha G Jindal, Aditi Jagtap Deshmukh, Sowbhagya Nagraj, Smita goswami Chakraborty, Nivedita Bose Chakraborty, Mann’s Princy, Lavanya Reddy, Sayyami Bhat, Vidita Tayal, Paridhi Tapan Upadhyay, Reshma K Lakhmani, Vani Amarnath, Amina Bhardwaj, Bethany Naidu and Vyona Lobo Ribeiro

My 10-month-old has started to refuse milk from bottle. What do I do?

My 10-month-old has started to refuse milk from bottleIt is ecstatic for parents to hold their bundle of joy in their arms and see him cheerful and content in his new world. Parenthood brings in a series of anxieties and assumptions along with the happiness. Most of the time, you are found to be struggling to catch up with the behavioral changes that your baby shows during the first few years of his life.

During his early weeks, you feel content to see your baby going back and forth flexibly between breast and bottle, without much trouble. This continues till he hits 8 months and reaches a threshold whereby he starts understanding and making his own decisions.

Beware! It is no surprise that his first decision comes out to be a strong refusal to bottles, despite the fact that he has been taking one daily.

This can be frustating and believe it or not, there is no easy solution to it. But you can definitely convince your baby to return to bottle-feeding if you stick to a routine and keep your patience level high while dealing with your little one.

Here are some ideas to put your worries to rest:

  • Try using a pacifier that has a nipple similar in shape to that of the bottle. This will make your baby return to his bottle-feeding habit.
  • “Do not give up easily. Continue using the same bottle because your baby is not refusing that particular nipple, he might just be willing to prefer your breast over it”, says Nisha Singh Bhalwal
  • “Try feeding him with a glass or spoon or sipper, while diverting his attention towards other things or  telling a story, etc. Futhermore, take this opportunity to start feeding him with glass, this will also save you from indulging into coaxing him to drop that bottle-feeding habit, in future”, suggests moms – Rehanuma Shaik, Nilofer Memon, Munmum Jain Goel, Kalvakotha Vasanthi, Shikha Khanduja Kaul and Grishma Ravi.
  • “Ensure that you clean the bottle thoroughly and that he has not developed any fungal infection due to unclean nipple or bottle. An infection or stink from an unclean bottle can also be a reason behind your baby refusing to bottle-feed”, says moms – Tabassum Rehmani and Jas Saini.

Refusing bottle-feeding is common at this stage and you should be prepared for such a reaction from your baby. Like the other phases parents and babies go through, this too shall pass.

We wish Mom, Kanika, a good luck and hope that she sails happily through the joys of parenthood. We thank our rocking SOS Moms who poured in their thoughts.

Rehanuma Shaik, Neha Jhunjhunwala, Nisha Singh Bhalwal, Harpreet Kaur Osahan, Nilofer Memon, Tabassum Rahmani,  Madhuri Gupta, Madhu Jayakumar, Munmun Jain Goel, Kalvakotha Vasanti, Jas Saini, Christina Shreemal,  Shikha Khanduja Kaul, Grishma Ravi

HELP! Preschooler Inconsolable! Crying and Whining all the Time

HELP! Preschooler Inconsolable! Crying and Whining all the TimeOne of our SOS MOMs, Roshni Vaid, writes to us about her 5 year old daughter who has been consistently crying over everything. Right from waking up, to eating breakfast and to even changing clothes!
She says she tried everything to keep her happy but nothing worked.

Now mommies, there is nothing novel about the kids and the crying, is it? Crying is probably the most favourite mode of communication for the little children of all stages, right from infants to preschoolers. Most often than not, toddlers and preschoolers cry with reason, but they just aren’t aware of it. As parents, it’s vital to get to the root of the problem with some questioning, probing and even bribing.

Reasons your preschooler might be unhappy and crying –

  • She is craving for attention or sympathy. Crying is the first weapon they’ll use to gain some attention.
  • She is frustrated and unhappy about something that happened in the school or at home.
  • She is feeling insecure or experiencing separation anxiety, when she leaves the home for school or when you leave for work.
  • There is a good chance your kid actually might be suffering physically. Check for the signs that indicate her ill health. Check if she has any injuries.
  • Is she hungry, tired, or suffering from body aches?
  • Indigestion and constipation are also the reasons enough to make your child unsettled.
  • Sleep deprivation is one of the most frustrating reasons to start the kids on crying mode. Preschoolers need about 10 hours of sleep. If a child hasn’t been sleeping well during the night for any reason and also does not take afternoon naps, she will end up being cranky all the time, until she recovers from the sleep deprivation.
  • Emotional stress brought on by the relationships in school and home. Sometimes it can be overwhelming for the children to deal and be in company of different people with different natures.

How you can help

  • No matter what, don’t cave in and give the child what she wants after crying spells. A kid might be whining for some unreasonable demand, and you giving in after her tear outburst will just encourage her to use this tool more often.
  • Check for the signs of unwell being and treat accordingly. Take her to the doctor if needed.
  • Make sure your child is not hungry and not suffering from stomach ailments.
  • Make sure she gets enough sleep every day.
  • Try to distract and engage her in some interesting activities or by taking her out in a park.
  • Talk to her like you’d talk to a grown up, by acknowledging and not dismissing her feelings. Kids don’t know how to name their feelings, so they cry in frustration of not being able to communicate.
  • Talk to their school teachers or day-care providers to find out if something that happened in the school has upset her.
  • Talk to your child about strangers and people touching them in inappropriate ways. Sexual abuse is one of the most concerning reasons to make children upset, causing them to keep their feelings bottled up. Though use your best judgement and patience before you put your child through such a scrutiny.
  • If the child is suffering from the separation anxiety, deal sympathetically with it and give her some time to get over it.
  • Give hers stars or rewards for a happy and good behaviour. Positive encouragement works wonders.

One of our SOS Moms Aarti Vedpathak suggested a very interesting way to encourage a child to behave. Make up a little kid named the same as your kid and tell stories about how she behaves, how she helps, and how she doesn’t whine over small things. It might just do the trick.

We wish you good luck and hope that you sail happily through the joys of parenthood. We thank our rocking SOS Moms who poured in their thoughts.

Spanish Harlem,  Aarti Vedpathak, Amrita Yadav Vaidya, Aruna Gautam, Akhila Karthik, Maharaj Ambu, Meenakshi Singh

HELP! 9 Month Old Baby Not Crawling and Teething yet: SOS MOM Reply

HELP-9-month-old-baby-not-crawling-and-teething-yetDear worried mum, while we understand your frustration of your little bundle of joy being stuck in a reverse transmission of scooting backwards, let us assure you that there is nothing to worry about it. Neither is there anything to be concerned about if she is not teething yet.

Crawling is quite optional for some babies. Experts believe that crawling does offer some physical and cognitive developmental benefits. But it is a common fact that quite a number of babies skip this stage entirely and directly start standing up. As long as your baby is healthy and has reached her developmental milestones until sitting up, on time, she will be perfectly fine. She probably has a mind to directly get on her feet and start cruising and then walking in no time.

If you wish to see her crawling, you may encourage it in certain ways –

  • Tummy time – Give her plenty of tummy time and place attractive toys around her, so that she may try to crawl forward to grab them.
  • Free play – Limit her time in the bed, car seat, stroller etc. Let her play on the floor and explore her playground.
  • Sit on the floor, a bit out of her reach and call her towards you. She might try to get on her all fours in order to reach you.
  • Place a moving toy near her and encourage her to follow it.

Seek doctor’s advice if –

  • She does not try to move in any manner at all, by the time she is 1 year old
  • She doesn’t want to or can’t stand on her feet when you hold her by her torso
  • Her lower body seems too lethargic or limp when you try to make her stand on your lap

Wait and watch if she tries to get moving in any way. Most commonly there is nothing to be concerned about if a baby doesn’t crawl at 9 months.


It is also very common and normal for the babies to not start teething until they are 1 year or even older. Normal window for the first tooth of your baby showing up is between 3-12 months of age, but a large statistics shows that many babies are quite late bloomers in this area. It has nothing to do with low calcium in your baby, which is commonly believed, so there is nothing you can do to hurry the teething. It’s just the way her body has decided to develop and sooner or a little later your baby will have her own set of pearly whites. Think about this, have you ever seen an adult without having developed any teeth at all? There you go!

We thank our SOS moms who offered their valuable suggestions and shared their own experiences with their babies. Most of them experienced that every child develops in a different way and at a different speed. It’s best not to compare and let them have their space to flourish.

Nelopher Hasan, Noopur Choubey Bajpai, Sabbineni Sravanthi, Caroline Fernandes, Surabhi Nayak, Christina Shreemal, Juhi Bhattacharjee, Avantika Gidh, Neelam Pawar, Richa Arora, Shilpi Sahu, Jyotsana Verma, Rajnideep Sandhu, Ramya Harish, Jas Saini, Kaynat Parveen, Anjali Vartak , Sudeshna Patnaik, Nayana Bhangale, Ritika Kakar, Radhika Dhanrajani, Rewa Dhar , Sakshi Abbey Bhatnagar, Ashley Antony, Lavanya Reddy, Sunetra Basu, Shikha Somwanshi, Rathi Madan, Garima Grover, Priya Jain, Monika Vashist, Mainka Vig.


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