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How do I Resolve Sibling Rivalry in my Kids

Handling Sibling Conflicts

Handling Sibling Conflicts

In families with more than one child, sibling rivalry is commonplace. At the outset, you just see two kids fighting, however on looking beneath the surface of things, you’ll realize the riposte feeling that is at the core of sibling rivalry in children.

Expression of retaliatory behaviour by the submissive one to counteract the sense of constantly being the victim of the dominant other, is what breeds sibling fights. This repugnant behaviour, clubbed with the feeling that he is loved less by his parents intensifies his pathos.

Nonetheless, for parents it is one of the biggest parenting struggles to sort. But it is upon them to turn the conflict scenarios into training opportunities. Parents should repeatedly teach their children to honour and speak well of one another.

When asked if parents should intervene in resolving sibling rivalry, one of our SOS Moms, Robe Samarth Gaonkar suggested, “Of course you should intervene and never let the time pass by without them consoling each other. It’s just normal fights in the beginning, but if you don’t correct them on time, then it will be worse once they are older.”

We agree with Robe on this and feel that parents should help their kids sort the fights by making them understand the art of managing their emotions. Otherwise, the mutual ill feelings will get carried over into their adult lives and become even more crippling to deal with later on.

3 Suggestions for Parents when Managing Sibling Rivalry

  1. When you intervene, you should hold both the kids equally responsible for the fight. It shouldn’t matter as to who started it or whose fault it is. After all, it always takes two to tango; a fight is never a one-sided affair, so stop refereeing.

    Dealing with Sibling Rivalries

    Dealing with Sibling Rivalries

  1. Use the ‘step in to step out’ method. Help your kids to identify their feelings at the moment of a fight (step in) and then leave them and let them work out a solution between themselves (step out). This is because, there will be times when kids would resolve the conflict in their own way and only need us to set up the navigation just a bit.
  1. Appreciate both the kids in their individual domains. Never pitch them up against one another. If one is good in sports and the other is a bookworm, recognize and appreciate their individuality.

Follow these few simple strategies, as you work with your kids to manage sibling rivalry and pioneer a peace treaty in your home today.

How to Get my Little One to Sleep in his Own Bed

SOS _ Getting Kid to Sleep in his own Bed

SOS _ Getting Kid to Sleep in his own Bed

Getting kids, especially those who have been sleeping with parents for more than a year, to sleep in their own beds is not easy.

We can say that it’s sort of like ripping off a band-aid… The kid will cry, there’ll be tantrums and a whole lot of havoc. However, you’ve to decide whether you’ll transition quickly or will take your own sweet time.

Many parents typically opt to have their kids sleep on separate beds by the kid’s will and desire. However, this can be confining for the parents, as the kid will keep growing dependent on the parents to get a night of peaceful sleep.

The key to establishing a workable bedtime routine is to set firm expectations and then maintain consistency. Before moving ahead with the decision, you should feel strongly enough for the mission of moving the kid to his own bed. Ambivalence over your decision will not help.

To make things easier for you, our SOS Moms are giving out a few suggestions

“Make his best soft toy his best friend and sleep mate. Let him sleep with the toy and tell him that his friend (the soft toy) will be alone and cry if he doesn’t sleep with him”, recommends Swati Thakur, mom of a 1 year old.

Swati also says, “One more thing you can try is, when he’s fast asleep just put a pillow over him at your place, so that he gets a feeling that it’s you and not the pillow. Maybe that can help as it does help me and my son is only 1 year old.”

Next, we have Neha Kapur, who says, “Put your T-shirt on a pillow and place it next to him… Sometimes, it’s your smell that comforts them.”

SOS _ Getting your Child to Sleep in his own Bed

SOS _ Getting your Child to Sleep in his own Bed

We also have Ranjani Anoop and Saheti Krishna Kasam, who have tested the methods suggested by Swati Thakur. They double up with Swati to say that the pillow method really works.

One useful tip from our end – think of the things that will offer some comfort to the kid during the transition. Play a CD of soothing lullabies, light a brighter nightlight or an LED projector lamp that’ll create an effect of a starry night sky onto the walls and ceiling of his room.

So, be prepared for a bumpy ride while getting your kiddo to sleep in his own bed, but keep your eyes on the prize: an independent kid who sleeps all by himself and one less elbow in your back at night!

How to Handle a Teething Toddler

Teething 1Teething toddler at home? It can be tough for both of you.

A few teeth make their lovely appearance in the front, by the time your baby celebrates her first birthday. So, it’s no more a “gummy” smile now. But, this is not the end. There is teething, and then there is teething again – even more painful one this time! All thanks to those big molars that are all set to poke through the tender gums of your baby.

At around 13 to 19 months, molars start popping up. They are large in size, with double edges and can be twice as difficult to cut as the baby incisors. This may make your child miserable and irritable.

Let us have a look at some of the toddler teething symptoms you can keep an eye out for to offer best relief remedy to  your child:

  • Irritation on chin or cheek
  • Red swollen gums
  • Improper sleep and decreased appetite
  • Constant rubbing of ears on the same side as the erupting tooth
  • Drooling, biting and chewing
  • Slightly increased body temperature but not fever

Ways to soothe your toddler’s gums:

Give your toddler a frozen stick of cucumber or a peeled raw carrot to chew on. Be there with her while she is eating it to ensure that she doesn’t choke on any piece she bites off.

To distract her from her discomfort, give her a cool spoon or a slightly frozen wet, clean flannel to chew on. They offer interesting textures.

A cool teething ring is also ideal. It is always recommended to use solid teething ring over liquid filled rings, which could leak.

Offer your child a cup to drink milk or water. Bottle-feeding and breastfeeding can be painful for a teething toddler as sucking causes more blood to rush to the swollen areas, making them more sensitive.

If nothing else works and your child seems to be in real distress, consult your paediatrician and give her the correct dosage of infant Paracetamol.

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While you take all the efforts to soothe your toddler, remember, that you also need to be patient as teething takes a good amount of time to complete its process. Hence, you may need to pay extra attention and provide extra care to your toddler.

How to Handle your Child’s Nightmare

SOS_2-mom_2aMost parents come across experiences of hearing a sudden shriek in the middle of the night from their child’s bedroom. When they rush in, the sight of their toddler – sitting up wild-eyed in bed, crying and trying to reach out for them leaves them greatly anxious.

Unless your child expresses in words that she has had a nightmare, it is difficult to understand what caused her this distress.

However, if your regular “peaceful sleeper” unexpectedly wakes up crying, behaves clingy and faces trouble getting back to sleep on her own, you can consider it the after-effect of a nightmare.

Nightmares are most common in preschoolers, as they develop some general fears and have vivid imagination at this age. They face difficult time separating reality from make-believe.

So how are you supposed to handle your child when she has a nightmare?

Let us have a quick look at what our SOS Moms have to suggest:

Ensure that the night-light of your child’s bedroom is on

Keep the door of your child’s bedroom open and assure her that you are near-by

Ensure that you give physical reassurance to your child when she cries. Hold her close to you and gently rub her back until she calms down and is normal.

If your child is old enough, speak to her and try to understand her fears. You might be able to figure out a way to soothe her in a better way when she cries.

“Never scare your child or never let her see or be in scary environment. Also, before sleeping let your child watch or hear lovely stories of her favourite cartoon character”, says Shantala Murugendra

“Check if there is something that happens in the day that scares her. There may be some person whom she doesn’t like. Encourage her to speak up and try to find out a solution to her problem”, suggests Sanghamitra Sethi Kummera.

However, if the nightmares persist and she dreads going to bed or is fearful during the day too, do not delay to consult your paediatrician – such dreams could signal an emotional issue that needs addressing.  Lastly, do not panic as this is very common among children of this age and will fade away with time soon.

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We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Heena Bhardwaj, Pavitra Thakur, Suchitra Prakash, Pratibha Gautam, Merina John, Gunjan Ravi Shadija, Srirama Sammeta, Sheetal Diniyan, Kim J S, Sirisha Naidu, Inderjeet Kaur Bindra, Tejasveeta Pawar Vaidya, Charu Singh, Pooja Dixit Patayane, Alpana Chaudhary, Seema Suthar Gaikwad, Sarika Jain, Namrata Sood Joshi, Gayathri Ramchandran, Shilpa Jaiswal, Karuna Gupta, Aarti Vedpathak, Cheena Jain, Rajprit Jaiswal, Ambika Mehta, Supriya Mishra, Vandana Anand, Aparajitha Nagesh, Shantala Murugendra, Sanghamitra Sethi Kummera, Laxmi Singh and Appasamy Pradeep.

Is it Normal if my Baby isn’t Crawling?

SOS_2-mom_2 (1)Are you worried that your baby is not making moves towards crawling?

If your answer is YES, go on reading this.

Crawling is probably that first sign that shows that your little angel is on his or her way. Every parent eagerly awaits this moment. But sometime, some babies do not start crawling as early as other babies, which causes anxiety among most parents.

Though the average age for babies to start crawling is 8 months, many babies skip this age entirely and wait until later. The timing for certain milestone is quite variable, especially when we talk about gross motor skills. Also, there exists a wide range of “what’s normal” when it comes to attaining developmental milestones.

So, even if your baby refuses the idea of scooting around on hands and knees, you should not panic!

The important point to remember is, crawling is just one milestone out of many and if your baby shows signs of delay in attaining it, it is most likely nothing to be worried about. It is only when your baby lags behind in a few developmental milestones that you should talk to your paediatrician about it.

Let us have a quick look at what our SOS Moms have to suggest:

“It is not something to worry if your baby starts crawling late. It’s okay as long as she is active enough to explore new things. Try to make her sit for a few seconds everyday”, says Swati Thakur.

“My son didn’t crawl at all, he directly started walking from 11th month and so did I as my mum told me, so I guess it’s pretty normal”, says Deepti Khurana Mehta.

“Ensure that you massage your baby twice everyday with good massage oil, this helps in faster growth and better development of the baby”, suggests Sakshi Abbey Bhatnagar.

“The best way to help your baby is, give her a lot of tummy time, at least 2-3 hours in a day with proper intervals in between. For tummy time – spread some bed sheets on the floor to make the surface comfortable but not soft for the baby. Then lay her down on her tummy.  Now put some toys in front of her and encourage her to crawl ahead. This will tempt her to try to crawl and reach the toys”, suggests Hema Shamjith Krishna.

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As long as your baby is achieving other milestones well, there is no need to worry if she is not crawling even after 8-10 months. Understand that every child is different and thus, attain different milestones differently.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Kalaa Shree, Swati Thakur, Saakshi Nagpal, Rita Samuel Bing, Priyanka Rakesh Chavan, Gulnoza Usmanova, Deepti Khurana Mehta, Aastha Amit Kapoor, Nina Molly Vaz, Dr. Poonam Sangle Bhadange, Sakshi Abbey Bhatnagar, Prathita Malviya, Amrit Jeetla, Jyotsana Verma and Hema Shamjith Krishna.

Ways to Treat Stuffy Nose and Cold in Babies

SOS_2-mom_2Would you not agree with us when we say that there is not a single baby around who is seen getting through his early years without suffering a few dozen colds?

You definitely will!

But, you will find it strange if we say that runny nose can be a good thing sometimes. Yes, it is! Because, it’s a natural way that helps body get rid of germs. However, too much of mucus in the nose may make it difficult for your baby to breathe or eat due to congestion, and the stuffy head may make him uncomfortable.

So how are you supposed to handle this? Looking out for suggestions, tips and advice?

Let us have a look at what our SOS Moms have to say:

“Apply a few drops of Eucalyptus (Nilgiri) oil on a handkerchief and make your baby inhale the aroma”, suggests moms – Megha Mandana and Nisha Verma.

“Heat some Ajwain on pan and wrap it in a muslin cloth. Now place it on your baby’s chest, it helps get rid of the congestion in the chest. But, make sure that it is not too hot for your baby’s sensitive skin”, says Sheetal Khakhar

“Boil some Ajwain in water. Now strain the water and collect it in a sippy cup for your baby to drink. It helps reduce cold in babies”, suggests Aastha Amit Kapoor.

“Take mustard oil in a pan and add 2-3 garlic cloves in it. Heat it on low flame and then allow it to cool down till it is lukewarm. Now use this to massage your baby once in a day and then give her hot sponge bath. I did this when my baby girl suffered from a similar problem and she was alright in two days”, says Aastha Amit Kapoor.

“Boil ginger in mustard oil and allow it to cool down till it is lukewarm. Now apply this on your baby’s chest and on her back. It will help relieve the congestion and your baby will feel comfortable”, suggests Mukti Ranjan.

“Boil a few Basil (Tulsi) leaves in water and make your baby inhale the steam. It will help relieve the congestion”, says Amruta Dipen More.

Last but not the least, do consult paediatrician if there is no sign of relief for more than a day.

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We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Aastha Amit Kapoor, Sheetal Khakhar, Megha Mandana, Nisha Verma, Mukti Ranjan, Amruta Dipen More, and many more.

Ways to Teach your Child to Share

Sharing 1“That’s mine! Give it back!” shouts your tiny 2-year-old as she snatches her toy from her playmate.

And…

You feel ‘mine’ and ‘no’ are her favourite words. “Why doesn’t she share her belongings?” – becomes a matter of serious concern for you. You dread that such a selfish attitude may end up leaving your child friendless.

But is your child a selfish, indeed? Or she is just acting her age?

For a two-year-old, anything that strikes her fancy becomes an extension of herself. While she is just beginning to comprehend possession, she develops a strong sense of self which restrains her from sharing.

Sharing does not come easily. So, here we are with a few tips to make the art of sharing a lot less stressful for both you and your child:

Teach your Child to Take Turns:

If your child refuses to part with something, practice taking turns. Tell your child that she’ll get to play with the toy for a few fixed minutes and as soon as the time is up, it will be her playmate’s turn to play with that toy for the same fixed amount of time.

Turn Sharing into Fun:

Play some cooperative games with your child and show her how players play together towards a common goal.  Give her snacks to eat with her playmates and tell her that she will get to eat them only when she shares them.

Set an Example:

Kids pick up what you do and love to imitate you. So, ensure that you set the right example before them. Show your child how you share your things with your friends and relatives. Also, do not forget to share your things with her, like your ice-cream, your fancy clips, etc.

Do not force or punish:

If your feel your child is reluctant to share, do not scold or name her selfish. This will only increase the resentment than generosity. Instead, talk it out. Use positive reinforcement and make her understand the importance of sharing calmly. However, do not forget that it is perfectly alright for your kid to hold back certain items.

Praise your child:

Always remember to shower your kid with plenty of praise when she chooses to loosen her grip on something. This will motivate her to share in order to gain your love and praise.

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And while you do all this, remember to be patient. Your child is sure to learn sharing, with time.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses

Top Breastfeeding Essentials for Nursing Moms

Breastfeeding essentialsIsn’t breastfeeding the simplest option for a baby?

Yes, it is!

Always available! Always at correct temperature! And always bottle-free!

Breastfeeding is no less than a commitment which requires dedication and endurance. It may seem really difficult, if you are a first-time mommy or when you are just starting to breastfeed.

But, do not worry! The difficulty or the pain decreases as you continue to breastfeed. It gets simpler and easier with time. So do not give up if it seems challenging, because it’s worth it! All you need to ensure is, you are well prepared before you begin with it.

Here is a list of all the breastfeeding essentials that a new-mom must stock in order to make breastfeeding easy and a lovely experience:

Nipple Cream:

Breastfeeding may feel painful to almost everyone in the beginning. Your nipples may get sore, cracked or may even bleed. But don’t give up, because in most cases this pain is absolutely normal. Instead, ask your physician to prescribe some good medicated cream to soothe you nipples.

Nursing Bras:

They offer a great level of comfort while breastfeeding your baby and are of real help to make nursing easier.

Nursing pillow:

It is a must-have breastfeeding essential which provides support to your back and arm while you feed your baby. It helps to keep your baby elevated and holds him in the right position to nurse. Not only this, it also helps in reducing gastric reflux issues in babies that are common during breastfeeding.

Breast Pads:

It is quiet likely that you leak breast milk quite often after delivery. In order to avoid any embarrassing situation, using breast pads to keep your clothes clean and dry is a good idea.

Burp Cloths:

They protect your clothes when your baby spits-up or are useful to wipe spit-up from your baby’s mouth while burping your baby.

Button-down Shirts or Maternity Nursing gown:

Simple button-down outfits always make it easier to breastfeed your baby without having to change clothes.

Breast pumps:

If you are a working mom you must not forget to purchase this. It helps ensure that your baby has his food ready whenever he needs it even when you are not around.

With these few things at your easy reach you are sure to experience a lovely time developing a sweet bond with your baby while breastfeeding.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time and giving their valuable responses:

Sudha Prakash, Gayathri Ramachandran, Richa Arora, Gulnoza Usmanova, Upasana Tapan Roy, Eisha Todankar, Priyamvada Agnohotri, Deepti Khurana Mehta and Ankita Gupta

Baby Bath Essentials Checklist

Bathing essentialsWhile for some babies bath time is the most fun, for others it can be the most stressful time. Baby’s bath time is one of those several moments that create a special bond between the parents and the baby. But if it is the very first time, it can be a nerve racking experience for parents.

It is always good to take someone’s help for the first couple of times. Initially, most doctors recommend a bath every alternate day and head-wash once or twice a week for babies. So you need to gather all the required items to make your baby’s bath time enjoyable, comfortable and safe.

Check out our list and get ready to have a splash during your newborn’s bath time with these must-have bathing and grooming essentials:

Newborn baby bath tub: This infant tub is meant only for newborns as they cannot sit up or control any of their body parts. One of best advantages of this tub is that you can use it in sink or any other easy-to-reach places. So, if you have had a C-section or there are grandparents helping you out, you are sure to experience another level of convenience.

Baby Soap: This is not really important to have initially but you can always buy one if you wish to. Pick the one that is specially made for baby’s sensitive skin.

Baby Shampoo: Buy a shampoo that is mild and natural, and meant only for babies.

Nail Clippers: Trimming your baby’s nails can be really intimidating. If you feel nervous using scissors to cut the nails, buy nail clippers as they are safer than scissors. Prefer cutting nails immediately after bath time when the nails are supple.

Hair Brush: Buy a gentle brush for the little sprouts of your baby’s hair. Do not use an adult hair brush.

Bath towel or hooded towel: Keep at least 2 towels, one for wiping your baby and one for wrapping.

Soft washcloth: Keep one to clean your baby nicely and gently.

Baby Lotion: Give your baby a gentle massage with the lotion after bath.

Gather all these bathing essentials and make your baby’s bath time a fun. Even if you are a first time mommy, do not panic. Relax and play with your little one for a while before giving him bath, and your baby is sure to enjoy it!

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Sunaina Vijan Sachdeva, Poonam Arya, Ruchita Sharma, Rashmi Ashtwal and Madhuyogs Seera

What to Pack in your Baby’s bag While Going out

Baby BagYou would definitely call yourself the luckiest parent if your newborn is an ideal traveller and sleeps for a good deal of time while you are on your first day-out after baby. Your excursion can be a fun-time only if your little bundle of joy allows it to be.

Ever thought, what all baby gears would be required to keep him comfortable and cheerful?

Don’t be anxious!

We bring to you a list of items you must carry to make your excursion easier. So, if you are planning your first day-out with your newborn, start gathering these must-haves for your baby’s bag:

  1. Formula feed powder box and lukewarm water
  2. Sterilized bottles and nipples
  3. Breast pumps (if required)
  4. Washable bibs
  5. Sun hat
  6. Tissues
  7. Baby wipes
  8. Diapers
  9. Diaper rash cream
  10. Spare clothes, socks, and booties
  11. Disinfectant hand gel
  12. Baby wash, baby powder and baby lotion
  13. Car seat
  14. Collapsible stroller
  15. Baby’s medicine kit
  16. Baby Blankets
  17. Plastic bags (you might need them to keep soiled diapers or clothes)
  18. Extra Pacifiers (if required)
  19. Your baby’s toys
  20. Breastfeeding cover

Aren’t you surprised with the amount of stuff your little traveller requires?

Yes, we all are!

So before you forget anything, start packing all of these a few days before your day-out to avoid the last minute hassle.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Tashfiya Shadab, Silja Jay Nair, Jyotsana Verma, Nupur Jain, Vidya Mahendran, Anisha D Guglia, Harsha Rajiv, Pari Mohit Rai, Linu Sanjib Boro, Ruchita Sharma, Sheetal Khakhar, Alolika Datta Gupta Das, Neha Singla Johri, Sur Himantikaa, Lavanta Prakash, Neha Alok Pal and Sapana Wagh

How to take care of your Baby’s Teeth

Oral CareThe first tooth of your baby is one of the milestones. Isn’t it?

It is, indeed!

These pearly whites not only add to your baby’s charming smile but to your exuberance too! Being a young and new mommy you surely find yourself unaware of when to begin with oral care for your baby or how to go about cleaning his teeth. It is likely, that you probably are a little scared of hurting your bundle of joy while trying to render him the best oral care.

So if you ask when to start your baby’s oral care, the answer is – even before the baby sports his first tooth.

Yes! It is a healthy habit to wipe your baby’s gums with a soft wet washcloth every day during bath time or before sleep time. Making your baby accustomed to this daily routine of mouth-cleaning helps make it easier for him to transition into toothbrushing later.

Therefore, we list here a few tips to help you ensure healthy oral care for your baby:

  1. If you are not following a routine of cleaning your baby’s gums every day, it is strongly recommended that you start with his oral care the moment you notice him teething.
  2. Do not use brushes with bristles for your young one. Introduce a small and soft toothbrush designed especially for babies.
  3. Initially, use only water and toothbrush to clean your little one’s teeth. Continue this until your baby is 18-month-old.
  4. Start using toothpaste that has low-fluoride content once your baby is 18-months-old. Take very small amount of baby-friendly toothpaste to clean his teeth.
  5. Change your baby’s toothbrush every 2 months. It will also add to his enthusiasm to brush with a colourful new brush.
  6. Wondering how often you should brush your baby’s pearly whites? If you have started feeding him solids then it is recommended that you brush his teeth at least twice a day.

Ways to brush your baby’s teeth:

  1. Hold or place your baby such that you can see his mouth clearly and he feels comfortable.
  2. Hold your baby’s chin in your hand and rest his head against something.
  3. Clean his teeth in a soft and circular motion.
  4. Lift his lip gently to brush the front and the back of the teeth, and the gum line.

We hope these suggestions help you take best oral care of your baby. Moreover, make your baby’s brushing time a fun, and help him form a healthy habit of brushing teeth twice daily.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Kshitija Shevade, Preitz Kory Patil and Prabha Peri

What to pack in Hospital Bag

Hospital BagAre you about to complete your 34 weeks of pregnancy?

If your answer is Yes, it’s time to pack your hospital bag with all the essentials you may require during labour, birth and for your most awaited ‘bundle of joy’.

We do not intend to say that your departure to maternity hospital would be a frantic one as the Bollywood wants you to believe. But, isn’t it a good idea to be prepared a few weeks before your due date?

Of course, it is!

It may also prove handy in case you need to go into labour a little early. So be prepared now, if you want to steer clear of any last minute scramble to fill your hospital bag amidst contractions.

Here we present to you a checklist. Tick off all the essentials that you need to pack before you go into labour:

Things to Pack for Mum

Camera: You may want to capture those first few moments of your newborn baby. So, don’t miss to pack a camera along with its charger.

Backless slippers: Keep backless slippers that are easy to wear and remove.

Daily need items: Don’t forget to keep your toothbrush, toothpaste, comb, deodorant, shampoo, soap, lotion, hair dryer, towel, etc.

Sanitary pads: Though hospitals provide sanitary napkins but you may feel more comfortable with your favourite brand. Also, keep pads that are designed for heavy flow.

Important documents: Arrange all your health related documents properly in a folder. E.g.- health insurance card, picture id, hospital registration forms and other documents of your medical history.

Nightgowns or robe: Keep a loose and warm robe to wear at the time of delivery. If you wish to breastfeed your baby do not forget to pack 2-3 front-open nightgowns for easy breastfeeding.

Maternity Bras: Keep a few comfortable and supporting bras. Also, pack some nursing bras if you wish to breastfeed. Steer clear of underwire bras.

Socks: Many mums-to-be complain of their feet being cold during delivery.  So keep 2-3 pair of socks, in case one gets soiled you have an extra pair to keep your feet warm.

Lip Balm: Labour wards are kept warm which may dry out your lips quickly. So keep your lip balm at easy reach.

Nursing covers: You would want some privacy and discretion while nursing your baby in front of others. So, do not miss to pack a nursing cover in your hospital bag.

 

Things to Pack for Baby:

Mittens: Your baby might have long nails. To prevent him/her from scratching his face or other parts of the body you may need to cover his/her hands with mittens.

Wipes: Purchase and pack wipes that are specially designed for babies and sensitive skin.

Diapers or nappies: Pack a few cloth nappies or disposable diapers for your newborn.

Swaddling cloth: Newborns feel comfortable when they are swaddled. Keep a few receiving blankets or clothes ready to swaddle your baby.

Hand Towels: Keep a few hand towels to wipe your little one’s mouth, hands and feet.

Rubber Under-sheet: To keep the bed from getting wet with pee, spit up or breast milk, keep a few waterproof sheet protectors.

Socks or Booties: Keep a pair of socks or booties for your newborn.

Cotton Outfits: Pack a couple of soft cotton jhablas or all-in-one suits for babies.

Nursing Pillows: In order to reduce strain in your arms, use nursing pillow to rest your baby on while breastfeeding.

Small Size Feeding Bottle: You may need to bottle-feed your newborn, so keep a bottle ready so that you do not need to rush at the eleventh hour.

 

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Anjali Gupta, Shahi Sofia, Shilpi Saha, Navdeep Sandhu, Upasana Panda, Richa Arora, Priyanka Saurabh Khanna, Robe Samarth Gaonkar, Madhuri Dommety, Pari Mohit Rai and Ravalita Patra

Effects of Spanking Kids and Ways to avoid it

SpankingHave you ever met a parent whose child has never been spanked for misbehaving?

You would definitely agree that this is something very rare. Wouldn’t you?

Though, experts strongly disapprove the concept of spanking, most parents still use it to discipline their kids.

Spanking – a mild form of punishment, was an acceptable part of parenting in the 70’s. But today there are frequent debates on why spanking is a bad idea. Whether or not parents believe in hitting, their kids do receive spanking at some point of time or the other. Most parents resort to spanking either because they are stressed out or frustrated, or out of the fear of having no other options.

Spanking is not a positive approach to discipline a child. However, if you happen to lose it occasionally and end up spanking your child, it is not going to cause any harm to him or your relationship forever. It is more serious an issue if you hit your child often or if it’s a part of your dominant parenting.

Reasons you should not spank your Child:

  1. Hitting teaches kids to hit: Children love to imitate what their parents do. When they get spanked often, they interpret hitting as something acceptable to stop/avoid something undesirable.
  1. Hitting demeans self-image: Kids are usually too young to understand the reason for a whack. It takes a lot of efforts for a child to build a healthy self-image and it gets affected negatively when he is spanked for doing something wrong. He starts believing that he is ‘bad’.
  1. Hitting promotes anger: Kids often see punishment as unfair. Hence they are more likely to rebel and display anger in protest.

Ways to Stop Yourself from Spanking:

  1. Explain the consequences: The most effective way to let your child know he has done something wrong is to make the point that undesirable acts can lead to undesirable results.
  2. Give Yourself Timeout: Timeouts are as helpful for parents as for kids. Frustration or stress may be the reasons you end up spanking your child. So, if you feel you are losing your sanity, move out of the situation and relax.
  3. Let the consequences happen: Do not feel that it’s always your duty to prevent each and every consequence. Sometimes it is best to allow the consequences to happen and then help your child learn a lesson from it.

 

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Sheeja Narayanan, Robe Samarth Gaonkar and Vandana Anand.

How to Limit Toddler TV Time

TV timeWould you not agree that most of the parents use Television to keep their children occupied from time to time?

No Doubt, Television is one of the best babysitters as it keeps the toddler happily absorbed for hours when parents wish to have some me-time, get started with cooking or sneak in any other household chores.

So, knowingly or unknowingly, it is none other than parents who are encouraging and entrenching TV habits in kids. Gradually, this becomes such an integral part of their lives that it seems just impossible to pull them away from the TV.

But, isn’t risking your toddler’s brain development too big a price to pay for keeping him busy?

If you feel the answer is Yes, then why not try out some good alternatives to TV to keep our sweet little toddlers busy:

  • Involve your child in whatever you do: Narrate to your toddler the activity that you are doing. Try to keep him occupied by offering him to do the easiest part of that chore. For example: if you are kneading the dough, give your child a small portion of the same and allow him to play with it.
  • Prepare a toy basket for your toddler: Always keep a toy basket handy that contains your child’s favourite stuff. For example: some soft-toys, puzzles, cartoon books, etc.
  • Play some educational CDs: Purchase a few interactive audio-visual CDs that teach kids numbers and alphabets in a playful manner. Also, play CDs that contain story narration, it helps your child develop listening skills.
  • Go creative: Sit with your child and spend time doing some simple craft activities. This will not only enhance his gross and fine motor skills but will also improve his imagination.
  • Reduce your own TV time: Kids tend to follow what their parents do. So, make sure that you don’t stay glued to your TV screens for long. This will convey a wrong message to your child that it is acceptable to watch TV for hours.

Lastly, do not wait till this hazardous habit occupies a permanent space in your child’s daily routine. Help him grow up more creative by limiting his TV time and encouraging good habits.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Dilbir Kaur, Sushma Mayekar, Gagan Sandhu, Mala Ray, Jas Saini, Rakhee Bhargava, Rachna Khandelwal, Asfia Hashmi and Ramya Venugopal

My Baby cries Inconsolably and does not Sleep at Night. Please Help!

sleepless nightsDon’t you all agree that it is just impossible to get around a few things with babies, no matter what we try? One of those things is – baby’s hysteric crying. This is because, crying is the only way they express their hunger, irritation, pain, a desire for sleep, fear and so on.

But, how are we parents supposed to comprehend what our baby is trying to tell? Moreover, it becomes even more difficult when this crying turns into a daily night-routine for our baby. It may leave mommies absolutely exhausted handling a crying baby at night, which is their only time for some rest after a long tiring day.

So, if you are also one of the mommies trying to figure out a way to soothe your crying baby at night, let us have a look at the suggestions from some of our SOS Moms:

“Your baby may be suffering from colic i.e. gas in stomach. One of the home remedies that offers quick relief is – prepare a paste of 2 pinch Asafoetidia mixed with a spoonful of warm water and apply on the baby’s stomach around the naval”, suggests Renuka Chandoke.

“Gastric problem is very common in newborns, which makes them uncomfortable at night. Consult a paediatrician and give him gripe water or Colicad drops once before bedtime. These will relieve his stomach and he will be able to sleep peacefully”, say moms – Manpreet Kaur Bajwa and Vinu Gowtham Rao.

“To avoid gas problems, burp your baby after every feed”, suggests Priyamvada S. Agnihotri.

“Colic pain usually hits all newborns and lasts for a few months. In order to curtail it make your baby sleep on your stomach or on his stomach. This technique is known as Kangaroo Mother Care and works wonders in most of the illnesses”, says Rakhi Bhargava.

“If you are breastfeeding your child, avoid eating food that are likely to cause gastric problems”, suggests Sheetal Kohli.

“Babies may also cry due to itching. So, ensure that you clean your baby’s nappy area nicely and apply powder every day before putting him to sleep”, says Tryphena David Jagtap.

“Give your baby a gentle massage and bedtime bath with Luke warm water, this prepares him for a good night sleep”, says Rachana Deep.

Lastly, do not worry or panic if your baby is cranky before going to bed every night. This is very common and happens with most of the babies. Newborn babies take time to adjust in the outside environment and such problems usually subside in a few months.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Shabnam Desai, Renuka Chandoke, Manpreet Kaur Bajwa, Vinu Gowtham Rao, Priyamvada S. Agnihotri, Rakhi Bhargava, Sheetal Kohli, Tryphena David Jagtap, Rachana Deep and others.

How to Overcome the Guilt of going back to Work after Baby

going back to workAs soon as you realize your maternity leave is coming to an end, you tend to find yourself bound by guilt and obligation. Guilt, of leaving your young baby in someone else’s care, or, even of being eager to return to your previous lifestyle.

A mere thought of being a working mom, can trigger a host of mixed and conflicting emotions. Regardless of how long and hard you have thought before deciding to resume your work-life or how sure you are that it’s the right decision, you need to be well-prepared for back-to-work jitters, post delivery.

Though a few bumps along this way are inevitable, here are a few tips to keep your guilt in check and make this navigation less stressful:

Before going back to work:

  1. Start with working-from-home or take up a part time job before you actually get back to work. This prepares you and your child slowly for the upcoming transition.
  2. Start your hunt for a childcare or a nanny that best suits your child’s needs. Begin this new routine for your child before you are back at work full time.

After joining work:

  1. Have an emergency support system ready in-case your child falls sick or the nanny is on leave or the childcare is closed for a day or two. This keeps the last minute hassle for alternative arrangements at bay.
  2. Plan your daily routine so that you are able to manage your work well. Waking up early after staying up all night with a crying baby, finishing all household chores and then racing off to your job may seem to be a challenging task. But with proper time management you can stay organized and find time for yourself too.
  3. Do not hesitate in seeking support. Take help of your spouse and other family members to sail smoothly through this transitional phase.
  4. Try to take good amount of rest to stay fit and healthy. Do not over-exert yourself and fit at least a little me-time in your daily schedule.
  5. Call up your child’s nanny or the day-care everyday once or twice to ensure your baby is fine. This will also make you feel connected to your baby.

Lastly, remember that whatever you are doing is for your child’s better future. Moreover, it has been observed that kids of working parents learn to grow up independently and more confident. However, one thing that you always need to ensure is – do not forget to spend quality time with your child and give him as much love as possible.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Sushma Mayekar, Padmaja Giri, Priyanka Singh Desai, Mala Ray and Harsha Rajiv.

Help! My Toddler cries Hysterically While his Diaper Change

Diaper changeIf you feel feeding a baby is the only on-going chore that keeps parents busy all the time, you need to think again. You may probably be missing out on something.

Isn’t diapering as much a part of parenting as feeding?

Rather, it may even seem like an ever-lasting task to most of the new parents. You get down to change one and the next and next and it goes on… Changing your child’s diaper is no less than managing to win a battle. Isn’t?

Do you also find yourself in sheer haste while changing your toddler’s diaper? If your answer is nothing but YES, then relax, before it turns into a major tug-of-war between you and your baby.

Don’t be worried! It is common with all the babies. It is because your little bundle of joy hates the concept of getting undressed. The moment he is taken to the changing table he starts wailing, which is the only way he knows to respond when he feels uncomfortable on being exposed.

Let us have a quick look at some of the tips to win a diaper changing battle with your toddler:

  1. Payal Raghuvanshi-Mukund says, “Give any toy or any item to your child to play with while changing his diaper. It could be a comb, powder box or a steel vessel too that keeps him entertained for those 2-3 mins of diaper changing activity”.
  2. Nirali Amin Shah suggests, “Take your toddler to the washroom after regular intervals. This will reduce diaper usage and your toddler will soon learn the correct way to attend to nature’s call”
  3. Show your child the advertisements in which the babies are shown happily getting their diapers changed. Children tend to imitate what other kids do and might learn a lesson from this.
  4. If your toddler hates to get his diaper changed on the table, take him to the washroom and let him stand while you clean him. Using pant style diapers will make it even easier for you to change while your toddler is standing.
  5. If your child cries inconsolably during his diaper change, do check if he has developed a diaper rash which is making him irritable.
  6. Put on some music or sing a rhyme that your toddler loves while changing his diaper. This will divert his attention and make diapering easy for you.

So, you see, there are many ways which can help make diaper changing easy and fun for you and your child too.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Payal Raghuvanshi-Mukund, Neha Trikha Agarwal, Nirali Amin Shah, Arpita Dey, Neha Singla Johri, Manali Langer, Felicita Dsouza, Iffat Alia, Akhila Garimella, Oksana Mishra, Neetu Kundra Tripathi, Hajra Attari, Linu Sanjib Boro, Azima Anjum, Jas Saini, Tabassum Patel, Nisha Verma, Shabnam Desai, Rutu Ayachi, Sasmita Patel, Amreen Siraj, Prerna Sharma, Theeswari Bala, Mita Savaliya, Nidhi Chandnani, Priyanka Saurabh Khanna and Padmaja Giri

Tips to Make Air Travel with Infants Easier

Air travel with baby

No wonder air-travel can be stressful with a baby or toddler!

We know, many moms dread flying with their newborn. Having an extra set of arms, to help handle the baby, is something they always wish for before boarding a flight.  Though air-trip with an infant is strenuous, advance preparation and following a few simple tips can maintain your sanity.

So, put your stress at bay and follow a few simple tips from our SOS MOMs:

  1. Unlike previous trips, look for flights that fit your baby’s schedule best than those that offer cheaper rates. Preferably, choose to fly at night which is your baby’s nap time.
  2. Pack your bag smartly and keep everything at easy access to avoid last minute haste.
  3. Do not forget to pack extra clothes and health care items like medicine, etc.
  4. Pack a bag with your baby’s favourite toys to keep him occupied during the flight. Buy a few new toys too.
  5. Adjust your child’s sleep schedule 2-3 days before departure in order to avoid any jet-lag.
  6. Check your baby’s diaper, just before boarding the flight, in case it needs to be replaced.
  7. Encourage your infant to nurse or suck on his milk bottle during take-off and landing, this helps avoid ear clogging which may make him irritable.
  8. Avoid exceeding your carry-on allowance. Do not carry too many bags inside the flight. Also, try using a back-pack so that you have your hands free to tend to your baby.
  9. Dress in layers, if possible. You may want to change in case your baby spits up on your dress. This goes for your baby too, and will help you control his environment in case it’s too hot (in the rear seats) or too cold.
  10. Air conditioning inside the plane may cause babies to get dehydrated, so always encourage your baby to drink often.

These are a few tips that will help you make your trip less dreadful and more manageable with your baby.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Nancy Gupta, Alisha Gupta, Shabnam Desai, Chital Panchal, Ritu Kasera, Nidhi Pankaj Dang, Charu Sahil Sharma, Pooja Chandrekar, Smaatika Jain, Mala Sharma, Mohanapriya Balu, Vijyashri Sreekanth, Misha Amar Bhattal, Ramsha Naved Khan, Ann Joe Mampilly and Nisha Verma

How to Deal with an Aggressive Toddler?

How to deal with an aggressive toldderOn a bright sunny morning, you are having a fun time with your family on the playground. Suddenly, you hear a loud scream – “Ouch”!

And then begins the inconsolable wailing…

You rush to check if your toddler is fine. But, you are left appalled after what you see.

Your pint-sized vampire has embedded his teeth in his playmate’s arm.

This is even worse than a full-blown tantrum in a supermarket. Isn’t it? You wish you could just sink into the ground before having to confront the parents of the victim child.

All you are left obsessed with is how to handle the situation and stop your child from repeating this embarrassing behaviour again.

Relax and take comfort! Because, this nasty habit in toddlers is not uncommon. Their new growing teeth often find their way into troublesome situations. They tend to resort to such activities with little or no regard for the consequences.

The good news is, there are many ways in which parents can reduce, and finally, get rid of it.

Be vigilant: Always keep an eye on your child and try to understand the triggers that make him bite. Understand the signs that he exhibits before biting. One of the very common reasons why toddlers bite is because they are teething. Provide your toddler with appropriate toys to chew on, during this stage.

Explain your toddler: Teach them that this is a wrong habit and they must not repeat it again. Explain to them that it causes pain.

Help them to express themselves: Toddlers, at this stage, usually have undeveloped language skills, and hence, they find it difficult to express what they feel. This may make them feel frustrated and resort to biting. Therefore, teach them the better ways of expressing love, care, aggression, etc. for others. Moreover, they may even do such things to gain your attention. In such a case, show your complete love and sympathy with the victim, and convey a clear message that this is an acceptable way of gaining attention.

Encourage and praise good behaviour: Tell your child that a good behaviour is always appreciated. Encourage him to be good to others and praise him whenever he behaves well and exhibits empathy.

Let us also look into our SOS Moms’ suggestion:

Sujatha Saikumar says, “Do not be aggressive towards your toddler. Young kids cannot understand negatives, so avoid raising your voice. Use simple yet firm words to make your child understand that it is a wrong behaviour.”

Sangel Brit says, “Don’t lose your temper in front of your child. They tend to imitate you. So be a role model for your child and teach him to be more patient while playing with other kids. Also, give him examples of the good behaviour of his favourite cartoon character.

Shabnam Desai suggests, “Whenever your child shows such an aggressive behaviour, remove him from the situation, take him to park, make him walk on or balance on benches. This will help him concentrate and cool him down. Sometimes kids do wrong things because they see other children do it. They cannot distinguish between right and wrong. So, make sure you correct him and help him understand the difference between good and bad behaviour.

Last but not the least, do not ignore if this habit persists. This may be the beginning of ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). Consult your pediatrician if required and help your child overcome it as early as possible.

We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:

Shabnam Desai, Sujatha Saikumar, Sangel Brit S, Dr. Sukhjeet Jagjit Makkar, Swati Jaiswal and Ketki Gupte Ambegaonkar

How to Deal with the Guilt of not Breastfeeding

SOS-momIn typical Indian societies, every pregnant women or a new mom is made to endure unsolicited counsel from almost everyone around her. Yes, from total strangers too! While, it is easy to disregard some of these unsolicited advices, some may erode a woman’s confidence at a vulnerable time.

People say breastfeeding the baby is best! Or any article on breastfeeding, strongly recommends breast milk for a baby. All this may fill a mother with immense guilt if she is unable to breastfeed her newborn baby. No matter how carefully the words are chosen, no matter how positive the intention behind the advice is, a new mom is likely to feel offended if she has issues breastfeeding her child.

Just like a newborn baby, a new mom too is a very sensitive creature. Especially, when it is something related to her baby.

But, as mommies, we need to steer clear of this guilt. We need to understand that it is imperative to focus on what we can do rather than dwelling on what we cannot. Guilt is a negative emotion and it should be nipped in the bud. There are many other important things that a mother can render her baby with. Fill him with affection, give him sweet hugs, spend as much time as possible with him, give him the best care and the list is endless.

So all the mommies out there, if you are formula feeding your baby you need to come out of that guilt and be extra happy! Let us see what message our SOS moms have for you:

Shabnam Desai says, “You don’t have to feel guilty. Everyone knows it is difficult for some mother to breastfeed their babies. You must always stay relaxed while feeding your baby. Forget all the things around you and concentrate only on feeding. Before you start, always massage and keep hot water soaked napkins on your breasts. This eases the process and reduces the pain. Also, ensure that the baby is latched properly to the breast. Moreover, you can always carry your baby in your arms close to your breast while feeding her the formula milk to give her the same feeling”.

Reet Relhan says, “You can pump the breastmilk and feed it to your baby with a bottle.”

Nisha Lohani shares her experience and says, “Don’t worry, I was also not able to breastfeed my baby and went through the same emotional guilt but now my kid will soon turn 5 and I don’t see any issue in his development. In fact, from formula milk kids get all the required nutrients which may lack in breast milk as it depends on a mother’s diet”.

Shraddha Kotwal says, “Breastfeeding your baby as long as it is required for the baby, is the most ideal situation, but don’t forget that you too are a human being. It is okay if you feel like switching to formula if you feel the process is painful. Breastfeeding is not the ONLY thing that you do for your little one, it’s just one of the many things”.

Lastly, the ultimate thing that you need to ensure is that your baby is happy and healthy. Remember, all that your baby needs is your time, immense love, undivided attention, care and support. So, even if breastfeeding seems impossible, do all the other things that you can and make your baby feel special.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time and giving their valuable responses:

Shabnam Desai, Reet Relhan, Nisha Lohani, Riya Bhanji, Iffat Alia, Shraddha Kotwal and Anusha Patil.

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