You feel ‘mine’ and ‘no’ are her favourite words. “Why doesn’t she share her belongings?” – becomes a matter of serious concern for you. You dread that such a selfish attitude may end up leaving your child friendless.
But is your child a selfish, indeed? Or she is just acting her age?
For a two-year-old, anything that strikes her fancy becomes an extension of herself. While she is just beginning to comprehend possession, she develops a strong sense of self which restrains her from sharing.
Sharing does not come easily. So, here we are with a few tips to make the art of sharing a lot less stressful for both you and your child:
Teach your Child to Take Turns:
If your child refuses to part with something, practice taking turns. Tell your child that she’ll get to play with the toy for a few fixed minutes and as soon as the time is up, it will be her playmate’s turn to play with that toy for the same fixed amount of time.
Turn Sharing into Fun:
Play some cooperative games with your child and show her how players play together towards a common goal. Give her snacks to eat with her playmates and tell her that she will get to eat them only when she shares them.
Set an Example:
Kids pick up what you do and love to imitate you. So, ensure that you set the right example before them. Show your child how you share your things with your friends and relatives. Also, do not forget to share your things with her, like your ice-cream, your fancy clips, etc.
Do not force or punish:
If your feel your child is reluctant to share, do not scold or name her selfish. This will only increase the resentment than generosity. Instead, talk it out. Use positive reinforcement and make her understand the importance of sharing calmly. However, do not forget that it is perfectly alright for your kid to hold back certain items.
Praise your child:
Always remember to shower your kid with plenty of praise when she chooses to loosen her grip on something. This will motivate her to share in order to gain your love and praise.
And while you do all this, remember to be patient. Your child is sure to learn sharing, with time.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses
Yes, it is!
Always available! Always at correct temperature! And always bottle-free!
Breastfeeding is no less than a commitment which requires dedication and endurance. It may seem really difficult, if you are a first-time mommy or when you are just starting to breastfeed.
But, do not worry! The difficulty or the pain decreases as you continue to breastfeed. It gets simpler and easier with time. So do not give up if it seems challenging, because it’s worth it! All you need to ensure is, you are well prepared before you begin with it.
Here is a list of all the breastfeeding essentials that a new-mom must stock in order to make breastfeeding easy and a lovely experience:
Breastfeeding may feel painful to almost everyone in the beginning. Your nipples may get sore, cracked or may even bleed. But don’t give up, because in most cases this pain is absolutely normal. Instead, ask your physician to prescribe some good medicated cream to soothe you nipples.
They offer a great level of comfort while breastfeeding your baby and are of real help to make nursing easier.
It is a must-have breastfeeding essential which provides support to your back and arm while you feed your baby. It helps to keep your baby elevated and holds him in the right position to nurse. Not only this, it also helps in reducing gastric reflux issues in babies that are common during breastfeeding.
It is quiet likely that you leak breast milk quite often after delivery. In order to avoid any embarrassing situation, using breast pads to keep your clothes clean and dry is a good idea.
They protect your clothes when your baby spits-up or are useful to wipe spit-up from your baby’s mouth while burping your baby.
Button-down Shirts or Maternity Nursing gown:
Simple button-down outfits always make it easier to breastfeed your baby without having to change clothes.
If you are a working mom you must not forget to purchase this. It helps ensure that your baby has his food ready whenever he needs it even when you are not around.
With these few things at your easy reach you are sure to experience a lovely time developing a sweet bond with your baby while breastfeeding.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time and giving their valuable responses:
Sudha Prakash, Gayathri Ramachandran, Richa Arora, Gulnoza Usmanova, Upasana Tapan Roy, Eisha Todankar, Priyamvada Agnohotri, Deepti Khurana Mehta and Ankita Gupta
While for some babies bath time is the most fun, for others it can be the most stressful time. Baby’s bath time is one of those several moments that create a special bond between the parents and the baby. But if it is the very first time, it can be a nerve racking experience for parents.
It is always good to take someone’s help for the first couple of times. Initially, most doctors recommend a bath every alternate day and head-wash once or twice a week for babies. So you need to gather all the required items to make your baby’s bath time enjoyable, comfortable and safe.
Check out our list and get ready to have a splash during your newborn’s bath time with these must-have bathing and grooming essentials:
Newborn baby bath tub: This infant tub is meant only for newborns as they cannot sit up or control any of their body parts. One of best advantages of this tub is that you can use it in sink or any other easy-to-reach places. So, if you have had a C-section or there are grandparents helping you out, you are sure to experience another level of convenience.
Baby Soap: This is not really important to have initially but you can always buy one if you wish to. Pick the one that is specially made for baby’s sensitive skin.
Baby Shampoo: Buy a shampoo that is mild and natural, and meant only for babies.
Nail Clippers: Trimming your baby’s nails can be really intimidating. If you feel nervous using scissors to cut the nails, buy nail clippers as they are safer than scissors. Prefer cutting nails immediately after bath time when the nails are supple.
Hair Brush: Buy a gentle brush for the little sprouts of your baby’s hair. Do not use an adult hair brush.
Bath towel or hooded towel: Keep at least 2 towels, one for wiping your baby and one for wrapping.
Soft washcloth: Keep one to clean your baby nicely and gently.
Baby Lotion: Give your baby a gentle massage with the lotion after bath.
Gather all these bathing essentials and make your baby’s bath time a fun. Even if you are a first time mommy, do not panic. Relax and play with your little one for a while before giving him bath, and your baby is sure to enjoy it!
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:
Sunaina Vijan Sachdeva, Poonam Arya, Ruchita Sharma, Rashmi Ashtwal and Madhuyogs Seera
You would definitely call yourself the luckiest parent if your newborn is an ideal traveller and sleeps for a good deal of time while you are on your first day-out after baby. Your excursion can be a fun-time only if your little bundle of joy allows it to be.
Ever thought, what all baby gears would be required to keep him comfortable and cheerful?
Don’t be anxious!
We bring to you a list of items you must carry to make your excursion easier. So, if you are planning your first day-out with your newborn, start gathering these must-haves for your baby’s bag:
- Formula feed powder box and lukewarm water
- Sterilized bottles and nipples
- Breast pumps (if required)
- Washable bibs
- Sun hat
- Baby wipes
- Diaper rash cream
- Spare clothes, socks, and booties
- Disinfectant hand gel
- Baby wash, baby powder and baby lotion
- Car seat
- Collapsible stroller
- Baby’s medicine kit
- Baby Blankets
- Plastic bags (you might need them to keep soiled diapers or clothes)
- Extra Pacifiers (if required)
- Your baby’s toys
- Breastfeeding cover
Aren’t you surprised with the amount of stuff your little traveller requires?
Yes, we all are!
So before you forget anything, start packing all of these a few days before your day-out to avoid the last minute hassle.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:
Tashfiya Shadab, Silja Jay Nair, Jyotsana Verma, Nupur Jain, Vidya Mahendran, Anisha D Guglia, Harsha Rajiv, Pari Mohit Rai, Linu Sanjib Boro, Ruchita Sharma, Sheetal Khakhar, Alolika Datta Gupta Das, Neha Singla Johri, Sur Himantikaa, Lavanta Prakash, Neha Alok Pal and Sapana Wagh
It is, indeed!
These pearly whites not only add to your baby’s charming smile but to your exuberance too! Being a young and new mommy you surely find yourself unaware of when to begin with oral care for your baby or how to go about cleaning his teeth. It is likely, that you probably are a little scared of hurting your bundle of joy while trying to render him the best oral care.
So if you ask when to start your baby’s oral care, the answer is – even before the baby sports his first tooth.
Yes! It is a healthy habit to wipe your baby’s gums with a soft wet washcloth every day during bath time or before sleep time. Making your baby accustomed to this daily routine of mouth-cleaning helps make it easier for him to transition into toothbrushing later.
Therefore, we list here a few tips to help you ensure healthy oral care for your baby:
- If you are not following a routine of cleaning your baby’s gums every day, it is strongly recommended that you start with his oral care the moment you notice him teething.
- Do not use brushes with bristles for your young one. Introduce a small and soft toothbrush designed especially for babies.
- Initially, use only water and toothbrush to clean your little one’s teeth. Continue this until your baby is 18-month-old.
- Start using toothpaste that has low-fluoride content once your baby is 18-months-old. Take very small amount of baby-friendly toothpaste to clean his teeth.
- Change your baby’s toothbrush every 2 months. It will also add to his enthusiasm to brush with a colourful new brush.
- Wondering how often you should brush your baby’s pearly whites? If you have started feeding him solids then it is recommended that you brush his teeth at least twice a day.
Ways to brush your baby’s teeth:
- Hold or place your baby such that you can see his mouth clearly and he feels comfortable.
- Hold your baby’s chin in your hand and rest his head against something.
- Clean his teeth in a soft and circular motion.
- Lift his lip gently to brush the front and the back of the teeth, and the gum line.
We hope these suggestions help you take best oral care of your baby. Moreover, make your baby’s brushing time a fun, and help him form a healthy habit of brushing teeth twice daily.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:
Kshitija Shevade, Preitz Kory Patil and Prabha Peri
If your answer is Yes, it’s time to pack your hospital bag with all the essentials you may require during labour, birth and for your most awaited ‘bundle of joy’.
We do not intend to say that your departure to maternity hospital would be a frantic one as the Bollywood wants you to believe. But, isn’t it a good idea to be prepared a few weeks before your due date?
Of course, it is!
It may also prove handy in case you need to go into labour a little early. So be prepared now, if you want to steer clear of any last minute scramble to fill your hospital bag amidst contractions.
Here we present to you a checklist. Tick off all the essentials that you need to pack before you go into labour:
Things to Pack for Mum
Camera: You may want to capture those first few moments of your newborn baby. So, don’t miss to pack a camera along with its charger.
Backless slippers: Keep backless slippers that are easy to wear and remove.
Daily need items: Don’t forget to keep your toothbrush, toothpaste, comb, deodorant, shampoo, soap, lotion, hair dryer, towel, etc.
Sanitary pads: Though hospitals provide sanitary napkins but you may feel more comfortable with your favourite brand. Also, keep pads that are designed for heavy flow.
Important documents: Arrange all your health related documents properly in a folder. E.g.- health insurance card, picture id, hospital registration forms and other documents of your medical history.
Nightgowns or robe: Keep a loose and warm robe to wear at the time of delivery. If you wish to breastfeed your baby do not forget to pack 2-3 front-open nightgowns for easy breastfeeding.
Maternity Bras: Keep a few comfortable and supporting bras. Also, pack some nursing bras if you wish to breastfeed. Steer clear of underwire bras.
Socks: Many mums-to-be complain of their feet being cold during delivery. So keep 2-3 pair of socks, in case one gets soiled you have an extra pair to keep your feet warm.
Lip Balm: Labour wards are kept warm which may dry out your lips quickly. So keep your lip balm at easy reach.
Nursing covers: You would want some privacy and discretion while nursing your baby in front of others. So, do not miss to pack a nursing cover in your hospital bag.
Things to Pack for Baby:
Mittens: Your baby might have long nails. To prevent him/her from scratching his face or other parts of the body you may need to cover his/her hands with mittens.
Wipes: Purchase and pack wipes that are specially designed for babies and sensitive skin.
Diapers or nappies: Pack a few cloth nappies or disposable diapers for your newborn.
Swaddling cloth: Newborns feel comfortable when they are swaddled. Keep a few receiving blankets or clothes ready to swaddle your baby.
Hand Towels: Keep a few hand towels to wipe your little one’s mouth, hands and feet.
Rubber Under-sheet: To keep the bed from getting wet with pee, spit up or breast milk, keep a few waterproof sheet protectors.
Socks or Booties: Keep a pair of socks or booties for your newborn.
Cotton Outfits: Pack a couple of soft cotton jhablas or all-in-one suits for babies.
Nursing Pillows: In order to reduce strain in your arms, use nursing pillow to rest your baby on while breastfeeding.
Small Size Feeding Bottle: You may need to bottle-feed your newborn, so keep a bottle ready so that you do not need to rush at the eleventh hour.
Anjali Gupta, Shahi Sofia, Shilpi Saha, Navdeep Sandhu, Upasana Panda, Richa Arora, Priyanka Saurabh Khanna, Robe Samarth Gaonkar, Madhuri Dommety, Pari Mohit Rai and Ravalita Patra
You would definitely agree that this is something very rare. Wouldn’t you?
Though, experts strongly disapprove the concept of spanking, most parents still use it to discipline their kids.
Spanking – a mild form of punishment, was an acceptable part of parenting in the 70’s. But today there are frequent debates on why spanking is a bad idea. Whether or not parents believe in hitting, their kids do receive spanking at some point of time or the other. Most parents resort to spanking either because they are stressed out or frustrated, or out of the fear of having no other options.
Spanking is not a positive approach to discipline a child. However, if you happen to lose it occasionally and end up spanking your child, it is not going to cause any harm to him or your relationship forever. It is more serious an issue if you hit your child often or if it’s a part of your dominant parenting.
Reasons you should not spank your Child:
- Hitting teaches kids to hit: Children love to imitate what their parents do. When they get spanked often, they interpret hitting as something acceptable to stop/avoid something undesirable.
- Hitting demeans self-image: Kids are usually too young to understand the reason for a whack. It takes a lot of efforts for a child to build a healthy self-image and it gets affected negatively when he is spanked for doing something wrong. He starts believing that he is ‘bad’.
- Hitting promotes anger: Kids often see punishment as unfair. Hence they are more likely to rebel and display anger in protest.
Ways to Stop Yourself from Spanking:
- Explain the consequences: The most effective way to let your child know he has done something wrong is to make the point that undesirable acts can lead to undesirable results.
- Give Yourself Timeout: Timeouts are as helpful for parents as for kids. Frustration or stress may be the reasons you end up spanking your child. So, if you feel you are losing your sanity, move out of the situation and relax.
- Let the consequences happen: Do not feel that it’s always your duty to prevent each and every consequence. Sometimes it is best to allow the consequences to happen and then help your child learn a lesson from it.
Sheeja Narayanan, Robe Samarth Gaonkar and Vandana Anand.
No Doubt, Television is one of the best babysitters as it keeps the toddler happily absorbed for hours when parents wish to have some me-time, get started with cooking or sneak in any other household chores.
So, knowingly or unknowingly, it is none other than parents who are encouraging and entrenching TV habits in kids. Gradually, this becomes such an integral part of their lives that it seems just impossible to pull them away from the TV.
But, isn’t risking your toddler’s brain development too big a price to pay for keeping him busy?
If you feel the answer is Yes, then why not try out some good alternatives to TV to keep our sweet little toddlers busy:
- Involve your child in whatever you do: Narrate to your toddler the activity that you are doing. Try to keep him occupied by offering him to do the easiest part of that chore. For example: if you are kneading the dough, give your child a small portion of the same and allow him to play with it.
- Prepare a toy basket for your toddler: Always keep a toy basket handy that contains your child’s favourite stuff. For example: some soft-toys, puzzles, cartoon books, etc.
- Play some educational CDs: Purchase a few interactive audio-visual CDs that teach kids numbers and alphabets in a playful manner. Also, play CDs that contain story narration, it helps your child develop listening skills.
- Go creative: Sit with your child and spend time doing some simple craft activities. This will not only enhance his gross and fine motor skills but will also improve his imagination.
- Reduce your own TV time: Kids tend to follow what their parents do. So, make sure that you don’t stay glued to your TV screens for long. This will convey a wrong message to your child that it is acceptable to watch TV for hours.
Lastly, do not wait till this hazardous habit occupies a permanent space in your child’s daily routine. Help him grow up more creative by limiting his TV time and encouraging good habits.
Dilbir Kaur, Sushma Mayekar, Gagan Sandhu, Mala Ray, Jas Saini, Rakhee Bhargava, Rachna Khandelwal, Asfia Hashmi and Ramya Venugopal
Don’t you all agree that it is just impossible to get around a few things with babies, no matter what we try? One of those things is – baby’s hysteric crying. This is because, crying is the only way they express their hunger, irritation, pain, a desire for sleep, fear and so on.
But, how are we parents supposed to comprehend what our baby is trying to tell? Moreover, it becomes even more difficult when this crying turns into a daily night-routine for our baby. It may leave mommies absolutely exhausted handling a crying baby at night, which is their only time for some rest after a long tiring day.
So, if you are also one of the mommies trying to figure out a way to soothe your crying baby at night, let us have a look at the suggestions from some of our SOS Moms:
“Your baby may be suffering from colic i.e. gas in stomach. One of the home remedies that offers quick relief is – prepare a paste of 2 pinch Asafoetidia mixed with a spoonful of warm water and apply on the baby’s stomach around the naval”, suggests Renuka Chandoke.
“Gastric problem is very common in newborns, which makes them uncomfortable at night. Consult a paediatrician and give him gripe water or Colicad drops once before bedtime. These will relieve his stomach and he will be able to sleep peacefully”, say moms – Manpreet Kaur Bajwa and Vinu Gowtham Rao.
“To avoid gas problems, burp your baby after every feed”, suggests Priyamvada S. Agnihotri.
“Colic pain usually hits all newborns and lasts for a few months. In order to curtail it make your baby sleep on your stomach or on his stomach. This technique is known as Kangaroo Mother Care and works wonders in most of the illnesses”, says Rakhi Bhargava.
“If you are breastfeeding your child, avoid eating food that are likely to cause gastric problems”, suggests Sheetal Kohli.
“Babies may also cry due to itching. So, ensure that you clean your baby’s nappy area nicely and apply powder every day before putting him to sleep”, says Tryphena David Jagtap.
“Give your baby a gentle massage and bedtime bath with Luke warm water, this prepares him for a good night sleep”, says Rachana Deep.
Lastly, do not worry or panic if your baby is cranky before going to bed every night. This is very common and happens with most of the babies. Newborn babies take time to adjust in the outside environment and such problems usually subside in a few months.
Shabnam Desai, Renuka Chandoke, Manpreet Kaur Bajwa, Vinu Gowtham Rao, Priyamvada S. Agnihotri, Rakhi Bhargava, Sheetal Kohli, Tryphena David Jagtap, Rachana Deep and others.
As soon as you realize your maternity leave is coming to an end, you tend to find yourself bound by guilt and obligation. Guilt, of leaving your young baby in someone else’s care, or, even of being eager to return to your previous lifestyle.
A mere thought of being a working mom, can trigger a host of mixed and conflicting emotions. Regardless of how long and hard you have thought before deciding to resume your work-life or how sure you are that it’s the right decision, you need to be well-prepared for back-to-work jitters, post delivery.
Though a few bumps along this way are inevitable, here are a few tips to keep your guilt in check and make this navigation less stressful:
Before going back to work:
- Start with working-from-home or take up a part time job before you actually get back to work. This prepares you and your child slowly for the upcoming transition.
- Start your hunt for a childcare or a nanny that best suits your child’s needs. Begin this new routine for your child before you are back at work full time.
After joining work:
- Have an emergency support system ready in-case your child falls sick or the nanny is on leave or the childcare is closed for a day or two. This keeps the last minute hassle for alternative arrangements at bay.
- Plan your daily routine so that you are able to manage your work well. Waking up early after staying up all night with a crying baby, finishing all household chores and then racing off to your job may seem to be a challenging task. But with proper time management you can stay organized and find time for yourself too.
- Do not hesitate in seeking support. Take help of your spouse and other family members to sail smoothly through this transitional phase.
- Try to take good amount of rest to stay fit and healthy. Do not over-exert yourself and fit at least a little me-time in your daily schedule.
- Call up your child’s nanny or the day-care everyday once or twice to ensure your baby is fine. This will also make you feel connected to your baby.
Lastly, remember that whatever you are doing is for your child’s better future. Moreover, it has been observed that kids of working parents learn to grow up independently and more confident. However, one thing that you always need to ensure is – do not forget to spend quality time with your child and give him as much love as possible.
Sushma Mayekar, Padmaja Giri, Priyanka Singh Desai, Mala Ray and Harsha Rajiv.
Isn’t diapering as much a part of parenting as feeding?
Rather, it may even seem like an ever-lasting task to most of the new parents. You get down to change one and the next and next and it goes on… Changing your child’s diaper is no less than managing to win a battle. Isn’t?
Do you also find yourself in sheer haste while changing your toddler’s diaper? If your answer is nothing but YES, then relax, before it turns into a major tug-of-war between you and your baby.
Don’t be worried! It is common with all the babies. It is because your little bundle of joy hates the concept of getting undressed. The moment he is taken to the changing table he starts wailing, which is the only way he knows to respond when he feels uncomfortable on being exposed.
Let us have a quick look at some of the tips to win a diaper changing battle with your toddler:
- Payal Raghuvanshi-Mukund says, “Give any toy or any item to your child to play with while changing his diaper. It could be a comb, powder box or a steel vessel too that keeps him entertained for those 2-3 mins of diaper changing activity”.
- Nirali Amin Shah suggests, “Take your toddler to the washroom after regular intervals. This will reduce diaper usage and your toddler will soon learn the correct way to attend to nature’s call”
- Show your child the advertisements in which the babies are shown happily getting their diapers changed. Children tend to imitate what other kids do and might learn a lesson from this.
- If your toddler hates to get his diaper changed on the table, take him to the washroom and let him stand while you clean him. Using pant style diapers will make it even easier for you to change while your toddler is standing.
- If your child cries inconsolably during his diaper change, do check if he has developed a diaper rash which is making him irritable.
- Put on some music or sing a rhyme that your toddler loves while changing his diaper. This will divert his attention and make diapering easy for you.
So, you see, there are many ways which can help make diaper changing easy and fun for you and your child too.
Payal Raghuvanshi-Mukund, Neha Trikha Agarwal, Nirali Amin Shah, Arpita Dey, Neha Singla Johri, Manali Langer, Felicita Dsouza, Iffat Alia, Akhila Garimella, Oksana Mishra, Neetu Kundra Tripathi, Hajra Attari, Linu Sanjib Boro, Azima Anjum, Jas Saini, Tabassum Patel, Nisha Verma, Shabnam Desai, Rutu Ayachi, Sasmita Patel, Amreen Siraj, Prerna Sharma, Theeswari Bala, Mita Savaliya, Nidhi Chandnani, Priyanka Saurabh Khanna and Padmaja Giri
No wonder air-travel can be stressful with a baby or toddler!
We know, many moms dread flying with their newborn. Having an extra set of arms, to help handle the baby, is something they always wish for before boarding a flight. Though air-trip with an infant is strenuous, advance preparation and following a few simple tips can maintain your sanity.
So, put your stress at bay and follow a few simple tips from our SOS MOMs:
- Unlike previous trips, look for flights that fit your baby’s schedule best than those that offer cheaper rates. Preferably, choose to fly at night which is your baby’s nap time.
- Pack your bag smartly and keep everything at easy access to avoid last minute haste.
- Do not forget to pack extra clothes and health care items like medicine, etc.
- Pack a bag with your baby’s favourite toys to keep him occupied during the flight. Buy a few new toys too.
- Adjust your child’s sleep schedule 2-3 days before departure in order to avoid any jet-lag.
- Check your baby’s diaper, just before boarding the flight, in case it needs to be replaced.
- Encourage your infant to nurse or suck on his milk bottle during take-off and landing, this helps avoid ear clogging which may make him irritable.
- Avoid exceeding your carry-on allowance. Do not carry too many bags inside the flight. Also, try using a back-pack so that you have your hands free to tend to your baby.
- Dress in layers, if possible. You may want to change in case your baby spits up on your dress. This goes for your baby too, and will help you control his environment in case it’s too hot (in the rear seats) or too cold.
- Air conditioning inside the plane may cause babies to get dehydrated, so always encourage your baby to drink often.
These are a few tips that will help you make your trip less dreadful and more manageable with your baby.
Nancy Gupta, Alisha Gupta, Shabnam Desai, Chital Panchal, Ritu Kasera, Nidhi Pankaj Dang, Charu Sahil Sharma, Pooja Chandrekar, Smaatika Jain, Mala Sharma, Mohanapriya Balu, Vijyashri Sreekanth, Misha Amar Bhattal, Ramsha Naved Khan, Ann Joe Mampilly and Nisha Verma
And then begins the inconsolable wailing…
You rush to check if your toddler is fine. But, you are left appalled after what you see.
Your pint-sized vampire has embedded his teeth in his playmate’s arm.
This is even worse than a full-blown tantrum in a supermarket. Isn’t it? You wish you could just sink into the ground before having to confront the parents of the victim child.
All you are left obsessed with is how to handle the situation and stop your child from repeating this embarrassing behaviour again.
Relax and take comfort! Because, this nasty habit in toddlers is not uncommon. Their new growing teeth often find their way into troublesome situations. They tend to resort to such activities with little or no regard for the consequences.
The good news is, there are many ways in which parents can reduce, and finally, get rid of it.
Be vigilant: Always keep an eye on your child and try to understand the triggers that make him bite. Understand the signs that he exhibits before biting. One of the very common reasons why toddlers bite is because they are teething. Provide your toddler with appropriate toys to chew on, during this stage.
Explain your toddler: Teach them that this is a wrong habit and they must not repeat it again. Explain to them that it causes pain.
Help them to express themselves: Toddlers, at this stage, usually have undeveloped language skills, and hence, they find it difficult to express what they feel. This may make them feel frustrated and resort to biting. Therefore, teach them the better ways of expressing love, care, aggression, etc. for others. Moreover, they may even do such things to gain your attention. In such a case, show your complete love and sympathy with the victim, and convey a clear message that this is an acceptable way of gaining attention.
Encourage and praise good behaviour: Tell your child that a good behaviour is always appreciated. Encourage him to be good to others and praise him whenever he behaves well and exhibits empathy.
Let us also look into our SOS Moms’ suggestion:
Sujatha Saikumar says, “Do not be aggressive towards your toddler. Young kids cannot understand negatives, so avoid raising your voice. Use simple yet firm words to make your child understand that it is a wrong behaviour.”
Sangel Brit says, “Don’t lose your temper in front of your child. They tend to imitate you. So be a role model for your child and teach him to be more patient while playing with other kids. Also, give him examples of the good behaviour of his favourite cartoon character.
Shabnam Desai suggests, “Whenever your child shows such an aggressive behaviour, remove him from the situation, take him to park, make him walk on or balance on benches. This will help him concentrate and cool him down. Sometimes kids do wrong things because they see other children do it. They cannot distinguish between right and wrong. So, make sure you correct him and help him understand the difference between good and bad behaviour.
Last but not the least, do not ignore if this habit persists. This may be the beginning of ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). Consult your pediatrician if required and help your child overcome it as early as possible.
Shabnam Desai, Sujatha Saikumar, Sangel Brit S, Dr. Sukhjeet Jagjit Makkar, Swati Jaiswal and Ketki Gupte Ambegaonkar
In typical Indian societies, every pregnant women or a new mom is made to endure unsolicited counsel from almost everyone around her. Yes, from total strangers too! While, it is easy to disregard some of these unsolicited advices, some may erode a woman’s confidence at a vulnerable time.
People say breastfeeding the baby is best! Or any article on breastfeeding, strongly recommends breast milk for a baby. All this may fill a mother with immense guilt if she is unable to breastfeed her newborn baby. No matter how carefully the words are chosen, no matter how positive the intention behind the advice is, a new mom is likely to feel offended if she has issues breastfeeding her child.
Just like a newborn baby, a new mom too is a very sensitive creature. Especially, when it is something related to her baby.
But, as mommies, we need to steer clear of this guilt. We need to understand that it is imperative to focus on what we can do rather than dwelling on what we cannot. Guilt is a negative emotion and it should be nipped in the bud. There are many other important things that a mother can render her baby with. Fill him with affection, give him sweet hugs, spend as much time as possible with him, give him the best care and the list is endless.
So all the mommies out there, if you are formula feeding your baby you need to come out of that guilt and be extra happy! Let us see what message our SOS moms have for you:
Shabnam Desai says, “You don’t have to feel guilty. Everyone knows it is difficult for some mother to breastfeed their babies. You must always stay relaxed while feeding your baby. Forget all the things around you and concentrate only on feeding. Before you start, always massage and keep hot water soaked napkins on your breasts. This eases the process and reduces the pain. Also, ensure that the baby is latched properly to the breast. Moreover, you can always carry your baby in your arms close to your breast while feeding her the formula milk to give her the same feeling”.
Reet Relhan says, “You can pump the breastmilk and feed it to your baby with a bottle.”
Nisha Lohani shares her experience and says, “Don’t worry, I was also not able to breastfeed my baby and went through the same emotional guilt but now my kid will soon turn 5 and I don’t see any issue in his development. In fact, from formula milk kids get all the required nutrients which may lack in breast milk as it depends on a mother’s diet”.
Shraddha Kotwal says, “Breastfeeding your baby as long as it is required for the baby, is the most ideal situation, but don’t forget that you too are a human being. It is okay if you feel like switching to formula if you feel the process is painful. Breastfeeding is not the ONLY thing that you do for your little one, it’s just one of the many things”.
Lastly, the ultimate thing that you need to ensure is that your baby is happy and healthy. Remember, all that your baby needs is your time, immense love, undivided attention, care and support. So, even if breastfeeding seems impossible, do all the other things that you can and make your baby feel special.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time and giving their valuable responses:
Shabnam Desai, Reet Relhan, Nisha Lohani, Riya Bhanji, Iffat Alia, Shraddha Kotwal and Anusha Patil.
Child separation anxiety is a terrible feeling that can hit any child at any phase of his growing period. Most kids become acclimated to the day-care very easily and enjoy spending their day with other kids. On the other hand, there are many children who find it extremely depressing to stay away from their parents, even after following months of day-care routine.
The act of juggling between career and children has never been so easy. Today, while mommies wish to be there for their little kiddos all the time they also wish to ensure that they are able to provide for their kids as well.
No matter how good caregiver or day-care a mother chooses for her toddler, if he/she exhibits reluctance to come to terms with it, she is sure to develop guilt that makes her question her own parenting style. So, in order to make this a fun place for kids, parents must try to understand what their child needs and how well a day-care can look after him/her in their absence.
Are you one of those parents who face problems while leaving your child at day care?
If your answer is Yes, do not miss to have a quick look at our SOS MOMs’ tips and views regarding the issue. They might prove helpful to comfort your child.
- Reet Relhan says, “Try to find out how they treat and handle your kid at day care. Chances are there is something/ someone she doesn’t like or is uncomfortable with. Do not let it go unnoticed”.
- Mala Ray says, “Most of the kids cry when they go to school or day-care in the beginning. But in most of the cases it does not take more than a week or a month’s time for them to get used to it. So, if your child cries even after 1-2 months, you must consider changing her day-care.”
- “Enrolling your child in a day-care too early is a major reason why he/she might find it difficult to stay away from parents. Regardless of how good the day-care is, it cannot give your baby the affection and care that you, as a parent, can. Moreover, early day-care routine may also develop emotional insecurity in a child. So, consider the option of a day-care for your child only when he is at least 2 years of age”, suggests moms Pooja Chawla and Priyanka Verma.
- “Communicate with your child as much as possible and try to understand her views about the day-care. Ask her what she likes and dislikes abouther day-care and assure her that you are there to resolve her problems. Many kids complain that they are uncomfortable with other kid’s behaviour. In such a case, talk to the day-care authorities and ensure your child is comfortable spending his day there”, says Chitra Vijayan.
- “If your child cries too much, try to take a week off and spend a day in day care with her. Then begin with sending her for shorter periods. Ask the day care people to introduce some games which she could participate in, to keep her engaged”, says Athira Somashekar.
- Give your child some of his favourite toys and make her caregivers aware of the games she likes to play. Ask them to involve your child in activities that she is interested in.
- Do not forget to call up the day-care authorities after a few minutes of leaving your child there to check if she is still crying. It feels content when caregiver tells that the child cried only for 5-10mins and is playing happily now.
Lastly, do make a BIG deal, when you return to pick up your child. Remember, kids need your love and attention. Give them as much of your time and care as possible. If leaving your child at day-care seems to hamper her positive emotional growth, do not hesitate to take an off from your work and spend some quality time with her.
Reet Relhan, Mala Ray, Pooja Chawla, Priyanka Verma, Chitra Vijayan and many more…
The waiter hands over a menu and you start to stare at it with utter delight.
You choose your favourites and place an order.
You now sit relaxed! A few minutes pass peacefully. Your child is calm and enjoying. And suddenly the next moment, there is an uncontrollable whimpering; whining and finally, you are persistently asked to leave for home.
The scene changes completely! Everyone is looking at you and your face is burning with embarrassment. You somehow manage to finish you dinner in haste and leave before all this forces you to have your own meltdown.
Aren’t these episodes common with almost all the toddlers?
You would not dare to deny if you are or have been a mother to a finicky toddler (unless you are one of those rare-to-find lucky mommies) ;)
No matter how sweet and adorable Kids are, they sure can create big scenes!
Tantrums and meltdowns are facts of toddler life. So take heart – such behaviour is not a reflection of your parenting skills. It does not mean you are raising a tyrant, rather, it simply means that your toddler knows no other way than throwing tantrums in response to his frustration.
Let us try out these simple tricks to defuse our kiddo’s tantrums:
“Give them some small tasks, like – name the animal you can see around you or what all colors you can see in the hall, ask them to put a few things into the bag, etc. Remember, you need to be creative each time, because kids soon get hold of previous ideas”, says Nidhi Vijay.
Involve your child
“Our little toddlers are great attention seekers. For them, they are the centre of the universe. So give them your attention by involving them in everything you do. Chances are they may not understand anything but you can still talk to them about whatever you are doing”, Suggests Prabha Peri.
Walk Away or Ignore
Noopur Choubey Bajpai says, “Most of the time, toddlers resort to tantrums because they think they will get what they want if they behave badly. If you do not pay heed to them and just walk away, they may give up and listen to what you have to say.”
Keep your cool
“Last but not least, understand that your kid is still very young and needs you the most. Whenever there are guests at home, they may feel you are giving more importance to guests as compared to them. So ensure that you give your undivided attention to them even when there are people around. Once they are grown up enough to understand things and with your gentle guidance they will stop throwing tantrums, automatically. Remember, do not shout, yell or spank your children. This will only leave a negative impact on them. However, do not always give into all their unreasonable demands just to comfort them, it may worsen the situation”, says Shabnam Desai.
Just be patient and give them time. They will soon turn into sensible and responsible individuals.
Shabnam Desai, Noopur Choubey Bajpai, Prabha Peri, Keithellakpam Memchoubi, Nidhi Vijay
Special mentions to the father: Yogesh Divekar
If your answer is Yes, then you must read this post!
Kissing a baby on lips can be dangerous. How would you feel if you kissed a baby on lips only to find out a few days later that you were sick? Then the baby too falls sick, gets hospitalized or even dies because you passed on your sickness to him. Yes, it happens! Also, kissing on the mouth is a great way to give your children cavities.
Almost all parents face this situation, where they find themselves speechless or unable to understand how to stop visitors from kissing their little ones. Aren’t there other ways to express love for a baby?
Our SOS Moms have some useful suggestion for parents who face this often. Let us take a look at them:
Inderpreet Kaur says, “Learn to say ‘NO’, because only you know what is best for your child”.
Yashdeep Bhatt suggests, “Keep a sanitizer bottle at your home and give it to every single visitor to use it before they hold your baby in hand. This will make them more conscious. You can also apply some sanitizer on your hands before touching your baby in front of them. While applying, don’t forget to talk about the infections and how sensitive babies are to bacteria and viruses. It may look like some over-protective drama. But this will make them conscious and may help avoid the situation to some extent”.
Claudia Vandana too has a wonderful idea to steer clear of such a situation. She says, “Tell people that the baby is throwing up. Tell a lie that you just kissed your baby and she threw up immediately on you. People would not dare to take a chance of kissing the baby”.
Lastly, the trick that works for most of the mommies is – “ Simply tell your visitors that doctor has advised not to kiss or touch the baby on face owing to some allergy that he/she is prone to”.
This has worked wonders for most of the parents! Give it a try!
Kritika Kapoor Bhatia, Inderpreet Kaur, Rathi Madan, Shuvra Das Mandal, Shivani Garg, Prabha Victor, Esha Jain Gupta, Shabnam Desai, Shailaja Krishna, Yashdeep Bhatt, Shilpa Khandelwal, Shilpi Saha, Chandana Jakkani , Sapana Wagh, Tina R Kawadia, Manju Janarthanan, Prabha Peri, Joyadrita Ragavendran, Felicita Dsouza, Prabh K Matharoo, Divya Aneja Alawadhi, Pratibha Sharma, Pronami Chakraborty , Robe Samarth Gaonkar and Karishma Jain.
Just like there is no best style of parenting, there is no fixed ‘type’ of kids. Every child is a unique individual and requires different upbringing from other kids. The parenting style that may be best for one child may not work for the other. It is only parents who can understand their child better than anyone else. Sometimes, it appears to be nerve wracking for parents to deal with toddler tantrums which are completely new and more challenging each passing day.
One of the biggest tantrums that toddlers throw is during the meal time. Poor moms can be seen doing all possible things to coax their toddler into eating healthy food. Some can be seen running behind their kids with food plate in hand, some trying to cook up interesting stories each time their toddler sits for a meal, some acting even better than a joker to keep the child distracted in order to feed him enough and some simply pulling their hair in absolute irritation.
Something similar to this is the case with one of our SOS mommies. Her 18-month-old toddler prefers to play with the food rather than eating it. In this process, he does consume a little but the most of it goes into waste. How is she supposed to handle this?
Let us have a look at what our SOS Moms have to suggest.
Shabnam Desai says, “Do not worry, mommy! It is good that your 18-month-old is making attempts to eat food on his own. At this stage, it is necessary that you help your child eat because his hand and mouth coordination still needs to develop completely. Therefore, you must sit with your child and teach him, or show him how to eat properly. Also, do not forget to lay a plastic sheet before making your child eat so that it is easy to clean the mess quickly”.
Riya Bhanji says, “Feed your child often so that the required amount of food goes into his stomach. Rest, let him learn and enjoy at the same time”.
Daddy Anil Mishra suggests, “Play some of your child’s favourite song or rhymes to keep him engaged and then feed him”.
Shruthi Naveen says, “Play with your child and feed him while he is busy playing. It takes a long time but you must be patient while dealing with your fussy eater”.
Mehak Vazrani shares her experience with us and says, “I put a bite in my daughter’s mouth and ask everyone around to clap, this motivates her to eat”.
Shabnam Desai, Ritu Dhingra, Riya Bhanji, Sudheer Kulkarni, Shalu Rana, Shruthi Naveen, Rathi Madan, Mehak Vazirani, Kalpana Perumal and Shraddha Sheth.
Special mentions to daddies – Anil Mishra and Dr. Anand Singh
You certainly remember that moment when you first saw your 2-year-old climb up on a couch, at the corner of your living area, all by her own. Her slender little hands held the couch as firmly as possible, pulling her weight up onto something chest-high, carefully propping her foot in the notch between the base and the top cushion of the couch. And, there she stood, up on the couch without your support.
So, while you are busy archiving ‘every firsts’ of your child, she barely takes anytime to work out her moves and learn new skills, master the old ones and set out to explore new things around.
Sounds exciting, exhilarating and feels proud too; isn’t it?
But, it will not take many days for this exhilaration to disappear in the growing apprehension.
Your toddler’s never-ending curiosity will soon make her a lively, bubbly, enthusiastic, and needless to mention, a fearless kiddie. She will be high on energy and will have a penchant for enjoying risk taking. Don’t be shocked if you find her climbing the highest slides, trying to touch the animals in a National park, feeding biscuits to a street dog, chasing cats and other animals fearlessly.
You can attribute this fearless behaviour to the great physical energy your child possesses. Usually, parents of such children have a great difficulty in keeping them safe. These children, generally, do not wait for their parents’ assurance or support before trying out anything new.
The big concern that then arises is – how to keep a fearless child safe?
Is it a good idea to instil fear in your child just to keep him safe?
Let us discuss a few ways in which you can make your child cautious without killing her enthusiasm to explore the world around.
- Teach by giving examples: Play with your child, pretend to fall down and show him that it hurts. Tell him that he needs to be cautious while playing in order to avoid such pain.
- Teach your child that anything except food should not be kept in mouth.
- Allow your child to try new things but make sure you are around to prevent any mishap. Do not be worried if he stumbles or falls. Let your child learn from her own experiences.
- Make your child aware of the potential hazards that may make him vulnerable to serious injuries.
Having a fearless child does not always mean that you have to be anxious. It is a good quality to possess, indeed. A child who is fearless grows up to be an extrovert and becomes more responsible. Moreover, toddlers do not have the understanding of right and wrong. Therefore, it is your responsibility to teach your child what is good or bad for him, and make him aware that a few things can be dangerous and should be steered clear of.
Shabnam Desai, Sangel Brit and Arti Vedpathak
Owning a tablet or an ipad has become a trend, and most importantly, a status symbol in the past few years. These gadgets are not only attracting adults or teenagers, but little toddlers too. For many parents, it comes as a challenge to keep their toddlers away from these electronic devices.
Colorful pictures, attractive videos, interesting games and a wide range of other such features have made it an irrestible entertainment toy for kids. Moreover, nowadays, these devices come with several apps that are specifically designed for and used by 2-3 years olds.
With such rapid growth in the use and popularity of tablets and smartphones, how easy it is for parents to keep their toddlers or young kids away from them? Isn’t it too much tenchnology at an early age?
Here are a few ways to keep your child away from tablet and smart phones:
- Limit alone time: Ensure that your child is not alone when you do your household chores. Make him sit in the same area where you are working and give him some toys to play with. Keep talking to your child as you finish your daily household work.
- Password protection: While the technology brings in attractive features in tablets and smart phones to lure your litte one, it also enables you to keep it password protected. So use the feature and keep it locked.
- Fill their time: Encourage your child to indulge in indoor and outdoor games. Play role-plays with them. Create new opportunities to keep them engaged – like inviting their friends for play-dates at home, involving them in hand-painting, using waste material at home (like toilet paper roll, newpapers, etc.) to make some creative stuff, etc.
- Set a good example: If you are always glued to the screens of your tablets and smart phones, expect your child too to learn and exhibit the same behavior. You cannot teach your child to stay away from these devices unless you set a example for them to learn from. So, minimize your mobile usage or use it when your child is not around.
It has been seen that most parents slip such electronic devices into their kids’ hands to have some downtime without the child tugging to them, or many a times, to get through a meal in a restaurant without having to face a toddler meltdown. Remember, it is easier to give in to these temper tantrums now but it can get difficult to manage your toddler without a cell phone or a tablet, going forward.
Neha Trikha Agarwal, Aman Tiwari, Remya Houratious, Sangel Brit S and Namrata Sinha