It is ecstatic for parents to hold their bundle of joy in their arms and see him cheerful and content in his new world. Parenthood brings in a series of anxieties and assumptions along with the happiness. Most of the time, you are found to be struggling to catch up with the behavioral changes that your baby shows during the first few years of his life.
During his early weeks, you feel content to see your baby going back and forth flexibly between breast and bottle, without much trouble. This continues till he hits 8 months and reaches a threshold whereby he starts understanding and making his own decisions.
Beware! It is no surprise that his first decision comes out to be a strong refusal to bottles, despite the fact that he has been taking one daily.
This can be frustating and believe it or not, there is no easy solution to it. But you can definitely convince your baby to return to bottle-feeding if you stick to a routine and keep your patience level high while dealing with your little one.
Here are some ideas to put your worries to rest:
- Try using a pacifier that has a nipple similar in shape to that of the bottle. This will make your baby return to his bottle-feeding habit.
- “Do not give up easily. Continue using the same bottle because your baby is not refusing that particular nipple, he might just be willing to prefer your breast over it”, says Nisha Singh Bhalwal
- “Try feeding him with a glass or spoon or sipper, while diverting his attention towards other things or telling a story, etc. Futhermore, take this opportunity to start feeding him with glass, this will also save you from indulging into coaxing him to drop that bottle-feeding habit, in future”, suggests moms – Rehanuma Shaik, Nilofer Memon, Munmum Jain Goel, Kalvakotha Vasanthi, Shikha Khanduja Kaul and Grishma Ravi.
- “Ensure that you clean the bottle thoroughly and that he has not developed any fungal infection due to unclean nipple or bottle. An infection or stink from an unclean bottle can also be a reason behind your baby refusing to bottle-feed”, says moms – Tabassum Rehmani and Jas Saini.
Refusing bottle-feeding is common at this stage and you should be prepared for such a reaction from your baby. Like the other phases parents and babies go through, this too shall pass.
We wish Mom, Kanika, a good luck and hope that she sails happily through the joys of parenthood. We thank our rocking SOS Moms who poured in their thoughts.
Rehanuma Shaik, Neha Jhunjhunwala, Nisha Singh Bhalwal, Harpreet Kaur Osahan, Nilofer Memon, Tabassum Rahmani, Madhuri Gupta, Madhu Jayakumar, Munmun Jain Goel, Kalvakotha Vasanti, Jas Saini, Christina Shreemal, Shikha Khanduja Kaul, Grishma Ravi
One of our SOS MOMs, Roshni Vaid, writes to us about her 5 year old daughter who has been consistently crying over everything. Right from waking up, to eating breakfast and to even changing clothes!
She says she tried everything to keep her happy but nothing worked.
Now mommies, there is nothing novel about the kids and the crying, is it? Crying is probably the most favourite mode of communication for the little children of all stages, right from infants to preschoolers. Most often than not, toddlers and preschoolers cry with reason, but they just aren’t aware of it. As parents, it’s vital to get to the root of the problem with some questioning, probing and even bribing.
Reasons your preschooler might be unhappy and crying –
- She is craving for attention or sympathy. Crying is the first weapon they’ll use to gain some attention.
- She is frustrated and unhappy about something that happened in the school or at home.
- She is feeling insecure or experiencing separation anxiety, when she leaves the home for school or when you leave for work.
- There is a good chance your kid actually might be suffering physically. Check for the signs that indicate her ill health. Check if she has any injuries.
- Is she hungry, tired, or suffering from body aches?
- Indigestion and constipation are also the reasons enough to make your child unsettled.
- Sleep deprivation is one of the most frustrating reasons to start the kids on crying mode. Preschoolers need about 10 hours of sleep. If a child hasn’t been sleeping well during the night for any reason and also does not take afternoon naps, she will end up being cranky all the time, until she recovers from the sleep deprivation.
- Emotional stress brought on by the relationships in school and home. Sometimes it can be overwhelming for the children to deal and be in company of different people with different natures.
How you can help
- No matter what, don’t cave in and give the child what she wants after crying spells. A kid might be whining for some unreasonable demand, and you giving in after her tear outburst will just encourage her to use this tool more often.
- Check for the signs of unwell being and treat accordingly. Take her to the doctor if needed.
- Make sure your child is not hungry and not suffering from stomach ailments.
- Make sure she gets enough sleep every day.
- Try to distract and engage her in some interesting activities or by taking her out in a park.
- Talk to her like you’d talk to a grown up, by acknowledging and not dismissing her feelings. Kids don’t know how to name their feelings, so they cry in frustration of not being able to communicate.
- Talk to their school teachers or day-care providers to find out if something that happened in the school has upset her.
- Talk to your child about strangers and people touching them in inappropriate ways. Sexual abuse is one of the most concerning reasons to make children upset, causing them to keep their feelings bottled up. Though use your best judgement and patience before you put your child through such a scrutiny.
- If the child is suffering from the separation anxiety, deal sympathetically with it and give her some time to get over it.
- Give hers stars or rewards for a happy and good behaviour. Positive encouragement works wonders.
One of our SOS Moms Aarti Vedpathak suggested a very interesting way to encourage a child to behave. Make up a little kid named the same as your kid and tell stories about how she behaves, how she helps, and how she doesn’t whine over small things. It might just do the trick.
We wish you good luck and hope that you sail happily through the joys of parenthood. We thank our rocking SOS Moms who poured in their thoughts.
Spanish Harlem, Aarti Vedpathak, Amrita Yadav Vaidya, Aruna Gautam, Akhila Karthik, Maharaj Ambu, Meenakshi Singh
Dear worried mum, while we understand your frustration of your little bundle of joy being stuck in a reverse transmission of scooting backwards, let us assure you that there is nothing to worry about it. Neither is there anything to be concerned about if she is not teething yet.
Crawling is quite optional for some babies. Experts believe that crawling does offer some physical and cognitive developmental benefits. But it is a common fact that quite a number of babies skip this stage entirely and directly start standing up. As long as your baby is healthy and has reached her developmental milestones until sitting up, on time, she will be perfectly fine. She probably has a mind to directly get on her feet and start cruising and then walking in no time.
If you wish to see her crawling, you may encourage it in certain ways –
- Tummy time – Give her plenty of tummy time and place attractive toys around her, so that she may try to crawl forward to grab them.
- Free play – Limit her time in the bed, car seat, stroller etc. Let her play on the floor and explore her playground.
- Sit on the floor, a bit out of her reach and call her towards you. She might try to get on her all fours in order to reach you.
- Place a moving toy near her and encourage her to follow it.
Seek doctor’s advice if –
- She does not try to move in any manner at all, by the time she is 1 year old
- She doesn’t want to or can’t stand on her feet when you hold her by her torso
- Her lower body seems too lethargic or limp when you try to make her stand on your lap
Wait and watch if she tries to get moving in any way. Most commonly there is nothing to be concerned about if a baby doesn’t crawl at 9 months.
It is also very common and normal for the babies to not start teething until they are 1 year or even older. Normal window for the first tooth of your baby showing up is between 3-12 months of age, but a large statistics shows that many babies are quite late bloomers in this area. It has nothing to do with low calcium in your baby, which is commonly believed, so there is nothing you can do to hurry the teething. It’s just the way her body has decided to develop and sooner or a little later your baby will have her own set of pearly whites. Think about this, have you ever seen an adult without having developed any teeth at all? There you go!
We thank our SOS moms who offered their valuable suggestions and shared their own experiences with their babies. Most of them experienced that every child develops in a different way and at a different speed. It’s best not to compare and let them have their space to flourish.
Nelopher Hasan, Noopur Choubey Bajpai, Sabbineni Sravanthi, Caroline Fernandes, Surabhi Nayak, Christina Shreemal, Juhi Bhattacharjee, Avantika Gidh, Neelam Pawar, Richa Arora, Shilpi Sahu, Jyotsana Verma, Rajnideep Sandhu, Ramya Harish, Jas Saini, Kaynat Parveen, Anjali Vartak , Sudeshna Patnaik, Nayana Bhangale, Ritika Kakar, Radhika Dhanrajani, Rewa Dhar , Sakshi Abbey Bhatnagar, Ashley Antony, Lavanya Reddy, Sunetra Basu, Shikha Somwanshi, Rathi Madan, Garima Grover, Priya Jain, Monika Vashist, Mainka Vig.
The ultimate feeling of sheer exuberance, is what parents experience when their darling toddler speaks these words out for the very first time.
Everything that he does for the first time is the biggest reason for a smile on everyone’s face around him. It is no less than a celebration time for parents. Besides, these first activities are also considered as milestones that indicate the developmental pace of an infant.
All toddlers pave different milestones at different ages, depending upon their individual capabilities. Learning to talk is one of these milestones. Most toddlers are reluctant talkers. This delay in speech doesn’t always spell trouble, hence, should not be seen as a matter of anxiety. Parents must comprehend, that language development process is vast and comes with several roadblocks along the way. Hence, they are required to be patient if their baby does not speak much.
Having said that, if your toddler does not use 3-4 words simple sentences, does not ask simple questions or is unable to call out the names of at least a few objects by 25-26 months, then you must consult a paediatrician for proper advice.
In such situations, perhaps the personal experiences of other parents can also come in handy. Let’s have a look at what our community parents have to say:
Interact, to nail the language lessons. Sarah Singh says, “expose your child to lots of verbal communication. This can be done by talking more to your baby. Even if he doesn’t reply back he will pick up and understand lots of words. To check if he is able to understand your conversation, ask him to do simple things like ‘give me that ball’ and so on”.
Try to read him more and more stories with lots of colourful pictures. The more he listens the more his urge to speak will grow. Don’t give him anything that he points at, instantly. Encourage him to say the name of the object. Also, allow him to play with other children of his age ,who can talk. Kids learn faster from other kids, suggests Asmita Basu Sarkar.
Vidushi Kamal, who has faced a similar issue with her daughter some time back, shares her personal piece of experience that kids who are more active physically tend to focus less on speaking. Hence, there is no need to worry if your child starts speaking late.
Suhasini Vinay has experienced that a baby girl tends to take up speaking sooner than a baby boy. She says, she has witnessed this in her own family and it’s a common phenomenon.
Rakhi Golui Sarkar suggests, that sending your child to a play school may also help as they tend to imitate other kids. This will in turn encourage and teach them to speak sooner.
“Another reason that can contribute to the delay in language development in toddlers is, use of multiple languages at home by the family members. The baby might get confused about what to speak and what not. Therefore, you should try to speak one common language till he is old enough to grasp the other”, says Antonette Presentina
“Speak clearly while talking to your baby. This helps them understand words faster. Avoid using baby talks and prefer clear words”, says Shabnam Desai.
And most importantly, do not ever show any kind of frustration if your child doesn’t speak much.
We thank all the parents out there for sparing their precious time and giving their valuable responses:
Sarah Singh, Asmita Basu Sarkar, Ragini Kadam-Salunkhe, Vidushi kamal, Rajnideep Sandhu, Debolina Choudhary, Suhasini Vinay Chikkaharuvaiah, Sakshi Abbey Bhatnagar, Anushree Saurin Jhaveri, Rakhi Golui Sarkar, Jas Saini, Antonette Presentina, Shabnam Desai and Jassu Sodhi
Many mothers face this problem when their babies start to teethe. Your baby’s gums are sensitive, irritated and even in pain when they start to grow their first set of teeth. They often find relief when they can bite or chew on something. There is nothing much you can do to help them except massage their gums with a teething gel and allow your baby to bite on something clean and soft like a teething toy or even your finger.
We received a lot of replies on our Facebook page from our rocking SOS moms to help mommy Pooja in her situation.
- Gently unlatch the baby- Insert your finger in the corner of your baby’s mouth between her gums and get her to unlatch from the breast immediately when she bites. Your bay will realise that she will have to stop feeding if she bites.
- Warn gently and firmly – Unlatch your baby and give her a little strict talk by using a firm voice. Try not to react by shouting or crying in pain so as not to scare your little one away from feeding. Just a gentle warning followed by a hug and restarting the feeding should suffice.
- Use Nipple Shield – You can buy a nipple shield or guard to use over your nipple. The baby will not have direct contact with your skin, even if she bites.
- Feed only when baby is hungry – Feed your baby only when she shows the signs of hunger. Some babies find breastfeeding as a means of being close to their mom and often end up chewing on the nipple, if they are not really hunger. Unlatch the baby as soon as she is finished feeding. Also, stop feeding if you notice your baby falling asleep. You might get bitten if she falls asleep and tries to close her mouth shut.
- Change positions – Try changing positions, or try to shift the baby to the other breast or try feeding in a different place. Sit in a quite, peaceful place where your baby won’t be distracted easily. She may bite unintentionally if she is distracted with the sounds and things around her that are stimulating.
- Pull closer – If you notice that your baby finds it amusing to bite you and biting has become her habit, time the feeding time and pull your baby closer to your breast to make her stop feeding as soon as her time is up. Her nose being too close to your breast will make it difficult to breathe for her and she will have to open her mouth as a reflex.
- Top up with formula – While most mothers and doctors advise to continue breast feeding even if it hurts, sometimes it may not be possible for the mother. Breastfeeding is a personal choice and there are a number of reasons to supplement with formula feeding. If you decide to give your baby the formula milk, don’t feel guilty over it. Ultimately, you will do what is best for you and your little one.
- Pump and feed – If you can’t tolerate the biting anymore but still want to keep giving your baby your breast milk, you can always do so by expressing it with breast pump and feeding through a bottle.
- Make sure you are producing enough milk to satiate your baby’s hunger. She may be biting in an attempt to get more milk, if you are not producing enough for her.
What if your baby refuses formula milk?
- Some babies are not that fond of formula and refuse it straight away at the first offering. But keep trying different brands, different formula feeding timings with your doctor’s advice.
- In the beginning, you can mix some part formula milk with your expressed breast milk and feed it to your baby. As your baby gets used to the taste, she may start liking it. Gradually increase the portion of formula milk into the breast milk.
- Apply some formula milk around your nipple when you breastfeed your baby, to introduce her to the taste of the formula.
- Don’t force your baby to drink formula as she may not yet be ready to let go of the comfort of breastfeeding. Wait for few more days and try to introduce the formula again.
- Don’t formula-feed when she is too hungry. Give her the breast milk when she is crying of hunger and offer the formula milk in between the breast feeds. She is most likely to refuse the formula when she is sleepy or feeling low.
We thank all our SOS moms who replied with very helpful and interesting solutions to this problem that many mothers face.
Prakriti Metikurke, Kiran Aradhya, Lalitha Acharya, Priyanka Tmahane, Sujan Patel, Adhunika Prakash, Jas Saini, Shahwar Ali Khan, T M Manzoor Manz, Shalini Agarwal, Rathi Madan, Smita Goswami- Chakraborty, Akshara Bachkheti, Cristyl Murray, Dr. Ritika Gupta, Rachna Somani, Sapna Sunny, Nidhi Jain, Priya Prabu, Dhanya Ranjit, Monika Vasisht, Enakshi Moon Goswami, Asmita Basu Sarkar, Pratibha Tyagi, Radhika Singh, Nisha Singh Bhalwal, Nelopher Hasan and many others.
We have all experienced the crushing sight of our little one’s sobbing face and temper tantrum, while dropping them off to a pre-school or a day-care. You’ d be really lucky if you have a child that turns his back to you and doesn’t even look back to you to say good-bye, as soon as he enters the school premises. Starting school should be an exciting experience to the parents and children both, but that doesn’t seem to be the case with a lot of parents.
The most common reason behind this is the separation anxiety, that most children experience during some or the other phase of their toddler-hood. Especially if you have always stayed home with your child or you have always carried him everywhere you go or he has always been surrounded with family and relatives and never been left in the care of professionals.
It is very natural for him to feel that he is suddenly being abandoned, albeit for a few hours of a day. This insecurity might turn your happy-go-lucky child into a cranky, irritated one.
Our SOS moms suggest some ideas to help you to make the schooling experience enjoyable for you and your toddler.
- Explore it further! Is your child crying to school just because of separation anxiety, or because of meeting new friends or due to the behaviour of school authorities and teachers or even bullying from other kids at school? If possible, try to be with your child as soon as the class is over and talk to her. Make her feel secure.
- Ask the child about what makes her uneasy about the school. Before checking with the school authorities, do speak once to your child
- Sometimes, it’s better to wait for a few more days or weeks until your kid shows the readiness to be without you and go to school.
- Find out from school authorities if you can participate in her class for a day or two to get the feel of how the teachers deal with the kids. You’ll also get a good idea about how other kids behave.
- Check if your child is uncomfortable with any staff or teacher or the routine of the school. It can be quite demanding on the child to suddenly start following a set routine of learning, playing, eating and even napping.
- The child may even start loving his school after a few days of crying. Just give him some adjustment period.
- Offer him a treat for a few days if he goes to school happily. Positive encouragement often achieves what rules and force can’t.
- Make sure that your child gets enough sleep and has a healthy diet, when at home. Sleep deprived and mal-nourished kids don’t make for happy students.
- Also, make sure that the reason for his crying is not some health ailment.
- Let him take a day or two off from the school, if possible. We all get bored of the monotonous routine. A break is always refreshing.
We thank our SOS moms for the tips and experiences they shared with us.
Deepa Jha, Shaily Bhatia, Sushma Malik,Sheetal Modi Bajaj, Gita Keswani, Ragini Rai, Misha Amar Bhattal, Kalvakota Vasanthi, Shriya Sharma, Keerthana R Rao.
Losing baby teeth is something that most kids take as a matter of sheer happiness. They love showing their fallen tooth or discussing it with their friends. It gives them the feeling of growing up, as losing a baby tooth is the ultimate sign of becoming a big kid.
Baby teeth fall as their roots dissolve thereby making a way for permanent teeth. Most children start losing their milk teeth at the age of 5 or 6. But it is completely fine if a child does not start losing his teeth at this age. It can also happen when a child is as old as 8 years old.
Let us see what other parents have to say about it:
Kashish Dua, a dentist by profession says, it is not something to be worried about if your child has turned 6 years old and has not started losing milk teeth. The age at which children lose teeth may vary from child to child and may happen slightly late in case of some children.
Sowmya Anand says, that her daughter started to lose her milk teeth when she was 8 and is losing them.
Richa Vyas says, that the upper and the lower front teeth generally start erupting at the age of 6-7 years. So you might want to wait if your child has jusr turned 6.
The last factor but definitely not the least – sometimes milk teeth arrive late so they drop off late, so it is okay to wait, suggests Parminder kaur
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time and giving their valuable responses:
Richa Vyas, Parminder Kaur, Kashish Dua and Sowmya Anand
One of the biggest problems that a mommy faces with her young kid is making him eat a sufficient amount of food every day. It’s a considerable challenge for her to deal with her fussy eater and the problem doesn’t end with mealtimes at home. The story still continues for those mothers who send their kid to a day care. Their kid will not only be a fussy eater but may also choose to eat only at the day care and not at home. Strange but true!
Dealing with this problem is even more challenging. A few tips listed below can prove helpful to these mommies:
- Such a phenomenon occurs potentially because in a day care a child is surrounded by other kids and all of them eat in a group. A group activity encourages them to finish their meals without any fuss. So one of the best ways to tackle the problem can be – ask all the members in the family to have dinner together with the kid. This will give him the same feeling as that of a day care meal time, says Deepshikha Roy.
- “Let the baby eat on his own. He will relish it and meal time will become fun. It will be messy for sure but you can always clean it up”, says Nidhi Jain.
- “Play some rhymes on television or laptop, or, put on his favorite cartoon program during his meal time”, says Sandhya Prasad.
- “Go creative and present the meal in an interesting way. For instance, make chocolate monster paratha or their favourite home-made paratha pizza or fruity pancakes”, suggests Nandini Rathore.
- “Let your kid ask for the meal on his own. Also, ensure that there is at least a gap of 4-5 hours between the two meals. If the kids is hungry, he will definitely eat a good amount of food”, says Payal Chhajer.
- “Ask your kid to give you a bite and then you give him the next. He will enjoy this at least for some time”, says Anamika Chauhan.
- Encourage your kid to have a competition, of finishing the food first, with you.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time and giving their valuable responses:
Neha Singhai, Deepshikha Roy, Nidhi Jain, Payal Chhajer, Sandhya Prasad, Radha Naveen, Anamika Chauhan, Nandini Rathore
Are you also tired of repeating the same dialogue every day?
If yes, then this post is definitely for you.
Parents are often found nudging their kids to complete their homework. On the contrary, kids hate to have the word ‘Homework’ in their To-Do list. In such a situation, making homework fun is no piece of cake for parents while for their kids, ‘homework’ and ‘fun’ can never go hand in hand.
However, with a few tricks and a proper approach you can make homework enjoyable, at least to a certain extent, for your child. For instance:
Make homework interesting:
- “Draw an apple/smiley tree and put it up somewhere in the room, tell your kid that every time he does the homework he can color one apple. If he doesn’t like coloring, then you can color the apple for him.
Buy a strip of stickers of his favorite character like Tom n Jerry or Chotta Bheem, etc. When the tree gets full of apples give him one sticker to stick on his bed or cupboard”, says Jacqueline Pereire who practiced it for a few days and has stopped now. She is now happy to see her daughter completing her homework every day without any fuss.
- Make it an inclusive activity by sitting down with your child and pretending you’re writing/doing your ‘homework’ while he does his. Sit together in your garden or balcony with some juices or candies as if on a picnic, suggests Sheena Talwar.
- Get him a new colorful study table or color pencils to write with, to increase his interest.
- Make a hand puppet and allow your child to wear it only while doing the homework, create a story around it and encourage your child to do his homework with the puppet.
Develop a habit:
Make a habit of sitting with your child everyday with his school books and get him involved in them. Make him follow a routine. Consistency in routine eventually helps a child understand the importance of finishing a task on time and enables him to stay stress-free.
Building a habit cannot be accomplished overnight, hence, parents must be patient in helping their child acquire the habit, of doing homework, gradually.
Understand the reason:
It can be a plain lack of interest, or, there can even be possibilities of something bothering your child. Try to find out why exactly he refuses to write and then figure out a constructive approach to solve the issue, says Shridevi Kamath Bhat.
Practice Positive Reinforcement or Appreciation:
Appreciate your beginner for his work, handwriting or even for a single line that he writes. It plays a key role in encouraging kids to finish their homework with interest. Sarah Singh says, “having kids sit for their homework through forceful parenting will only make it a disliked chore for them”. Other parents, Yachna Jain, Shaily Bhatia and Sadhad Hassan, share the same view.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time and giving their valuable responses:
Madhumita Kar Gupta,Jacqueline Pereire, Shridevi Kamath Bhat, Minakshi SaiKaulogist, Nisha Unadkat Kotecha, Ashwini Bagare, Sheena Talwar, Deepty Mundhra, Shaily Bhatia, Yachna Jain, Sarah Singh, Poonam Ganesh, Priya Suresh, Firdos Mogal, Snehal Vinayak,
A special mention to Sadhad Hassan, a father.
Mahima Verma expressed her concern about her little one year old angel who initially started enjoying juice in her sipper but now refuses to drink water and wants juice instead, all the time. She wants to know if juice is good for her at this age.
We put forward this issue for our SOS mom community to weigh in and are glad to have received a list of tips and advice to help mommy Mahima overcome her problem.
FirstCry says: Toddlers tend to over-consume fruit juices simply because they are sweet in taste. While juices are known to be beneficial for health, they can also be harmful if over-consumed. According to the AAP(American Academy of Pediatrics), the quantity of juice that an infant, 6 to 12 months, can consume is 120ml to 170ml. Toddlers and Preschoolers aged 1 to 6 years also, shouldn’t consume more than 170 ml per day.
Moreover, juices should be offered to kids in a cup and not a bottle. Prolonged exposure of teeth to the sugar in juices may lead to tooth decay or a cavity, says mom Sindhu Anand and Nimisha Sinha.
Avantika Gidh writes that too much fruit juice may also lead to diarrhoea, so mums need to be careful with the quantity.
A few tips to increase your baby’s water intake over juice are:
- Dilute the juice with water and gradually increase the water ratio to the juice ratio.
- Add Glucon D or ORS to water to give it a flavour. You can also boil the water with some cumin seeds (jeera), it changes the color and flavor of water and enhances the quality of voice.
If none of the above works, then you’ve got to make water drinking a fun activity for your toddler ;). Encourage her to have a competition of finishing water first with you. Or, simply buy her a special new cup, give her company in drinking water and say “Cheers!” before starting, says mom Poonam Ganesh.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:
Sarah Singh, Annanya Jha, Poonam Ganesh, Yogita Chand, Sakshi Abbey Bhatnagar, Sona Rohilla, Mahira Patel, Avantika Gidh, Janki Shah, Sudha Thavamaniraja, Kam La, Smriti Sharma, Sindu Anand, Sultana Parween, Lipsy Pattnayak, Shruti Gulati Rathore, Sudeshna Patnaik, Akanksha Malhotra Maggo, Madhumita Kar Gupta, Nimisha Sinha, Vidita Tayal
Aspecial mention to Subir Ranjan Das, a father.
Sabita Padubidri wrote to us about a problem she has with her 2 month old son, she says that he does not sleep well either in the morning or in the night because of which she’s having sleepless nights and days.
Also, her child has a habit of sucking his thumb. He does not take formula milk as she doesn’t produce enough milk.
We put this issue across our community of moms to weigh in on the same and have incorporated their responses here:
Breast Feeding is the best for your baby and Fenugreek (methi) ranks high among the ‘must haves’ for nursing mothers. This is due to the presence of diosgenin in the spice which increases milk production in lactating mothers. You can either have its seeds or leaves in your daily diet. You should also increase the intake of Cumin (jeera), pulses, almond, dry fruits, garlic, milk and milk products to enhance milk generation. Moreover, eating raw papaya curry & drinking rice water, which is prepared in traditional way (i.e cooking rice in additional amount of water), can also serve as a solution.
Bani Pavithra SriRam suggets that you can also consume lactation boosting pills/powder like ‘Lactare’, an ayurvedic medicine, to boost lactation.
A few alternate methods to feed your baby milk are:
Soak a small clean and soft cotton ball in milk and squeez 3-5 drops into his mouth slowly at a time and repeate this for 60 to 80ml of milk. As you said he doesn’t like bottles, this will help fill his stomach temporarily.
Try Playtex VentAire bottles for nursing your baby, these have many advantages like less amount of air gulped in by baby, angular design helps in proper placement during feeding, etc.
Thumb-sucking is normal in babies and most kids stop on their own at age 3 to 6 years. Neverthless, inadequate milk intake by a baby may also be a cause of thumb-sucking. So, you can expect it to decrease gradually once your baby starts getting sufficient milk.
One of the reasons for baby’s sleepless nights and days can be his empty stomach. In such a case, the above mentioned alternative feeding methods can prove conducive.
Also, you can give a nice warm coconut oil massage to your baby and follow it with warm water bath before putting him to sleep. Re-creating some soothing sensations, movements and snug environment of the womb will help him doze off faster.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:
Aditya Agarwal, Sandhya Pillai, Poonam Ganesh, Banu Pavithra SriRam, Revathi Phani Krishna, Kam La, Uma Sudharshan, Nainthara Singh, Soumya Harish, Garima S Mamgain, CA Chandana, Pooja Rathore, Lakshmi Karthick, Shilpa Malhotra Sarin
Sowmya Raghav wrote to us about a concern in regards to spending time with her son. She is not able to give enough time to her 3 year old son due to her work commitments, especially in the evenings. She feels guilty about the same and wanted to know how to engage her child with activities that do not need her presence.
We asked our community of moms for their suggestions to help solve Sowmya’s problem and have included their advice below:
It is important to devote a fixed time for your child, irrespective of your work schedule. Half an hour in the morning and after 9pm in the evening is an ideal time to spend with your child. Make sure that you are away from your phone, as it would allow you to completely utilise the time with your young one.
You can also take your child along with you to the temple, local market or a friend’s place so that you can spend more and more time with him.Another option is to hire a maid who would take care of the cooking and other household chores. This provides you with the extra time along with your child and also respite from house work.
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Amruta Kale wrote to us regarding a concern she had for her 2-year old daughter. She is worried about her daughter grabbing it and crying loudly if not given it to her and asked us to advice her on the same.
We asked our community of moms for their suggestions to help solve Amruta’s problem and have included their advice below.
A lot of parents these days are facing this issue with their young ones. It is quite normal. Children like to imitate their parents. Try to lessen the usage of gadgets in front of them. If you keep it hidden, they will forget about it.
Being more interactive with your child helps too. Children like it when their parents indulge with them while playing. They prefer to play with their parents more than anything else. Also it’s better to show her some colorful and attractive cartoon books which will grab her attention and slowly her interest will also change.
Alternatively, you can load rhymes, stories, and educational games for your little one and only give iPad to her for a limited time and then distract her with something else like taking her out to play or reciting rhymes to her.
Try to communicate with her in a subtle way that using too much of iPad or any other gadget can be harmful and that she should not be using it very frequently.
Also, try not to update anything on it for a few days like no new apps, no new pictures etc and she might just get bored of watching the same thing again and again and will stop asking for it eventually.
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Seema Shetty wrote to us about a concern she has for her child, her son refuses to go to play school and throws tantrums when he is in the playschool. She is worried and asked us to advice her on the same.
We asked our community of moms for their suggestions to help solve Seema’s problem and have included their advice below.
It is quite normal for some children to resist a new environment like playschool. Many of them suffer from separation anxiety when taken away from their parents. Usually this fear goes away in a few weeks, but you can help your child adjust to new environment by introducing him to it gradually.
Spend some time along with him in the playschool so that he realises it is not something to be afraid of. Allow him to become familiar with his new surroundings and the new people in his life before you leave. Once he starts to have interact with his new classmates and have fun with them, he will not mind your absence as much.
Ask the teacher to entice him with play, toys and fun activities so he knows that it is a fun place to be. Soon he will begin to look forward to his time in school and with his friends.
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Swati Iyer wrote to us and told us about a concern she has for her 1 year old son who refuses to let her clean his teeth. She is worried that her child will start getting cavities and wants advice on how to teach him to follow good dental hygiene.
We asked our community of mothers to weigh in on this issue and have included their responses below.
At this age a child may have only a few teeth and may not be ready for brushing his teeth. It takes about three years for the complete set of teeth to come in. However, you can introduce the concept of dental hygiene with gentle rubbing on his teeth using a clean finger and a soft cotton cloth.
You may think that because these baby teeth are destined to fall out anyway, they don’t matter. But that’s not true because they act as guides for our permanent teeth which may not come in properly if the baby teeth are lost due to cavities and decay.
Dental hygiene is an important concept to teach our kids because a large number of children have cavities by the time they are in kindergarten. This is primarily due to diets that include too many sweets and poor dental hygiene.
Some kids may be defiant about not allowing you to clean their teeth. You can get a soft Baby Training Toothbrush that is fun for your baby to use. Also allow your baby to see you and your spouse brushing your teeth so that they want to imitate you.
You can read your child some children’s books that discuss the importance of keeping one’s teeth clean. Show them some funny videos, like the one about the adventures of Dr. Rabbit and the Tooth Defenders from Colgate. You can also devise some fun activities or games to play while brushing so your kids learn to associate it with fun. Never mind if it gets a little messy at times.
Each child will have their own time table of when they will learn to use a brush or allow you to clean their teeth. Be patient with your child and be consistent in teaching them to keep their teeth clean. Don’t use toothpaste until your child is old enough to rinse and spit it out.
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Reading is an extremely healthy habit that all of us should develop. Good habits have to be inculcated in a child right from his childhood so that it remains with him all throughout his lifetime. If you develop reading habits from a very young age, your child will retain the same later in life.
It is even recommended that would-be-mothers create the habit of reading good things as it impacts the child growing inside. Even while your kid is very small, try reading different things to him. You will notice that he will develop the habit of listening to things while you read out aloud to him.
Choosing books for toddlers
It is quite natural that toddlers will not be interested in books, which have only black texts in them. Rather they will find books interesting that has lots of colors, pictures and attractive items with minimal text in them.
There are interesting toddler books explaining simple actions like saying hello or bye and child learn fast when they see something and do the same. There are bedtime stories books as well which parents can read to their child and make him fall asleep. Interesting graphics and pictures in these books make them a favorite with the kid.
Books for pre-school goers
This age is a delicate one when the child is around 3 to 4 years old. At this stage children love story books as they can read some simple lines. Fairy tales are also very popular with kids. It is quite interesting to see that, on hearing different kinds of stories from the books, children create a new world of their own using their own imagination.
Reading fairy tales helps build your child’s imagination and creativity. Along with fictional books, various kinds of non-fictional books also attract kids through which they learn new things while enjoying reading. At this age, kids are also fascinated by ebooks available online. It may be worthwhile to invest in a few that they can read on your tablet or iPad.
Books for school-going kids
Along with interesting story books, kids are also interested in books that have fascinating facts about the world, books on general knowledge, poems and classic stories. Some kids are extremely fond of historical books and they create imagery in their mind about the past. The Amar Chitra Katha collection and Tinkle books are a fantastic addition to any child’s library.
It may be worthwhile investing in an online encyclopedia on CD, that often comes along with interactive features. Along with enhancing knowledge, reading books also improves the vocabulary of the child considerably.
There are only benefits to introducing your child to the world of books and as the saying goes, “Children are made readers in the laps of their parents.” So take your child in your lap today and introduce them to a world of knowledge and fantasy.
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Pooja Rai wrote to us and told us about a concern she has for her 15 months old son. She says that her son does not sleep the whole night. She has tried everything but there is no change in this habit. She is concerned and has asked us for some advice.
We asked our community of mothers for their suggestions and have incorporated their answers below.
Setting a bedtime routine may be the best way to get your child to go to bed without a fuss. Ensure that your child is active and playful all day and don’t let him sleep for too long in the daytime, so that he is tired and ready for bed at night.
Remove any distractions like television and bright lights from his environment just before you start his bedtime routine.
You can set a bedtime routine that includes a soothing massage and warm bath at night. A good dinner and a glass of lukewarm milk should help to get him sleepy. Sing lullabies or play soothing music just before bedtime to let him know that it is time to wind down. You can also read him a story once he gets into bed. Then switch off the lights and tell him that he needs to sleep now.
Ensure that everyone else in the house knows his bedtime routine and cooperates with you in maintaining it. Once he gets to know what is expected of him, he will be able to keep to this routine more effectively.
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Ear infections are one of the most common health problems seen in children. If the kid is very small and cannot even talk, it might take some time to understand that he is suffering from any kind of ear infection.
You will notice that the child might scratch his ears or rub his ears again and again. Sometimes there is inflammation in the ears and they become hot to touch.
In cases of the worst infections, there might be formation of pus inside the ear, which might come out as discharge. The pain in the ear can also be accompanied with slight fever.
Taking the child to the doctor
There might be many factors responsible for the ear infection in children. Sometimes unclean nose and mouth can also lead to ear infections as the ear, nose and throat have a single pathway. So chances of infection traveling fast are quite common.
Taking the child to the doctor will help in understanding the right cause for infection. Some babies have complaints of chronic ear infections and need to be treated by antibiotics quite often.
It is also important to know which part of the ear is infected. Depending upon the kind and extent of the infection medications are prescribed. While some kids might need antibiotics as treatment, some might not.
Home remedies for dealing with ear infections in small kids
Many moms have used garlic oil for dealing with ear infections and pains in their kids. Natural garlic oil is available readily in many stores and you can keep a bottle handy to treat your child’s ear infections.
Put few drops of this oil into the infected ear so that it reaches the Eustachian tube of the kid. Usually a single dose of this treatment is enough for combating the infection. But if required, the process can be repeated as well.
Dry heat can also be applied to the ear. This will help in loosening up any liquid deposition inside the ear and drain it out. The heat also helps in providing relief from the pain and discomfort caused by the infection.
Encourage your kid to drink loads of fluids during the infection. Swallowing the fluid will help in moving the fluid deposition in the ear to pass out via the Eustachian tube. Keep your child away from passive smoke as that might cause irritation in the Eustachian tube.
Take your child to the doctor as soon as possible as ear infections can be very painful for a small child.
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Kanika Modi wrote to us and told us about a concern she has for her 7 month old son. She says that her son has lost his appetite and weight since a week. Also, he has loose motions, 10-15 times a day due to which the private area has turned red and the baby has become cranky and irritated. She is concerned and has asked us for some advice.
We asked our community of helpful moms for their suggestions and included their comments below.
If a child is ill, the first thing to do is take him to the doctor immediately to rule out any serious illnesses. Once your doctor has started treatment, you can use home remedies to make the child more comfortable.
Feed the child light foods – like dal pani, rice water, coconut water, apple or banana mash, a few spoons of pomegranate juice – that are easy to digest and will not cause discomfort. Give him ORS (boiled water with a pinch of salt and sugar) and lots of fluids to ensure that he does not get dehydrated because of the loose motions.
Apply a diaper rash cream, like Siloderm, Protectoderm or Mothercare rash cream, on the baby’s private parts to prevent the rash from getting worse. Avoid diapers. Apply coconut oil every so often for some relief from the rash. Wash the baby’s bottom with water instead of using tissues which can aggravate the rash.
If your child has started teething, it could cause some of these symptoms. For the baby’s tummy upsets while teething, you can start a homeopathic medicine called BC21, after taking your baby to a registered homeopathic physician. You can also start homeopathic calcium tablets, called Calcarea Phosphorica.
Rub mugli ghutti on the baby’s teeth regularly twice a day. Give your baby safe toys and teethers to chew on to relieve the pain of teething. You might also want to ask your pediatrician if your baby needs the rota virus vaccination.
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School-age kids have high levels of energy and have the capacity of carrying out work and play at their respective times. As a parent you might want to participate in the various games that school-age kids play.
Since this is their stage of development and growth, you can think of games that promote these in an effective manner. Children at this age love to indulge in physical activities as that gives them immense happiness and joy.
Here are some activities that you can always enjoy with your school-age kids:
• Chain game
For this game, the more the numbers of players, the more the fun you can have. One person is chosen as the tagger and he has to run and tag another person. Now both of them join hands and chase the others.
Children who are tagged have to hold hands and form a chain and run together to chase others. It is a game of coordination as all taggers have to run in the same direction. Sometimes the chain is broken into small groups so that children don’t trip or step on other’s toes. But often the enjoyment is in the uncoordinated fun that can result.
• Treasure hunt at home
Treasure hunts are great fun for any kid. Decide on various kinds of interesting things that you can hide in various parts of the house including the garden or the lawn. Keep smart clues for the hunt so that things cannot be found that easily.
You can also arrange for a jackpot so that anyone who wins the game gets a special reward. Explore the adventurous mind of your kids through this game and see your little detectives making their way in finding the hidden items. If there are many children, create groups for the hunt.
• Bowling with bottles
If you think that your kids do not know about bowling, you are wrong. Try giving them a bowling game experience at home so that they can display their target skills. Arrange plastic bottles in various shapes and sizes in a row or in many rows.
Take small soft balls and try to knock down as many bottles as possible with them. The numbers of bottles that can be knocked down will decide the winner. The game can be divided into two groups and a competition can be started. Adults can keep a note of the time.
Playing with kids of this age can take you back through memory lane when you used to play such games with your friends and your parents grinned with joy at your happy face.
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