By the age of two, children become independent enough to be walking on their own. As they develop this skill, is also when they regress and suddenly become clingy. They just want to be carried everywhere and throw tantrums when denied. It is at this point that the kid is torn between his independent impulses and the very compelling desire to be attached to the parent.
This is a difficult phase for the parents as well, because every sentence that the kid speaks begins with ‘mom’ or ‘dad’. Every waking moment of theirs is spent carrying the clingy toddler until their biceps burn. To make things worse, in some cases, the other parent is not even allowed to help.
Research suggests that periodic clinginess is normal, and it’s a sign that you and your child have a healthy relationship. However, the kid’s waffling between the two extremes of independence and dependence is very taxing for both, the kid, and the parents. They are befuddled if they should give the kid a pat on the back and tell him to man up, or if they should simply accept the whole scenario as it is.
Again, we bring to you our SOS Moms whose suggestions are based on experience–
At the outset, we have Shabnam Desai, who suggests, “If you are a working mother, maybe the baby is missing you too much. Try to spend more time with your little one. Maybe the baby is afraid about something. Look around for signs if something is going wrong when certain people are coming near the baby, and not only people also check out the toys. Some kids are not comfortable with certain toys, especially soft toys because of the fur. Try to comfort the baby and please keep your cool or matters can get worse. Check whether the baby is teething or any other ailments and consult the doctor”.
Next, Rajni Kashvi Jaiswal adds, “Because maybe now herecognises you as his parents, he has become clingy suddenly.”
Mums, Jyot Kaur, Neha Singh, Shruti Singhal Garg and Sneha Agrawal collectively assert that teething may be the reason the kid has suddenly turned clingy. They suggest the use of ‘Calcarea Phosphorica’ as a solution for teething problem in toddlers. However, this needs to be done only after consulting a paediatric doctor.
Lastly, Chetana Suvarna Ganatra blames the kid’s clingy behaviour to separation anxiety he may be going through.
A tip from our end; try to make walking fun for him and don’t scold the kid. Remember, the kid has shorter legs, so he/she will take more time to cross the same distance. Also, keep the outings on foot brief and have a stroller ready as a backup plan.
Parents of late-talking children are always in a state of dilemma on whether they should ‘wait and see’ if the kid picks up speed in language development on his own, or if they should meet a speech therapist right away. Many of these parents are told not to worry as each kid develops at his/her own pace. Nonetheless, their gut instinct is always to seek help as they strive to do the best for their child.
The ‘wait and see’ approach for late talkers is borne out of a stereotyped observation about typical language development in children. While it is passable that children do develop at their own pace, there are certain age milestones that should be reached by a specific age. It is also true that there are many late talking toddlers who catch up on their own, a few do not.
In this write-up, when we speak about language delay, we aren’t talking about language disorders or physical and developmental delays like Cerebral Palsy, Down Syndrome, Autism or those with childhood apraxia. These conditions require special kind of therapeutics and doctoring. We only speak about those children who seem to lag behind a little in their spoken (or “expressive”) language.
Let’s quickly go through what our SOS Moms have to say about late talkers –
Mum, Anima Bhardwaj, says, “Just one answer! Don’t compare your kid to others for anything. Each child is different and develops differently. Just make sure that he is medically fit. If everything is okay, just relax. Some kids are late talkers… late walkers… late eaters… and so on”.
We have Somita Suri, who suggests, “Depends on what you mean by ‘doesn’t talk very well’. Most kids develop at their own pace just like when they take their first steps. However, do look out for other signs in your child with respect to social behaviour, because it could be linked to autism.”
Next, Julie Ekka Tanti proposes her viewpoint by saying, “Just like my kid who is four years old now, but doesn’t show any signs of eating on her own. I have to force her for each meal! She doesn’t chew and is used to swallowing. I’m pretty much worried, as kids of her age are fond of chocolates and so many edibles, but my child says no to all.”
Shilpi Saha shows a different dimension of the problem by saying, “It depends on how much you all talk at home. If yours is a silent type of house, then give your kid some more time. Moreover, if your kid has completed other milestones and is okay in other behaviours, then don’t worry, give a bit more time. My Lil’ brother also had the same problem because our house was a silent kind of house”.
Last, we have mums, Tanvi Nigam, Pooja Rathod and Noopur Agarwal, who collectively reinstate that parents should not worry about late talking in children. They jointly agree that things will take time and that parents should just have patience.
We conclude by saying that every child is unique in his/her own way and that parents should never compare their child with another child. Keep training your kid the requisite language skills and cherish that kiddish ‘blabber’. Once it’s gone, you’ll miss it badly!
Many a times, it is seen that even though the kid is toilet-trained in the day-time, he faces difficulty holding pee in for a long period at night-time, when he sleeps. Such toilet-training accidents happen due to various reasons, while heredity being a major contributor.
If the parents have had a history of bedwetting that continued until their ages of five or six, it is highly likely that the kid will inherit the same tendency. Other possible reasons include, not being developmentally ready to sense a full bladder or having a tendency to sleep so deeply, that responding to the bladder’s signals and mastering night-time toilet control becomes elusive.
It is seen that bedwetting is more common in boys (about six to seven out of ten kids who wet their beds are male). Also, it is observed that by the age of five or six, 90 percent of the kids stop the bed-wetting habit on their own. Nonetheless, nobody knows for sure why the rest 10 percent continue to have a problem.
As always, we have our SOS Moms guiding you with a few bed wetting solutions
Shobha Suresh, a proud mum of two kids, says, “Stop scolding your toddler because they bed wet. They are just kids who don’t know a thing. If we can’t be patient with kids at our age, we can’t teach them to have patience later.”
While Somita Suri suggests, “Bear with him. Telling off a toddler is pointless as this is something out of his control and could cause anxiety problems.”
Next, we have Meenakshi Srikantan, who says, “I think it depends on your child’s age. If he is above two and a half, you can slowly reduce the liquid intake before sleep and also make him use the toilet before getting into bed. If you use an AC in your room or live in a cold place, then it is going to cause bed-wetting, despite doing everything until they learn to wake you up to use the toilet.”
Meenakshi further suggests, “If you are really worried, I suggest you talk to your paediatrician regarding urinary incontinence. But maybe wait until he is a bit older, perhaps and like mentioned here, try training him to use the toilet at night at some interval.”
Shantala Murugendra proposes her viewpoint by saying, “Few kids do it till the age of 10. So, better reduce liquid and cold intake at least 2 hours before sleep, but make sure they drink enough water at day time. And being a parent, it’s our duty to keep an alarm and make them go to the toilet at night. Slowly their minds get trained to get up and go to the toilet at midnight.”
Lastly, moms Georgina Jha, Pratibha Tyagi and Robe Samarth Gaonkar collectively recommend the use of a diaper for the kid and a rubber sheet to protect the mattress at night.
Make sure your child is ready for getting toilet-trained. Frustration on your part isn’t the key here! Your child has to be motivated to stop the bedwetting habit. If he’s not bothered, stick with disposable diapers until he’s ready. He’ll let you know when it’s time.
Food jag – a common eating behaviour where the kid only wants to eat one food item for every meal. More often than not, it’s the toddlers and preschoolers who tend go on food jags and only like foods that are of a certain colour or texture. This behaviour is usually impulsive. At times, it can be so sudden that the kid would decide to hate even the foods they loved till one day prior.
Fries suddenly become their favourite ‘vegetable’. Anything green is met with clenched teeth and a loathful face. Whining stops only when a dessert appears and chocolate comes to be considered as a separate food group. While this behaviour is normal, parents should deal with it patiently.
Research suggests that it takes at least 10 – 15 tries before a picky kid eats, or at least gets to like a new food. Also, the lost affinity for any food often returns after a gap of around a fortnight. Our point: Don’t be pushy, but persistent in helping your child love new foods. Although it is a frustrating phase in your kid’s development, understand that it’ll get better with time.
Our SOS Moms share their opinions on dealing with picky eaters
We have Rajnideep Sandhu, who suggests, “Try to take your meals with your baby. Because I have seen that children always want to taste from others plates, though they make a mess, but it’s OK with us.. Isn’t it? ”
Prabha Peri, mum of a 2-year-old, says, “Try to fill his plate with different food items neatly garnished and in colourful or attractive cups or plates.. Once he tries to taste a single item and if he feels it tasty, he will definitely start eating it.. I tried the same with my 2-year-old.”
One of our SOS Moms, Pratibha Gautam, came up with a fantastic idea of mixing the kid’s favourite food with the other food you want him to eat. This will disguise the new food in a way that your kid will down it chop-chop.
Last, we have Anima Bhardwaj, who says, “If he has started picking up food on his own and could eat it, try giving him finger food. Whatever you want him to try, make it in the shape of small balls or small sticks that he could pick up easily. Let him make a mess… Kids enjoy it! Just put the food in front of him and leave him alone with it. Don’t sit in front of him or force him to eat… Let him take his time.”
If you’re very concerned about what your picky toddler eats, maintain a diary of all the food and drink items he has over a week. Make sure he has something from each of the four main food groups, i.e. starch/carbohydrates, proteins, dairy and fruits and veggies. If you know that he has eaten food from all these food groups, you shouldn’t be worrying about his nutrition.
Sometimes, it’s alright to allow the picky eater to choose foods that appeal to them. When averaged over several meals, you’ll realise that they choose well. Trust those little bodies and discern that the child’s world and his gastronomic horizons will expand as he grows and starts attending preschool.
In families with more than one child, sibling rivalry is commonplace. At the outset, you just see two kids fighting, however on looking beneath the surface of things, you’ll realize the riposte feeling that is at the core of sibling rivalry in children.
Expression of retaliatory behaviour by the submissive one to counteract the sense of constantly being the victim of the dominant other, is what breeds sibling fights. This repugnant behaviour, clubbed with the feeling that he is loved less by his parents intensifies his pathos.
Nonetheless, for parents it is one of the biggest parenting struggles to sort. But it is upon them to turn the conflict scenarios into training opportunities. Parents should repeatedly teach their children to honour and speak well of one another.
When asked if parents should intervene in resolving sibling rivalry, one of our SOS Moms, Robe Samarth Gaonkar suggested, “Of course you should intervene and never let the time pass by without them consoling each other. It’s just normal fights in the beginning, but if you don’t correct them on time, then it will be worse once they are older.”
We agree with Robe on this and feel that parents should help their kids sort the fights by making them understand the art of managing their emotions. Otherwise, the mutual ill feelings will get carried over into their adult lives and become even more crippling to deal with later on.
3 Suggestions for Parents when Managing Sibling Rivalry
- When you intervene, you should hold both the kids equally responsible for the fight. It shouldn’t matter as to who started it or whose fault it is. After all, it always takes two to tango; a fight is never a one-sided affair, so stop refereeing.
- Use the ‘step in to step out’ method. Help your kids to identify their feelings at the moment of a fight (step in) and then leave them and let them work out a solution between themselves (step out). This is because, there will be times when kids would resolve the conflict in their own way and only need us to set up the navigation just a bit.
- Appreciate both the kids in their individual domains. Never pitch them up against one another. If one is good in sports and the other is a bookworm, recognize and appreciate their individuality.
Follow these few simple strategies, as you work with your kids to manage sibling rivalry and pioneer a peace treaty in your home today.
Getting kids, especially those who have been sleeping with parents for more than a year, to sleep in their own beds is not easy.
We can say that it’s sort of like ripping off a band-aid… The kid will cry, there’ll be tantrums and a whole lot of havoc. However, you’ve to decide whether you’ll transition quickly or will take your own sweet time.
Many parents typically opt to have their kids sleep on separate beds by the kid’s will and desire. However, this can be confining for the parents, as the kid will keep growing dependent on the parents to get a night of peaceful sleep.
The key to establishing a workable bedtime routine is to set firm expectations and then maintain consistency. Before moving ahead with the decision, you should feel strongly enough for the mission of moving the kid to his own bed. Ambivalence over your decision will not help.
To make things easier for you, our SOS Moms are giving out a few suggestions–
“Make his best soft toy his best friend and sleep mate. Let him sleep with the toy and tell him that his friend (the soft toy) will be alone and cry if he doesn’t sleep with him”, recommends Swati Thakur, mom of a 1 year old.
Swati also says, “One more thing you can try is, when he’s fast asleep just put a pillow over him at your place, so that he gets a feeling that it’s you and not the pillow. Maybe that can help as it does help me and my son is only 1 year old.”
Next, we have Neha Kapur, who says, “Put your T-shirt on a pillow and place it next to him… Sometimes, it’s your smell that comforts them.”
We also have Ranjani Anoop and Saheti Krishna Kasam, who have tested the methods suggested by Swati Thakur. They double up with Swati to say that the pillow method really works.
One useful tip from our end – think of the things that will offer some comfort to the kid during the transition. Play a CD of soothing lullabies, light a brighter nightlight or an LED projector lamp that’ll create an effect of a starry night sky onto the walls and ceiling of his room.
So, be prepared for a bumpy ride while getting your kiddo to sleep in his own bed, but keep your eyes on the prize: an independent kid who sleeps all by himself and one less elbow in your back at night!
A few teeth make their lovely appearance in the front, by the time your baby celebrates her first birthday. So, it’s no more a “gummy” smile now. But, this is not the end. There is teething, and then there is teething again – even more painful one this time! All thanks to those big molars that are all set to poke through the tender gums of your baby.
At around 13 to 19 months, molars start popping up. They are large in size, with double edges and can be twice as difficult to cut as the baby incisors. This may make your child miserable and irritable.
Let us have a look at some of the toddler teething symptoms you can keep an eye out for to offer best relief remedy to your child:
- Irritation on chin or cheek
- Red swollen gums
- Improper sleep and decreased appetite
- Constant rubbing of ears on the same side as the erupting tooth
- Drooling, biting and chewing
- Slightly increased body temperature but not fever
Ways to soothe your toddler’s gums:
Give your toddler a frozen stick of cucumber or a peeled raw carrot to chew on. Be there with her while she is eating it to ensure that she doesn’t choke on any piece she bites off.
To distract her from her discomfort, give her a cool spoon or a slightly frozen wet, clean flannel to chew on. They offer interesting textures.
A cool teething ring is also ideal. It is always recommended to use solid teething ring over liquid filled rings, which could leak.
Offer your child a cup to drink milk or water. Bottle-feeding and breastfeeding can be painful for a teething toddler as sucking causes more blood to rush to the swollen areas, making them more sensitive.
If nothing else works and your child seems to be in real distress, consult your paediatrician and give her the correct dosage of infant Paracetamol.
While you take all the efforts to soothe your toddler, remember, that you also need to be patient as teething takes a good amount of time to complete its process. Hence, you may need to pay extra attention and provide extra care to your toddler.
Most parents come across experiences of hearing a sudden shriek in the middle of the night from their child’s bedroom. When they rush in, the sight of their toddler – sitting up wild-eyed in bed, crying and trying to reach out for them leaves them greatly anxious.
Unless your child expresses in words that she has had a nightmare, it is difficult to understand what caused her this distress.
However, if your regular “peaceful sleeper” unexpectedly wakes up crying, behaves clingy and faces trouble getting back to sleep on her own, you can consider it the after-effect of a nightmare.
Nightmares are most common in preschoolers, as they develop some general fears and have vivid imagination at this age. They face difficult time separating reality from make-believe.
So how are you supposed to handle your child when she has a nightmare?
Let us have a quick look at what our SOS Moms have to suggest:
Ensure that the night-light of your child’s bedroom is on
Keep the door of your child’s bedroom open and assure her that you are near-by
Ensure that you give physical reassurance to your child when she cries. Hold her close to you and gently rub her back until she calms down and is normal.
If your child is old enough, speak to her and try to understand her fears. You might be able to figure out a way to soothe her in a better way when she cries.
“Never scare your child or never let her see or be in scary environment. Also, before sleeping let your child watch or hear lovely stories of her favourite cartoon character”, says Shantala Murugendra
“Check if there is something that happens in the day that scares her. There may be some person whom she doesn’t like. Encourage her to speak up and try to find out a solution to her problem”, suggests Sanghamitra Sethi Kummera.
However, if the nightmares persist and she dreads going to bed or is fearful during the day too, do not delay to consult your paediatrician – such dreams could signal an emotional issue that needs addressing. Lastly, do not panic as this is very common among children of this age and will fade away with time soon.
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Heena Bhardwaj, Pavitra Thakur, Suchitra Prakash, Pratibha Gautam, Merina John, Gunjan Ravi Shadija, Srirama Sammeta, Sheetal Diniyan, Kim J S, Sirisha Naidu, Inderjeet Kaur Bindra, Tejasveeta Pawar Vaidya, Charu Singh, Pooja Dixit Patayane, Alpana Chaudhary, Seema Suthar Gaikwad, Sarika Jain, Namrata Sood Joshi, Gayathri Ramchandran, Shilpa Jaiswal, Karuna Gupta, Aarti Vedpathak, Cheena Jain, Rajprit Jaiswal, Ambika Mehta, Supriya Mishra, Vandana Anand, Aparajitha Nagesh, Shantala Murugendra, Sanghamitra Sethi Kummera, Laxmi Singh and Appasamy Pradeep.
If your answer is YES, go on reading this.
Crawling is probably that first sign that shows that your little angel is on his or her way. Every parent eagerly awaits this moment. But sometime, some babies do not start crawling as early as other babies, which causes anxiety among most parents.
Though the average age for babies to start crawling is 8 months, many babies skip this age entirely and wait until later. The timing for certain milestone is quite variable, especially when we talk about gross motor skills. Also, there exists a wide range of “what’s normal” when it comes to attaining developmental milestones.
So, even if your baby refuses the idea of scooting around on hands and knees, you should not panic!
The important point to remember is, crawling is just one milestone out of many and if your baby shows signs of delay in attaining it, it is most likely nothing to be worried about. It is only when your baby lags behind in a few developmental milestones that you should talk to your paediatrician about it.
Let us have a quick look at what our SOS Moms have to suggest:
“It is not something to worry if your baby starts crawling late. It’s okay as long as she is active enough to explore new things. Try to make her sit for a few seconds everyday”, says Swati Thakur.
“My son didn’t crawl at all, he directly started walking from 11th month and so did I as my mum told me, so I guess it’s pretty normal”, says Deepti Khurana Mehta.
“Ensure that you massage your baby twice everyday with good massage oil, this helps in faster growth and better development of the baby”, suggests Sakshi Abbey Bhatnagar.
“The best way to help your baby is, give her a lot of tummy time, at least 2-3 hours in a day with proper intervals in between. For tummy time – spread some bed sheets on the floor to make the surface comfortable but not soft for the baby. Then lay her down on her tummy. Now put some toys in front of her and encourage her to crawl ahead. This will tempt her to try to crawl and reach the toys”, suggests Hema Shamjith Krishna.
As long as your baby is achieving other milestones well, there is no need to worry if she is not crawling even after 8-10 months. Understand that every child is different and thus, attain different milestones differently.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:
Kalaa Shree, Swati Thakur, Saakshi Nagpal, Rita Samuel Bing, Priyanka Rakesh Chavan, Gulnoza Usmanova, Deepti Khurana Mehta, Aastha Amit Kapoor, Nina Molly Vaz, Dr. Poonam Sangle Bhadange, Sakshi Abbey Bhatnagar, Prathita Malviya, Amrit Jeetla, Jyotsana Verma and Hema Shamjith Krishna.
You definitely will!
But, you will find it strange if we say that runny nose can be a good thing sometimes. Yes, it is! Because, it’s a natural way that helps body get rid of germs. However, too much of mucus in the nose may make it difficult for your baby to breathe or eat due to congestion, and the stuffy head may make him uncomfortable.
So how are you supposed to handle this? Looking out for suggestions, tips and advice?
Let us have a look at what our SOS Moms have to say:
“Apply a few drops of Eucalyptus (Nilgiri) oil on a handkerchief and make your baby inhale the aroma”, suggests moms – Megha Mandana and Nisha Verma.
“Heat some Ajwain on pan and wrap it in a muslin cloth. Now place it on your baby’s chest, it helps get rid of the congestion in the chest. But, make sure that it is not too hot for your baby’s sensitive skin”, says Sheetal Khakhar
“Boil some Ajwain in water. Now strain the water and collect it in a sippy cup for your baby to drink. It helps reduce cold in babies”, suggests Aastha Amit Kapoor.
“Take mustard oil in a pan and add 2-3 garlic cloves in it. Heat it on low flame and then allow it to cool down till it is lukewarm. Now use this to massage your baby once in a day and then give her hot sponge bath. I did this when my baby girl suffered from a similar problem and she was alright in two days”, says Aastha Amit Kapoor.
“Boil ginger in mustard oil and allow it to cool down till it is lukewarm. Now apply this on your baby’s chest and on her back. It will help relieve the congestion and your baby will feel comfortable”, suggests Mukti Ranjan.
“Boil a few Basil (Tulsi) leaves in water and make your baby inhale the steam. It will help relieve the congestion”, says Amruta Dipen More.
Last but not the least, do consult paediatrician if there is no sign of relief for more than a day.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:
Aastha Amit Kapoor, Sheetal Khakhar, Megha Mandana, Nisha Verma, Mukti Ranjan, Amruta Dipen More, and many more.
You feel ‘mine’ and ‘no’ are her favourite words. “Why doesn’t she share her belongings?” – becomes a matter of serious concern for you. You dread that such a selfish attitude may end up leaving your child friendless.
But is your child a selfish, indeed? Or she is just acting her age?
For a two-year-old, anything that strikes her fancy becomes an extension of herself. While she is just beginning to comprehend possession, she develops a strong sense of self which restrains her from sharing.
Sharing does not come easily. So, here we are with a few tips to make the art of sharing a lot less stressful for both you and your child:
Teach your Child to Take Turns:
If your child refuses to part with something, practice taking turns. Tell your child that she’ll get to play with the toy for a few fixed minutes and as soon as the time is up, it will be her playmate’s turn to play with that toy for the same fixed amount of time.
Turn Sharing into Fun:
Play some cooperative games with your child and show her how players play together towards a common goal. Give her snacks to eat with her playmates and tell her that she will get to eat them only when she shares them.
Set an Example:
Kids pick up what you do and love to imitate you. So, ensure that you set the right example before them. Show your child how you share your things with your friends and relatives. Also, do not forget to share your things with her, like your ice-cream, your fancy clips, etc.
Do not force or punish:
If your feel your child is reluctant to share, do not scold or name her selfish. This will only increase the resentment than generosity. Instead, talk it out. Use positive reinforcement and make her understand the importance of sharing calmly. However, do not forget that it is perfectly alright for your kid to hold back certain items.
Praise your child:
Always remember to shower your kid with plenty of praise when she chooses to loosen her grip on something. This will motivate her to share in order to gain your love and praise.
And while you do all this, remember to be patient. Your child is sure to learn sharing, with time.
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Yes, it is!
Always available! Always at correct temperature! And always bottle-free!
Breastfeeding is no less than a commitment which requires dedication and endurance. It may seem really difficult, if you are a first-time mommy or when you are just starting to breastfeed.
But, do not worry! The difficulty or the pain decreases as you continue to breastfeed. It gets simpler and easier with time. So do not give up if it seems challenging, because it’s worth it! All you need to ensure is, you are well prepared before you begin with it.
Here is a list of all the breastfeeding essentials that a new-mom must stock in order to make breastfeeding easy and a lovely experience:
Breastfeeding may feel painful to almost everyone in the beginning. Your nipples may get sore, cracked or may even bleed. But don’t give up, because in most cases this pain is absolutely normal. Instead, ask your physician to prescribe some good medicated cream to soothe you nipples.
They offer a great level of comfort while breastfeeding your baby and are of real help to make nursing easier.
It is a must-have breastfeeding essential which provides support to your back and arm while you feed your baby. It helps to keep your baby elevated and holds him in the right position to nurse. Not only this, it also helps in reducing gastric reflux issues in babies that are common during breastfeeding.
It is quiet likely that you leak breast milk quite often after delivery. In order to avoid any embarrassing situation, using breast pads to keep your clothes clean and dry is a good idea.
They protect your clothes when your baby spits-up or are useful to wipe spit-up from your baby’s mouth while burping your baby.
Button-down Shirts or Maternity Nursing gown:
Simple button-down outfits always make it easier to breastfeed your baby without having to change clothes.
If you are a working mom you must not forget to purchase this. It helps ensure that your baby has his food ready whenever he needs it even when you are not around.
With these few things at your easy reach you are sure to experience a lovely time developing a sweet bond with your baby while breastfeeding.
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While for some babies bath time is the most fun, for others it can be the most stressful time. Baby’s bath time is one of those several moments that create a special bond between the parents and the baby. But if it is the very first time, it can be a nerve racking experience for parents.
It is always good to take someone’s help for the first couple of times. Initially, most doctors recommend a bath every alternate day and head-wash once or twice a week for babies. So you need to gather all the required items to make your baby’s bath time enjoyable, comfortable and safe.
Check out our list and get ready to have a splash during your newborn’s bath time with these must-have bathing and grooming essentials:
Newborn baby bath tub: This infant tub is meant only for newborns as they cannot sit up or control any of their body parts. One of best advantages of this tub is that you can use it in sink or any other easy-to-reach places. So, if you have had a C-section or there are grandparents helping you out, you are sure to experience another level of convenience.
Baby Soap: This is not really important to have initially but you can always buy one if you wish to. Pick the one that is specially made for baby’s sensitive skin.
Baby Shampoo: Buy a shampoo that is mild and natural, and meant only for babies.
Nail Clippers: Trimming your baby’s nails can be really intimidating. If you feel nervous using scissors to cut the nails, buy nail clippers as they are safer than scissors. Prefer cutting nails immediately after bath time when the nails are supple.
Hair Brush: Buy a gentle brush for the little sprouts of your baby’s hair. Do not use an adult hair brush.
Bath towel or hooded towel: Keep at least 2 towels, one for wiping your baby and one for wrapping.
Soft washcloth: Keep one to clean your baby nicely and gently.
Baby Lotion: Give your baby a gentle massage with the lotion after bath.
Gather all these bathing essentials and make your baby’s bath time a fun. Even if you are a first time mommy, do not panic. Relax and play with your little one for a while before giving him bath, and your baby is sure to enjoy it!
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You would definitely call yourself the luckiest parent if your newborn is an ideal traveller and sleeps for a good deal of time while you are on your first day-out after baby. Your excursion can be a fun-time only if your little bundle of joy allows it to be.
Ever thought, what all baby gears would be required to keep him comfortable and cheerful?
Don’t be anxious!
We bring to you a list of items you must carry to make your excursion easier. So, if you are planning your first day-out with your newborn, start gathering these must-haves for your baby’s bag:
- Formula feed powder box and lukewarm water
- Sterilized bottles and nipples
- Breast pumps (if required)
- Washable bibs
- Sun hat
- Baby wipes
- Diaper rash cream
- Spare clothes, socks, and booties
- Disinfectant hand gel
- Baby wash, baby powder and baby lotion
- Car seat
- Collapsible stroller
- Baby’s medicine kit
- Baby Blankets
- Plastic bags (you might need them to keep soiled diapers or clothes)
- Extra Pacifiers (if required)
- Your baby’s toys
- Breastfeeding cover
Aren’t you surprised with the amount of stuff your little traveller requires?
Yes, we all are!
So before you forget anything, start packing all of these a few days before your day-out to avoid the last minute hassle.
Tashfiya Shadab, Silja Jay Nair, Jyotsana Verma, Nupur Jain, Vidya Mahendran, Anisha D Guglia, Harsha Rajiv, Pari Mohit Rai, Linu Sanjib Boro, Ruchita Sharma, Sheetal Khakhar, Alolika Datta Gupta Das, Neha Singla Johri, Sur Himantikaa, Lavanta Prakash, Neha Alok Pal and Sapana Wagh
It is, indeed!
These pearly whites not only add to your baby’s charming smile but to your exuberance too! Being a young and new mommy you surely find yourself unaware of when to begin with oral care for your baby or how to go about cleaning his teeth. It is likely, that you probably are a little scared of hurting your bundle of joy while trying to render him the best oral care.
So if you ask when to start your baby’s oral care, the answer is – even before the baby sports his first tooth.
Yes! It is a healthy habit to wipe your baby’s gums with a soft wet washcloth every day during bath time or before sleep time. Making your baby accustomed to this daily routine of mouth-cleaning helps make it easier for him to transition into toothbrushing later.
Therefore, we list here a few tips to help you ensure healthy oral care for your baby:
- If you are not following a routine of cleaning your baby’s gums every day, it is strongly recommended that you start with his oral care the moment you notice him teething.
- Do not use brushes with bristles for your young one. Introduce a small and soft toothbrush designed especially for babies.
- Initially, use only water and toothbrush to clean your little one’s teeth. Continue this until your baby is 18-month-old.
- Start using toothpaste that has low-fluoride content once your baby is 18-months-old. Take very small amount of baby-friendly toothpaste to clean his teeth.
- Change your baby’s toothbrush every 2 months. It will also add to his enthusiasm to brush with a colourful new brush.
- Wondering how often you should brush your baby’s pearly whites? If you have started feeding him solids then it is recommended that you brush his teeth at least twice a day.
Ways to brush your baby’s teeth:
- Hold or place your baby such that you can see his mouth clearly and he feels comfortable.
- Hold your baby’s chin in your hand and rest his head against something.
- Clean his teeth in a soft and circular motion.
- Lift his lip gently to brush the front and the back of the teeth, and the gum line.
We hope these suggestions help you take best oral care of your baby. Moreover, make your baby’s brushing time a fun, and help him form a healthy habit of brushing teeth twice daily.
Kshitija Shevade, Preitz Kory Patil and Prabha Peri
If your answer is Yes, it’s time to pack your hospital bag with all the essentials you may require during labour, birth and for your most awaited ‘bundle of joy’.
We do not intend to say that your departure to maternity hospital would be a frantic one as the Bollywood wants you to believe. But, isn’t it a good idea to be prepared a few weeks before your due date?
Of course, it is!
It may also prove handy in case you need to go into labour a little early. So be prepared now, if you want to steer clear of any last minute scramble to fill your hospital bag amidst contractions.
Here we present to you a checklist. Tick off all the essentials that you need to pack before you go into labour:
Things to Pack for Mum
Camera: You may want to capture those first few moments of your newborn baby. So, don’t miss to pack a camera along with its charger.
Backless slippers: Keep backless slippers that are easy to wear and remove.
Daily need items: Don’t forget to keep your toothbrush, toothpaste, comb, deodorant, shampoo, soap, lotion, hair dryer, towel, etc.
Sanitary pads: Though hospitals provide sanitary napkins but you may feel more comfortable with your favourite brand. Also, keep pads that are designed for heavy flow.
Important documents: Arrange all your health related documents properly in a folder. E.g.- health insurance card, picture id, hospital registration forms and other documents of your medical history.
Nightgowns or robe: Keep a loose and warm robe to wear at the time of delivery. If you wish to breastfeed your baby do not forget to pack 2-3 front-open nightgowns for easy breastfeeding.
Maternity Bras: Keep a few comfortable and supporting bras. Also, pack some nursing bras if you wish to breastfeed. Steer clear of underwire bras.
Socks: Many mums-to-be complain of their feet being cold during delivery. So keep 2-3 pair of socks, in case one gets soiled you have an extra pair to keep your feet warm.
Lip Balm: Labour wards are kept warm which may dry out your lips quickly. So keep your lip balm at easy reach.
Nursing covers: You would want some privacy and discretion while nursing your baby in front of others. So, do not miss to pack a nursing cover in your hospital bag.
Things to Pack for Baby:
Mittens: Your baby might have long nails. To prevent him/her from scratching his face or other parts of the body you may need to cover his/her hands with mittens.
Wipes: Purchase and pack wipes that are specially designed for babies and sensitive skin.
Diapers or nappies: Pack a few cloth nappies or disposable diapers for your newborn.
Swaddling cloth: Newborns feel comfortable when they are swaddled. Keep a few receiving blankets or clothes ready to swaddle your baby.
Hand Towels: Keep a few hand towels to wipe your little one’s mouth, hands and feet.
Rubber Under-sheet: To keep the bed from getting wet with pee, spit up or breast milk, keep a few waterproof sheet protectors.
Socks or Booties: Keep a pair of socks or booties for your newborn.
Cotton Outfits: Pack a couple of soft cotton jhablas or all-in-one suits for babies.
Nursing Pillows: In order to reduce strain in your arms, use nursing pillow to rest your baby on while breastfeeding.
Small Size Feeding Bottle: You may need to bottle-feed your newborn, so keep a bottle ready so that you do not need to rush at the eleventh hour.
Anjali Gupta, Shahi Sofia, Shilpi Saha, Navdeep Sandhu, Upasana Panda, Richa Arora, Priyanka Saurabh Khanna, Robe Samarth Gaonkar, Madhuri Dommety, Pari Mohit Rai and Ravalita Patra
You would definitely agree that this is something very rare. Wouldn’t you?
Though, experts strongly disapprove the concept of spanking, most parents still use it to discipline their kids.
Spanking – a mild form of punishment, was an acceptable part of parenting in the 70’s. But today there are frequent debates on why spanking is a bad idea. Whether or not parents believe in hitting, their kids do receive spanking at some point of time or the other. Most parents resort to spanking either because they are stressed out or frustrated, or out of the fear of having no other options.
Spanking is not a positive approach to discipline a child. However, if you happen to lose it occasionally and end up spanking your child, it is not going to cause any harm to him or your relationship forever. It is more serious an issue if you hit your child often or if it’s a part of your dominant parenting.
Reasons you should not spank your Child:
- Hitting teaches kids to hit: Children love to imitate what their parents do. When they get spanked often, they interpret hitting as something acceptable to stop/avoid something undesirable.
- Hitting demeans self-image: Kids are usually too young to understand the reason for a whack. It takes a lot of efforts for a child to build a healthy self-image and it gets affected negatively when he is spanked for doing something wrong. He starts believing that he is ‘bad’.
- Hitting promotes anger: Kids often see punishment as unfair. Hence they are more likely to rebel and display anger in protest.
Ways to Stop Yourself from Spanking:
- Explain the consequences: The most effective way to let your child know he has done something wrong is to make the point that undesirable acts can lead to undesirable results.
- Give Yourself Timeout: Timeouts are as helpful for parents as for kids. Frustration or stress may be the reasons you end up spanking your child. So, if you feel you are losing your sanity, move out of the situation and relax.
- Let the consequences happen: Do not feel that it’s always your duty to prevent each and every consequence. Sometimes it is best to allow the consequences to happen and then help your child learn a lesson from it.
Sheeja Narayanan, Robe Samarth Gaonkar and Vandana Anand.
No Doubt, Television is one of the best babysitters as it keeps the toddler happily absorbed for hours when parents wish to have some me-time, get started with cooking or sneak in any other household chores.
So, knowingly or unknowingly, it is none other than parents who are encouraging and entrenching TV habits in kids. Gradually, this becomes such an integral part of their lives that it seems just impossible to pull them away from the TV.
But, isn’t risking your toddler’s brain development too big a price to pay for keeping him busy?
If you feel the answer is Yes, then why not try out some good alternatives to TV to keep our sweet little toddlers busy:
- Involve your child in whatever you do: Narrate to your toddler the activity that you are doing. Try to keep him occupied by offering him to do the easiest part of that chore. For example: if you are kneading the dough, give your child a small portion of the same and allow him to play with it.
- Prepare a toy basket for your toddler: Always keep a toy basket handy that contains your child’s favourite stuff. For example: some soft-toys, puzzles, cartoon books, etc.
- Play some educational CDs: Purchase a few interactive audio-visual CDs that teach kids numbers and alphabets in a playful manner. Also, play CDs that contain story narration, it helps your child develop listening skills.
- Go creative: Sit with your child and spend time doing some simple craft activities. This will not only enhance his gross and fine motor skills but will also improve his imagination.
- Reduce your own TV time: Kids tend to follow what their parents do. So, make sure that you don’t stay glued to your TV screens for long. This will convey a wrong message to your child that it is acceptable to watch TV for hours.
Lastly, do not wait till this hazardous habit occupies a permanent space in your child’s daily routine. Help him grow up more creative by limiting his TV time and encouraging good habits.
Dilbir Kaur, Sushma Mayekar, Gagan Sandhu, Mala Ray, Jas Saini, Rakhee Bhargava, Rachna Khandelwal, Asfia Hashmi and Ramya Venugopal
Don’t you all agree that it is just impossible to get around a few things with babies, no matter what we try? One of those things is – baby’s hysteric crying. This is because, crying is the only way they express their hunger, irritation, pain, a desire for sleep, fear and so on.
But, how are we parents supposed to comprehend what our baby is trying to tell? Moreover, it becomes even more difficult when this crying turns into a daily night-routine for our baby. It may leave mommies absolutely exhausted handling a crying baby at night, which is their only time for some rest after a long tiring day.
So, if you are also one of the mommies trying to figure out a way to soothe your crying baby at night, let us have a look at the suggestions from some of our SOS Moms:
“Your baby may be suffering from colic i.e. gas in stomach. One of the home remedies that offers quick relief is – prepare a paste of 2 pinch Asafoetidia mixed with a spoonful of warm water and apply on the baby’s stomach around the naval”, suggests Renuka Chandoke.
“Gastric problem is very common in newborns, which makes them uncomfortable at night. Consult a paediatrician and give him gripe water or Colicad drops once before bedtime. These will relieve his stomach and he will be able to sleep peacefully”, say moms – Manpreet Kaur Bajwa and Vinu Gowtham Rao.
“To avoid gas problems, burp your baby after every feed”, suggests Priyamvada S. Agnihotri.
“Colic pain usually hits all newborns and lasts for a few months. In order to curtail it make your baby sleep on your stomach or on his stomach. This technique is known as Kangaroo Mother Care and works wonders in most of the illnesses”, says Rakhi Bhargava.
“If you are breastfeeding your child, avoid eating food that are likely to cause gastric problems”, suggests Sheetal Kohli.
“Babies may also cry due to itching. So, ensure that you clean your baby’s nappy area nicely and apply powder every day before putting him to sleep”, says Tryphena David Jagtap.
“Give your baby a gentle massage and bedtime bath with Luke warm water, this prepares him for a good night sleep”, says Rachana Deep.
Lastly, do not worry or panic if your baby is cranky before going to bed every night. This is very common and happens with most of the babies. Newborn babies take time to adjust in the outside environment and such problems usually subside in a few months.
Shabnam Desai, Renuka Chandoke, Manpreet Kaur Bajwa, Vinu Gowtham Rao, Priyamvada S. Agnihotri, Rakhi Bhargava, Sheetal Kohli, Tryphena David Jagtap, Rachana Deep and others.
As soon as you realize your maternity leave is coming to an end, you tend to find yourself bound by guilt and obligation. Guilt, of leaving your young baby in someone else’s care, or, even of being eager to return to your previous lifestyle.
A mere thought of being a working mom, can trigger a host of mixed and conflicting emotions. Regardless of how long and hard you have thought before deciding to resume your work-life or how sure you are that it’s the right decision, you need to be well-prepared for back-to-work jitters, post delivery.
Though a few bumps along this way are inevitable, here are a few tips to keep your guilt in check and make this navigation less stressful:
Before going back to work:
- Start with working-from-home or take up a part time job before you actually get back to work. This prepares you and your child slowly for the upcoming transition.
- Start your hunt for a childcare or a nanny that best suits your child’s needs. Begin this new routine for your child before you are back at work full time.
After joining work:
- Have an emergency support system ready in-case your child falls sick or the nanny is on leave or the childcare is closed for a day or two. This keeps the last minute hassle for alternative arrangements at bay.
- Plan your daily routine so that you are able to manage your work well. Waking up early after staying up all night with a crying baby, finishing all household chores and then racing off to your job may seem to be a challenging task. But with proper time management you can stay organized and find time for yourself too.
- Do not hesitate in seeking support. Take help of your spouse and other family members to sail smoothly through this transitional phase.
- Try to take good amount of rest to stay fit and healthy. Do not over-exert yourself and fit at least a little me-time in your daily schedule.
- Call up your child’s nanny or the day-care everyday once or twice to ensure your baby is fine. This will also make you feel connected to your baby.
Lastly, remember that whatever you are doing is for your child’s better future. Moreover, it has been observed that kids of working parents learn to grow up independently and more confident. However, one thing that you always need to ensure is – do not forget to spend quality time with your child and give him as much love as possible.
Sushma Mayekar, Padmaja Giri, Priyanka Singh Desai, Mala Ray and Harsha Rajiv.