It is crazy to go back to work after maternity leaves. Like, the last time your coworkers saw you, you had a happy baby bump,but now, you’re all flat out, dark circles and all. We feel you fellow mommas, we know what it is leave your baby and fight off the guilt that is steadily creeping up your throat. One major worrying factor for all new moms returning to work is – How Do I Store my Breast Milk? After all, your little cherub needs it and it is the best gift you can give your child.
Now, the women who want/need to work, take a minute to bless science, because science has given you this wondrous, wow worthy thing called the breast pump. These little gifts from technology lets mothers pump their milk out and store it for their baby’s care takers to feed the little one whenever necessary.
One such new mom Veena is returning to work and she came running to us to ask us how she should store her breast milk and our unfailing SOS moms have come to our rescue.
Anisha Rodrigues Pinto hurried in to help Veena, “Well if you are starting work you can always start combining breast and bottle milk ( i.e. more times breast milks and fewer times bottle milk( supplement). But as you mentioned you want to know about breast milk, which is the best to give your baby. Here is what I know. Well, expressing of breast milk can be done in three ways: 1) hand, 2) using a hand pump (available on firstcry.com), 3) using an electrical pump (available on firstcry.com). If you get heavy milk supply it will be quite easy for you to express by hand specially in the morning. However if you find it difficult ask help from doctor or experienced people to teach you or show you in either of the above 3 ways mentioned. At times expressing by hand can also take a long time in this case the pumps are helpful. You must express your milk in sterilised bottle (available on firstcry.com), which can then be capped and stored in the fridge. Don’t keep it longer than 24 hours. See that it’s frozen as soon as possible. Melt frozen milk and use at once. Never refreeze. You can also keep it in fridge for 5 to 6 hours (in case u get a break and can rush home and get back to work).”
Sonal Maner shared her experience of returning to work when her daughter was just three months old, “Use an electric breast pump to extract milk and store in special sterilised bags in d freezer. Use Medela breast pump and bags, they are the best. You can store milk in the freezer for up to 3 moths after extracting, remove from freezer 45 mins before feed time and keep the bag/bottle in hot water so it can warm up. Do not open d bag/bottle until the baby is ready to be fed. I joined work wen my daughter was just 3 months and used to feed her extracted breast milk until she was 1.5 yrs.” Medela Breast Pumps on FirstCry.com are available here.”
Neha Gaurav puts in her useful tips, “You can use manual breast pump instead of electric one. After extracting milk you can keep it at room temp (27 degrees) for 4 to 6 hours in the refrigerator (towards the corner of tray) for 24 hrs in sterilised bottles only. After taking out the milk from refrigerator , keep the bottle in a pan of warm water for few minutes so that it comes to room temp. But make sure u do not bring the milk in direct contact of heat (gas flame)”.
Noopur Agarwal also reminded us to instruct the care taker, “With an automatic breast pump you can extract all the milk in morning before going to office, then store the milk in sterilised baby bottles and refrigerate them. Tell the person who will be feeding the baby to take out the bottle half an hour before feeding the baby”.
Radhika Varun Soni also reiterated the best method to store breast milk, “You can use breast pump of your choice n refrigerate the milk in sterilized bottle and warm the bottle in hot water just minutes before he is to be fed.”
A lot of advice comes in the way of new moms, but the best ones are from peers who have been mothers themselves. Being a working mom can bring whole host of challenges, but it is also a really satisfying role to play.
We would also like to extend our thanks to the moms who came to Veena’s rescue:
Sonal Maner, Noopur Agarwal, Radhika Varun Soni and Neha Gaurav.
For about the first two or three months, a newborn’s eyes tend to drift, wander and appear squint. This squint in newborn happens when the baby is tired or is trying to focus on something very close. However, by four months, babies develop a more-mature eye-hand coordination and depth perception. Thus, the off-kilter gaze, that’s the cause of botheration for many new-parents, is put an end to.
Doctors are of the opinion that newborn squint of eye is a perfectly normal and common newborn characteristic. Most of the times than not, eyes of a newborn are not crossed, but appear to be crossed. This evasive condition happens because some babies are born with extra folds of skin along the inner corners of their eyes, which gives them the cross-eyed appearance.
Besides, there is a phenomenon known as ‘pseudoesotropia’, in which the baby looks cross-eyed because of the optical illusion caused by their flat nasal bridge. Have a look at your nose and compare it with that of your baby – you’ll find yours to be bigger and more defined. You may ask, why is the nasal bridge of a baby flat? To make breastfeeding easier!
As always, we have SOS Moms helping you out with their share of experience.
At the outset, we have Parul Sharma Khatri, who says, “All kids are born that way. Usually, baby eye squint gets resolved within 2 months completely when the eye muscles develop.”
Next, we have Anisha Rodrigues E Pinto, proposing her take, “Hi, at first even I thought the same for my baby. Then, later I read many books and I came to know that it passes off with time. To be out of tension, just get her eyes checked at your next visit to the doctor. Well, you have to be worried only if even by 3 or 4 months your baby does not move her eyes at a moving object kept in front of her face. For a newborn, please relax no need to worry, it will pass off with time.”
Third, Chetana Suvarna Ganatra suggests, “It is very common in newborns to squint. I noticed that at times when my baby kept staring at something particular, her eyes would squint. I simply used to gently shut her eyes for a minute to shift attention. Hope this helps! However, I would also recommend you see a paediatric if it happens regularly.”
Rajnideep Sandhu has a unique way of dealing with squint of eye in newborn. She says, “It happens. You just have to keep one thing in mind that don’t let your baby see straight. Let the baby see more sideways and blink again and again or change the direction for another view. Good luck!”
So to say, don’t worry too much about your newborn’s squint eyes. Remember, most of the time this condition will straighten out by maximum six months of age without treatment. Here’s to your baby’s beautiful baby blues!
Lastly, we extend our thanks to the below mentioned SOS Moms as well for helping Mahek overcome her distress.
Shweta Srivastava, Vinu Gowtham Rao, Shipra Chaubey, Reema Monga Verma, Shilpi Saha, Paulami Shome Roy, Surbhi Sharma, Neetu Vishal Sharda, Robe Samarth Gaonkar, S Hashim Ali Khan, Rajni Kashvi Jaiswal, Asma Kapoor, Pooja Mishra, Grace Dcruz, Shraddha Upadhyay Desai, Naga Deepthi Vedagiri, Vidya Patel, Kamal Mahi, Madhusmita Mishra, Kiran Bobade Chatur, Ramya Shree, Vibha Sharrma, Vividha Aggarwal, Wenencia Savio Fernandes, Ritu Bhargava Sud
Roshini, a worried mom of a 17-month old toddler, says, “My daughter was a thumbsucker since the beginning -literally. Tucked away in my memories book is an ultrasound image of her’s sucking her thumb to glory in the womb. Now, a year and a half later, she’s still not ready to let it go.”
The answer to Roshini’s and other numerous moms’ problem is rather straightforward. Thumb sucking is a very common reflex that kids engage in when they face a stressful situation. They do this to calm down, fall asleep or just to feel good. It makes them feel safe and comfortable. Also, most of the times, sucking thumb is considered harmless in terms of a child’s growth and speech development.
Paediatricians from all over are of the consensus that as the kid crosses the two year age mark, they start developing other coping skills beyond thumb or finger sucking. They also purport that as long as the child stops the thumb sucking habit by the time he develops his permanent teeth, there would be minimal or no impact on his mouth and jaw.”
One of our SOS Moms, Vandana Anand, mom of 2 kids, says, “Help your kid in resolving his thumb sucking problem and leave it to his will. Don’t force! Give enough love and your baby will leave sucking his thumb”.
Another SOS Mom, Rajnideep Sandhu, doubles up with Vandana Anand and says, “The main thing is when children don’t get the proper attention, they develop such habits. So, just check if your child wants to say something to you, it’s usually a big deal for them!”
We also have Meghna Kattimani who puts forth a different perspective to the problem.
She says, “Identify the triggers – If your kid sucks his thumb in response to stress, identify that triggering factor and provide comfort in other ways — such as a hug or reassuring words. You might also try giving your kid a pillow or stuffed animal to squeeze.”
Lastly, Urvashi Patole proposes, “Maybe you can put a little garlic or any bitter tasting edible on your kid’s thumb. Very soon he will stop sucking his thumb. However, adopt this method only when your kid has become a preschooler (3-5 yrs), but still continues to have this problem.”
So you see Roshini, forcing is not the solution! In most cases, the kid automatically gives up the habit as he grows. There’s no urgency to kick the habit this early, i.e. Before the child turns three.
‘Temporary Stuttering’ is very common in kids between the ages 2 to 5. It normally affects two in every 20 kids. For many kids, it is just a part of learning the use of new words while putting them together to form sentences. It is usually seen that this stuttering and stammering phase outgrows with time and rarely persists into adulthood.
Let’s first understand the reason behind why kids stammer and stutter. Experts believe that a variety of factors are responsible for this speech disorder to happen, genetics being the major causative aspect. It is seen that 60% of kids who stammer are bound to have either of the parents or a close family member who stammered in their childhood.
Besides genetics, some neurological factors are also responsible for the stuttering and stammering in kids. Research says that kids who stammer process language differently; as in there seems to be a problem with the way language is transmitted through their brains. However, they are not able to pinpoint why this occurs.
This time around too, our SOS Moms come to your rescue –
First, we have Anubhuti Seth Mehn, who says, “If your daughter is old enough to go to a play school, do that. Kids tend to pick up things with other kids at a faster pace. Or every evening make it a point to take her to a park where she can find other kids to play with. She’ll build her diction there.”
Another SOS Mom, Priyanka Tamhane says, “It’s always better to take a speech therapist’s expert advise. The doctor will actually guide you if it’s a worrisome thing and will accordingly advise what needs to be done.”
Mum, Shabnam Desai, proposes, “If it is the righttime then you should admit her in a play school. It helps to develop the language of a child. Secondly, there are cases where kids stammer due to stress and anxiety. It may be due to some reasons she cannot express what she wants to say. So please try to comfort her and talk to her, things will be better. Do not make her conscious about her stammering, that will make the matter worst. If she is older, then you should consult a speech therapist.”
Anisha Rodrigues E Pinto suggests, “First don’t make her feel uncomfortable or aware of her speech as wrong. Second, it’s better to take advice from a speech therapist. Third, keep talking to her and don’t focus on correcting. Fourth, let her socialise more often.”
Lastly, we have Bizns Bizns, who says, “Please try homeopathy, works without side effects.”
Also, there seems to be a connection between the kid stuttering and stammering and hefeeling tired, pressured, excited or upset. It also happens because their vocabulary is limited, i.e. They think faster than they can talk. So, don’t point out her stuttering and stammering, and don’t interrupt, it can worsen the condition, because it’ll hamper the kid’s self-confidence. And that’s the last thing we want to happen!
By the age of two, children become independent enough to be walking on their own. As they develop this skill, is also when they regress and suddenly become clingy. They just want to be carried everywhere and throw tantrums when denied. It is at this point that the kid is torn between his independent impulses and the very compelling desire to be attached to the parent.
This is a difficult phase for the parents as well, because every sentence that the kid speaks begins with ‘mom’ or ‘dad’. Every waking moment of theirs is spent carrying the clingy toddler until their biceps burn. To make things worse, in some cases, the other parent is not even allowed to help.
Research suggests that periodic clinginess is normal, and it’s a sign that you and your child have a healthy relationship. However, the kid’s waffling between the two extremes of independence and dependence is very taxing for both, the kid, and the parents. They are befuddled if they should give the kid a pat on the back and tell him to man up, or if they should simply accept the whole scenario as it is.
Again, we bring to you our SOS Moms whose suggestions are based on experience–
At the outset, we have Shabnam Desai, who suggests, “If you are a working mother, maybe the baby is missing you too much. Try to spend more time with your little one. Maybe the baby is afraid about something. Look around for signs if something is going wrong when certain people are coming near the baby, and not only people also check out the toys. Some kids are not comfortable with certain toys, especially soft toys because of the fur. Try to comfort the baby and please keep your cool or matters can get worse. Check whether the baby is teething or any other ailments and consult the doctor”.
Next, Rajni Kashvi Jaiswal adds, “Because maybe now herecognises you as his parents, he has become clingy suddenly.”
Mums, Jyot Kaur, Neha Singh, Shruti Singhal Garg and Sneha Agrawal collectively assert that teething may be the reason the kid has suddenly turned clingy. They suggest the use of ‘Calcarea Phosphorica’ as a solution for teething problem in toddlers. However, this needs to be done only after consulting a paediatric doctor.
Lastly, Chetana Suvarna Ganatra blames the kid’s clingy behaviour to separation anxiety he may be going through.
A tip from our end; try to make walking fun for him and don’t scold the kid. Remember, the kid has shorter legs, so he/she will take more time to cross the same distance. Also, keep the outings on foot brief and have a stroller ready as a backup plan.
Parents of late-talking children are always in a state of dilemma on whether they should ‘wait and see’ if the kid picks up speed in language development on his own, or if they should meet a speech therapist right away. Many of these parents are told not to worry as each kid develops at his/her own pace. Nonetheless, their gut instinct is always to seek help as they strive to do the best for their child.
The ‘wait and see’ approach for late talkers is borne out of a stereotyped observation about typical language development in children. While it is passable that children do develop at their own pace, there are certain age milestones that should be reached by a specific age. It is also true that there are many late talking toddlers who catch up on their own, a few do not.
In this write-up, when we speak about language delay, we aren’t talking about language disorders or physical and developmental delays like Cerebral Palsy, Down Syndrome, Autism or those with childhood apraxia. These conditions require special kind of therapeutics and doctoring. We only speak about those children who seem to lag behind a little in their spoken (or “expressive”) language.
Let’s quickly go through what our SOS Moms have to say about late talkers –
Mum, Anima Bhardwaj, says, “Just one answer! Don’t compare your kid to others for anything. Each child is different and develops differently. Just make sure that he is medically fit. If everything is okay, just relax. Some kids are late talkers… late walkers… late eaters… and so on”.
We have Somita Suri, who suggests, “Depends on what you mean by ‘doesn’t talk very well’. Most kids develop at their own pace just like when they take their first steps. However, do look out for other signs in your child with respect to social behaviour, because it could be linked to autism.”
Next, Julie Ekka Tanti proposes her viewpoint by saying, “Just like my kid who is four years old now, but doesn’t show any signs of eating on her own. I have to force her for each meal! She doesn’t chew and is used to swallowing. I’m pretty much worried, as kids of her age are fond of chocolates and so many edibles, but my child says no to all.”
Shilpi Saha shows a different dimension of the problem by saying, “It depends on how much you all talk at home. If yours is a silent type of house, then give your kid some more time. Moreover, if your kid has completed other milestones and is okay in other behaviours, then don’t worry, give a bit more time. My Lil’ brother also had the same problem because our house was a silent kind of house”.
Last, we have mums, Tanvi Nigam, Pooja Rathod and Noopur Agarwal, who collectively reinstate that parents should not worry about late talking in children. They jointly agree that things will take time and that parents should just have patience.
We conclude by saying that every child is unique in his/her own way and that parents should never compare their child with another child. Keep training your kid the requisite language skills and cherish that kiddish ‘blabber’. Once it’s gone, you’ll miss it badly!
Many a times, it is seen that even though the kid is toilet-trained in the day-time, he faces difficulty holding pee in for a long period at night-time, when he sleeps. Such toilet-training accidents happen due to various reasons, while heredity being a major contributor.
If the parents have had a history of bedwetting that continued until their ages of five or six, it is highly likely that the kid will inherit the same tendency. Other possible reasons include, not being developmentally ready to sense a full bladder or having a tendency to sleep so deeply, that responding to the bladder’s signals and mastering night-time toilet control becomes elusive.
It is seen that bedwetting is more common in boys (about six to seven out of ten kids who wet their beds are male). Also, it is observed that by the age of five or six, 90 percent of the kids stop the bed-wetting habit on their own. Nonetheless, nobody knows for sure why the rest 10 percent continue to have a problem.
As always, we have our SOS Moms guiding you with a few bed wetting solutions
Shobha Suresh, a proud mum of two kids, says, “Stop scolding your toddler because they bed wet. They are just kids who don’t know a thing. If we can’t be patient with kids at our age, we can’t teach them to have patience later.”
While Somita Suri suggests, “Bear with him. Telling off a toddler is pointless as this is something out of his control and could cause anxiety problems.”
Next, we have Meenakshi Srikantan, who says, “I think it depends on your child’s age. If he is above two and a half, you can slowly reduce the liquid intake before sleep and also make him use the toilet before getting into bed. If you use an AC in your room or live in a cold place, then it is going to cause bed-wetting, despite doing everything until they learn to wake you up to use the toilet.”
Meenakshi further suggests, “If you are really worried, I suggest you talk to your paediatrician regarding urinary incontinence. But maybe wait until he is a bit older, perhaps and like mentioned here, try training him to use the toilet at night at some interval.”
Shantala Murugendra proposes her viewpoint by saying, “Few kids do it till the age of 10. So, better reduce liquid and cold intake at least 2 hours before sleep, but make sure they drink enough water at day time. And being a parent, it’s our duty to keep an alarm and make them go to the toilet at night. Slowly their minds get trained to get up and go to the toilet at midnight.”
Lastly, moms Georgina Jha, Pratibha Tyagi and Robe Samarth Gaonkar collectively recommend the use of a diaper for the kid and a rubber sheet to protect the mattress at night.
Make sure your child is ready for getting toilet-trained. Frustration on your part isn’t the key here! Your child has to be motivated to stop the bedwetting habit. If he’s not bothered, stick with disposable diapers until he’s ready. He’ll let you know when it’s time.
Food jag – a common eating behaviour where the kid only wants to eat one food item for every meal. More often than not, it’s the toddlers and preschoolers who tend go on food jags and only like foods that are of a certain colour or texture. This behaviour is usually impulsive. At times, it can be so sudden that the kid would decide to hate even the foods they loved till one day prior.
Fries suddenly become their favourite ‘vegetable’. Anything green is met with clenched teeth and a loathful face. Whining stops only when a dessert appears and chocolate comes to be considered as a separate food group. While this behaviour is normal, parents should deal with it patiently.
Research suggests that it takes at least 10 – 15 tries before a picky kid eats, or at least gets to like a new food. Also, the lost affinity for any food often returns after a gap of around a fortnight. Our point: Don’t be pushy, but persistent in helping your child love new foods. Although it is a frustrating phase in your kid’s development, understand that it’ll get better with time.
Our SOS Moms share their opinions on dealing with picky eaters
We have Rajnideep Sandhu, who suggests, “Try to take your meals with your baby. Because I have seen that children always want to taste from others plates, though they make a mess, but it’s OK with us.. Isn’t it? ”
Prabha Peri, mum of a 2-year-old, says, “Try to fill his plate with different food items neatly garnished and in colourful or attractive cups or plates.. Once he tries to taste a single item and if he feels it tasty, he will definitely start eating it.. I tried the same with my 2-year-old.”
One of our SOS Moms, Pratibha Gautam, came up with a fantastic idea of mixing the kid’s favourite food with the other food you want him to eat. This will disguise the new food in a way that your kid will down it chop-chop.
Last, we have Anima Bhardwaj, who says, “If he has started picking up food on his own and could eat it, try giving him finger food. Whatever you want him to try, make it in the shape of small balls or small sticks that he could pick up easily. Let him make a mess… Kids enjoy it! Just put the food in front of him and leave him alone with it. Don’t sit in front of him or force him to eat… Let him take his time.”
If you’re very concerned about what your picky toddler eats, maintain a diary of all the food and drink items he has over a week. Make sure he has something from each of the four main food groups, i.e. starch/carbohydrates, proteins, dairy and fruits and veggies. If you know that he has eaten food from all these food groups, you shouldn’t be worrying about his nutrition.
Sometimes, it’s alright to allow the picky eater to choose foods that appeal to them. When averaged over several meals, you’ll realise that they choose well. Trust those little bodies and discern that the child’s world and his gastronomic horizons will expand as he grows and starts attending preschool.
In families with more than one child, sibling rivalry is commonplace. At the outset, you just see two kids fighting, however on looking beneath the surface of things, you’ll realize the riposte feeling that is at the core of sibling rivalry in children.
Expression of retaliatory behaviour by the submissive one to counteract the sense of constantly being the victim of the dominant other, is what breeds sibling fights. This repugnant behaviour, clubbed with the feeling that he is loved less by his parents intensifies his pathos.
Nonetheless, for parents it is one of the biggest parenting struggles to sort. But it is upon them to turn the conflict scenarios into training opportunities. Parents should repeatedly teach their children to honour and speak well of one another.
When asked if parents should intervene in resolving sibling rivalry, one of our SOS Moms, Robe Samarth Gaonkar suggested, “Of course you should intervene and never let the time pass by without them consoling each other. It’s just normal fights in the beginning, but if you don’t correct them on time, then it will be worse once they are older.”
We agree with Robe on this and feel that parents should help their kids sort the fights by making them understand the art of managing their emotions. Otherwise, the mutual ill feelings will get carried over into their adult lives and become even more crippling to deal with later on.
3 Suggestions for Parents when Managing Sibling Rivalry
- When you intervene, you should hold both the kids equally responsible for the fight. It shouldn’t matter as to who started it or whose fault it is. After all, it always takes two to tango; a fight is never a one-sided affair, so stop refereeing.
- Use the ‘step in to step out’ method. Help your kids to identify their feelings at the moment of a fight (step in) and then leave them and let them work out a solution between themselves (step out). This is because, there will be times when kids would resolve the conflict in their own way and only need us to set up the navigation just a bit.
- Appreciate both the kids in their individual domains. Never pitch them up against one another. If one is good in sports and the other is a bookworm, recognize and appreciate their individuality.
Follow these few simple strategies, as you work with your kids to manage sibling rivalry and pioneer a peace treaty in your home today.
Getting kids, especially those who have been sleeping with parents for more than a year, to sleep in their own beds is not easy.
We can say that it’s sort of like ripping off a band-aid… The kid will cry, there’ll be tantrums and a whole lot of havoc. However, you’ve to decide whether you’ll transition quickly or will take your own sweet time.
Many parents typically opt to have their kids sleep on separate beds by the kid’s will and desire. However, this can be confining for the parents, as the kid will keep growing dependent on the parents to get a night of peaceful sleep.
The key to establishing a workable bedtime routine is to set firm expectations and then maintain consistency. Before moving ahead with the decision, you should feel strongly enough for the mission of moving the kid to his own bed. Ambivalence over your decision will not help.
To make things easier for you, our SOS Moms are giving out a few suggestions–
“Make his best soft toy his best friend and sleep mate. Let him sleep with the toy and tell him that his friend (the soft toy) will be alone and cry if he doesn’t sleep with him”, recommends Swati Thakur, mom of a 1 year old.
Swati also says, “One more thing you can try is, when he’s fast asleep just put a pillow over him at your place, so that he gets a feeling that it’s you and not the pillow. Maybe that can help as it does help me and my son is only 1 year old.”
Next, we have Neha Kapur, who says, “Put your T-shirt on a pillow and place it next to him… Sometimes, it’s your smell that comforts them.”
We also have Ranjani Anoop and Saheti Krishna Kasam, who have tested the methods suggested by Swati Thakur. They double up with Swati to say that the pillow method really works.
One useful tip from our end – think of the things that will offer some comfort to the kid during the transition. Play a CD of soothing lullabies, light a brighter nightlight or an LED projector lamp that’ll create an effect of a starry night sky onto the walls and ceiling of his room.
So, be prepared for a bumpy ride while getting your kiddo to sleep in his own bed, but keep your eyes on the prize: an independent kid who sleeps all by himself and one less elbow in your back at night!
A few teeth make their lovely appearance in the front, by the time your baby celebrates her first birthday. So, it’s no more a “gummy” smile now. But, this is not the end. There is teething, and then there is teething again – even more painful one this time! All thanks to those big molars that are all set to poke through the tender gums of your baby.
At around 13 to 19 months, molars start popping up. They are large in size, with double edges and can be twice as difficult to cut as the baby incisors. This may make your child miserable and irritable.
Let us have a look at some of the toddler teething symptoms you can keep an eye out for to offer best relief remedy to your child:
- Irritation on chin or cheek
- Red swollen gums
- Improper sleep and decreased appetite
- Constant rubbing of ears on the same side as the erupting tooth
- Drooling, biting and chewing
- Slightly increased body temperature but not fever
Ways to soothe your toddler’s gums:
Give your toddler a frozen stick of cucumber or a peeled raw carrot to chew on. Be there with her while she is eating it to ensure that she doesn’t choke on any piece she bites off.
To distract her from her discomfort, give her a cool spoon or a slightly frozen wet, clean flannel to chew on. They offer interesting textures.
A cool teething ring is also ideal. It is always recommended to use solid teething ring over liquid filled rings, which could leak.
Offer your child a cup to drink milk or water. Bottle-feeding and breastfeeding can be painful for a teething toddler as sucking causes more blood to rush to the swollen areas, making them more sensitive.
If nothing else works and your child seems to be in real distress, consult your paediatrician and give her the correct dosage of infant Paracetamol.
While you take all the efforts to soothe your toddler, remember, that you also need to be patient as teething takes a good amount of time to complete its process. Hence, you may need to pay extra attention and provide extra care to your toddler.
Most parents come across experiences of hearing a sudden shriek in the middle of the night from their child’s bedroom. When they rush in, the sight of their toddler – sitting up wild-eyed in bed, crying and trying to reach out for them leaves them greatly anxious.
Unless your child expresses in words that she has had a nightmare, it is difficult to understand what caused her this distress.
However, if your regular “peaceful sleeper” unexpectedly wakes up crying, behaves clingy and faces trouble getting back to sleep on her own, you can consider it the after-effect of a nightmare.
Nightmares are most common in preschoolers, as they develop some general fears and have vivid imagination at this age. They face difficult time separating reality from make-believe.
So how are you supposed to handle your child when she has a nightmare?
Let us have a quick look at what our SOS Moms have to suggest:
Ensure that the night-light of your child’s bedroom is on
Keep the door of your child’s bedroom open and assure her that you are near-by
Ensure that you give physical reassurance to your child when she cries. Hold her close to you and gently rub her back until she calms down and is normal.
If your child is old enough, speak to her and try to understand her fears. You might be able to figure out a way to soothe her in a better way when she cries.
“Never scare your child or never let her see or be in scary environment. Also, before sleeping let your child watch or hear lovely stories of her favourite cartoon character”, says Shantala Murugendra
“Check if there is something that happens in the day that scares her. There may be some person whom she doesn’t like. Encourage her to speak up and try to find out a solution to her problem”, suggests Sanghamitra Sethi Kummera.
However, if the nightmares persist and she dreads going to bed or is fearful during the day too, do not delay to consult your paediatrician – such dreams could signal an emotional issue that needs addressing. Lastly, do not panic as this is very common among children of this age and will fade away with time soon.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:
Heena Bhardwaj, Pavitra Thakur, Suchitra Prakash, Pratibha Gautam, Merina John, Gunjan Ravi Shadija, Srirama Sammeta, Sheetal Diniyan, Kim J S, Sirisha Naidu, Inderjeet Kaur Bindra, Tejasveeta Pawar Vaidya, Charu Singh, Pooja Dixit Patayane, Alpana Chaudhary, Seema Suthar Gaikwad, Sarika Jain, Namrata Sood Joshi, Gayathri Ramchandran, Shilpa Jaiswal, Karuna Gupta, Aarti Vedpathak, Cheena Jain, Rajprit Jaiswal, Ambika Mehta, Supriya Mishra, Vandana Anand, Aparajitha Nagesh, Shantala Murugendra, Sanghamitra Sethi Kummera, Laxmi Singh and Appasamy Pradeep.
If your answer is YES, go on reading this.
Crawling is probably that first sign that shows that your little angel is on his or her way. Every parent eagerly awaits this moment. But sometime, some babies do not start crawling as early as other babies, which causes anxiety among most parents.
Though the average age for babies to start crawling is 8 months, many babies skip this age entirely and wait until later. The timing for certain milestone is quite variable, especially when we talk about gross motor skills. Also, there exists a wide range of “what’s normal” when it comes to attaining developmental milestones.
So, even if your baby refuses the idea of scooting around on hands and knees, you should not panic!
The important point to remember is, crawling is just one milestone out of many and if your baby shows signs of delay in attaining it, it is most likely nothing to be worried about. It is only when your baby lags behind in a few developmental milestones that you should talk to your paediatrician about it.
Let us have a quick look at what our SOS Moms have to suggest:
“It is not something to worry if your baby starts crawling late. It’s okay as long as she is active enough to explore new things. Try to make her sit for a few seconds everyday”, says Swati Thakur.
“My son didn’t crawl at all, he directly started walking from 11th month and so did I as my mum told me, so I guess it’s pretty normal”, says Deepti Khurana Mehta.
“Ensure that you massage your baby twice everyday with good massage oil, this helps in faster growth and better development of the baby”, suggests Sakshi Abbey Bhatnagar.
“The best way to help your baby is, give her a lot of tummy time, at least 2-3 hours in a day with proper intervals in between. For tummy time – spread some bed sheets on the floor to make the surface comfortable but not soft for the baby. Then lay her down on her tummy. Now put some toys in front of her and encourage her to crawl ahead. This will tempt her to try to crawl and reach the toys”, suggests Hema Shamjith Krishna.
As long as your baby is achieving other milestones well, there is no need to worry if she is not crawling even after 8-10 months. Understand that every child is different and thus, attain different milestones differently.
We thank all the Mommies of our community for sparing their precious time to give their valuable responses:
Kalaa Shree, Swati Thakur, Saakshi Nagpal, Rita Samuel Bing, Priyanka Rakesh Chavan, Gulnoza Usmanova, Deepti Khurana Mehta, Aastha Amit Kapoor, Nina Molly Vaz, Dr. Poonam Sangle Bhadange, Sakshi Abbey Bhatnagar, Prathita Malviya, Amrit Jeetla, Jyotsana Verma and Hema Shamjith Krishna.
You definitely will!
But, you will find it strange if we say that runny nose can be a good thing sometimes. Yes, it is! Because, it’s a natural way that helps body get rid of germs. However, too much of mucus in the nose may make it difficult for your baby to breathe or eat due to congestion, and the stuffy head may make him uncomfortable.
So how are you supposed to handle this? Looking out for suggestions, tips and advice?
Let us have a look at what our SOS Moms have to say:
“Apply a few drops of Eucalyptus (Nilgiri) oil on a handkerchief and make your baby inhale the aroma”, suggests moms – Megha Mandana and Nisha Verma.
“Heat some Ajwain on pan and wrap it in a muslin cloth. Now place it on your baby’s chest, it helps get rid of the congestion in the chest. But, make sure that it is not too hot for your baby’s sensitive skin”, says Sheetal Khakhar
“Boil some Ajwain in water. Now strain the water and collect it in a sippy cup for your baby to drink. It helps reduce cold in babies”, suggests Aastha Amit Kapoor.
“Take mustard oil in a pan and add 2-3 garlic cloves in it. Heat it on low flame and then allow it to cool down till it is lukewarm. Now use this to massage your baby once in a day and then give her hot sponge bath. I did this when my baby girl suffered from a similar problem and she was alright in two days”, says Aastha Amit Kapoor.
“Boil ginger in mustard oil and allow it to cool down till it is lukewarm. Now apply this on your baby’s chest and on her back. It will help relieve the congestion and your baby will feel comfortable”, suggests Mukti Ranjan.
“Boil a few Basil (Tulsi) leaves in water and make your baby inhale the steam. It will help relieve the congestion”, says Amruta Dipen More.
Last but not the least, do consult paediatrician if there is no sign of relief for more than a day.
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Aastha Amit Kapoor, Sheetal Khakhar, Megha Mandana, Nisha Verma, Mukti Ranjan, Amruta Dipen More, and many more.
You feel ‘mine’ and ‘no’ are her favourite words. “Why doesn’t she share her belongings?” – becomes a matter of serious concern for you. You dread that such a selfish attitude may end up leaving your child friendless.
But is your child a selfish, indeed? Or she is just acting her age?
For a two-year-old, anything that strikes her fancy becomes an extension of herself. While she is just beginning to comprehend possession, she develops a strong sense of self which restrains her from sharing.
Sharing does not come easily. So, here we are with a few tips to make the art of sharing a lot less stressful for both you and your child:
Teach your Child to Take Turns:
If your child refuses to part with something, practice taking turns. Tell your child that she’ll get to play with the toy for a few fixed minutes and as soon as the time is up, it will be her playmate’s turn to play with that toy for the same fixed amount of time.
Turn Sharing into Fun:
Play some cooperative games with your child and show her how players play together towards a common goal. Give her snacks to eat with her playmates and tell her that she will get to eat them only when she shares them.
Set an Example:
Kids pick up what you do and love to imitate you. So, ensure that you set the right example before them. Show your child how you share your things with your friends and relatives. Also, do not forget to share your things with her, like your ice-cream, your fancy clips, etc.
Do not force or punish:
If your feel your child is reluctant to share, do not scold or name her selfish. This will only increase the resentment than generosity. Instead, talk it out. Use positive reinforcement and make her understand the importance of sharing calmly. However, do not forget that it is perfectly alright for your kid to hold back certain items.
Praise your child:
Always remember to shower your kid with plenty of praise when she chooses to loosen her grip on something. This will motivate her to share in order to gain your love and praise.
And while you do all this, remember to be patient. Your child is sure to learn sharing, with time.
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Yes, it is!
Always available! Always at correct temperature! And always bottle-free!
Breastfeeding is no less than a commitment which requires dedication and endurance. It may seem really difficult, if you are a first-time mommy or when you are just starting to breastfeed.
But, do not worry! The difficulty or the pain decreases as you continue to breastfeed. It gets simpler and easier with time. So do not give up if it seems challenging, because it’s worth it! All you need to ensure is, you are well prepared before you begin with it.
Here is a list of all the breastfeeding essentials that a new-mom must stock in order to make breastfeeding easy and a lovely experience:
Breastfeeding may feel painful to almost everyone in the beginning. Your nipples may get sore, cracked or may even bleed. But don’t give up, because in most cases this pain is absolutely normal. Instead, ask your physician to prescribe some good medicated cream to soothe you nipples.
They offer a great level of comfort while breastfeeding your baby and are of real help to make nursing easier.
It is a must-have breastfeeding essential which provides support to your back and arm while you feed your baby. It helps to keep your baby elevated and holds him in the right position to nurse. Not only this, it also helps in reducing gastric reflux issues in babies that are common during breastfeeding.
It is quiet likely that you leak breast milk quite often after delivery. In order to avoid any embarrassing situation, using breast pads to keep your clothes clean and dry is a good idea.
They protect your clothes when your baby spits-up or are useful to wipe spit-up from your baby’s mouth while burping your baby.
Button-down Shirts or Maternity Nursing gown:
Simple button-down outfits always make it easier to breastfeed your baby without having to change clothes.
If you are a working mom you must not forget to purchase this. It helps ensure that your baby has his food ready whenever he needs it even when you are not around.
With these few things at your easy reach you are sure to experience a lovely time developing a sweet bond with your baby while breastfeeding.
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Sudha Prakash, Gayathri Ramachandran, Richa Arora, Gulnoza Usmanova, Upasana Tapan Roy, Eisha Todankar, Priyamvada Agnohotri, Deepti Khurana Mehta and Ankita Gupta
While for some babies bath time is the most fun, for others it can be the most stressful time. Baby’s bath time is one of those several moments that create a special bond between the parents and the baby. But if it is the very first time, it can be a nerve racking experience for parents.
It is always good to take someone’s help for the first couple of times. Initially, most doctors recommend a bath every alternate day and head-wash once or twice a week for babies. So you need to gather all the required items to make your baby’s bath time enjoyable, comfortable and safe.
Check out our list and get ready to have a splash during your newborn’s bath time with these must-have bathing and grooming essentials:
Newborn baby bath tub: This infant tub is meant only for newborns as they cannot sit up or control any of their body parts. One of best advantages of this tub is that you can use it in sink or any other easy-to-reach places. So, if you have had a C-section or there are grandparents helping you out, you are sure to experience another level of convenience.
Baby Soap: This is not really important to have initially but you can always buy one if you wish to. Pick the one that is specially made for baby’s sensitive skin.
Baby Shampoo: Buy a shampoo that is mild and natural, and meant only for babies.
Nail Clippers: Trimming your baby’s nails can be really intimidating. If you feel nervous using scissors to cut the nails, buy nail clippers as they are safer than scissors. Prefer cutting nails immediately after bath time when the nails are supple.
Hair Brush: Buy a gentle brush for the little sprouts of your baby’s hair. Do not use an adult hair brush.
Bath towel or hooded towel: Keep at least 2 towels, one for wiping your baby and one for wrapping.
Soft washcloth: Keep one to clean your baby nicely and gently.
Baby Lotion: Give your baby a gentle massage with the lotion after bath.
Gather all these bathing essentials and make your baby’s bath time a fun. Even if you are a first time mommy, do not panic. Relax and play with your little one for a while before giving him bath, and your baby is sure to enjoy it!
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You would definitely call yourself the luckiest parent if your newborn is an ideal traveller and sleeps for a good deal of time while you are on your first day-out after baby. Your excursion can be a fun-time only if your little bundle of joy allows it to be.
Ever thought, what all baby gears would be required to keep him comfortable and cheerful?
Don’t be anxious!
We bring to you a list of items you must carry to make your excursion easier. So, if you are planning your first day-out with your newborn, start gathering these must-haves for your baby’s bag:
- Formula feed powder box and lukewarm water
- Sterilized bottles and nipples
- Breast pumps (if required)
- Washable bibs
- Sun hat
- Baby wipes
- Diaper rash cream
- Spare clothes, socks, and booties
- Disinfectant hand gel
- Baby wash, baby powder and baby lotion
- Car seat
- Collapsible stroller
- Baby’s medicine kit
- Baby Blankets
- Plastic bags (you might need them to keep soiled diapers or clothes)
- Extra Pacifiers (if required)
- Your baby’s toys
- Breastfeeding cover
Aren’t you surprised with the amount of stuff your little traveller requires?
Yes, we all are!
So before you forget anything, start packing all of these a few days before your day-out to avoid the last minute hassle.
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It is, indeed!
These pearly whites not only add to your baby’s charming smile but to your exuberance too! Being a young and new mommy you surely find yourself unaware of when to begin with oral care for your baby or how to go about cleaning his teeth. It is likely, that you probably are a little scared of hurting your bundle of joy while trying to render him the best oral care.
So if you ask when to start your baby’s oral care, the answer is – even before the baby sports his first tooth.
Yes! It is a healthy habit to wipe your baby’s gums with a soft wet washcloth every day during bath time or before sleep time. Making your baby accustomed to this daily routine of mouth-cleaning helps make it easier for him to transition into toothbrushing later.
Therefore, we list here a few tips to help you ensure healthy oral care for your baby:
- If you are not following a routine of cleaning your baby’s gums every day, it is strongly recommended that you start with his oral care the moment you notice him teething.
- Do not use brushes with bristles for your young one. Introduce a small and soft toothbrush designed especially for babies.
- Initially, use only water and toothbrush to clean your little one’s teeth. Continue this until your baby is 18-month-old.
- Start using toothpaste that has low-fluoride content once your baby is 18-months-old. Take very small amount of baby-friendly toothpaste to clean his teeth.
- Change your baby’s toothbrush every 2 months. It will also add to his enthusiasm to brush with a colourful new brush.
- Wondering how often you should brush your baby’s pearly whites? If you have started feeding him solids then it is recommended that you brush his teeth at least twice a day.
Ways to brush your baby’s teeth:
- Hold or place your baby such that you can see his mouth clearly and he feels comfortable.
- Hold your baby’s chin in your hand and rest his head against something.
- Clean his teeth in a soft and circular motion.
- Lift his lip gently to brush the front and the back of the teeth, and the gum line.
We hope these suggestions help you take best oral care of your baby. Moreover, make your baby’s brushing time a fun, and help him form a healthy habit of brushing teeth twice daily.
Kshitija Shevade, Preitz Kory Patil and Prabha Peri